u/Worldly-Letter-5203

Hi, I’m hoping to get some advice from providers on how to communicate my needs clearly and respectfully before booking.

I’m a straight guy, but PIV is not something I enjoy or want in a session. I’m looking for oral(either way), hand stimulation, Russian, etc only. I want to be upfront about this before we meet so there’s no awkwardness or disappointment on either side.

My concern is that being too direct might sound like a cop or make her uncomfortable. What’s the best way to phrase this when I reach out to a provider? And when is it best to address this? ​Any language that feels safe and clear from your side?

Thanks in advance — I really want to get this right.

Hi, I’m hoping to get some advice from providers on how to communicate my needs clearly and respectfully before booking.

I’m a straight guy, but PIV is not something I enjoy or want in a session. I’m looking for oral(either way) manual, and body-based play only. I want to be upfront about this before we meet so there’s no awkwardness or disappointment on either side.

My concern is that being too direct might sound like a cop or make her uncomfortable. What’s the best way to phrase this when I reach out to a provider? And when is it best to address this? ​Any language that feels safe and clear from your side?

Thanks in advance — I really want to get this right.