r/AskAnEscort

BACKSTORY:

I saw this provider who’s based in my city. I found her on a duo/friends list of a different provider who’s been in the business for a while. The provider I wanted to see seemed legit (tryst, bluesky, IG, OF etc.). I reached out and got the deposit and screening completed via booking form on her site.

I was told in advance that the incall was in a certain area of the city and the exact location will be given the morning of (totally fair, similar to other providers protocol).

The morning of I was told to park down the street and meet her at the corner of two roads in a neighborhood at our specified time. This spooked me a bit so I cancelled but I did send her the cancellation fee to be in good standing for a potential future appointment.

MY QUESTION:

Is this normal to meet a client on a street corner if the incall is in the middle of a neighborhood?

Thought this would be the best place to ask before I possibly reach out again.

So I’m looking to find my first provider. It’s a learning curve which I appreciate for safety, but is me being disabled affecting my search or is patience and learning how to communicate in this world still part of my learning curve? What’s going through your head when a disabled client is reaching out to you?

For context I was born disabled. Today I wear leg braces and walk with a cane. Can’t drive so I must uber to a future rendezvous. How do I bring that up? When?

My first message usually goes “I’m so and so from blank. I’m a certain age, I’m sorta hefty, and I’m disabled so will need to uber in if that’s ok. Saw your ad on blank, would enjoy your company on blank day and time. Pleasantries.”

Am I info dumping? I just want to make sure I’m doing things right and maybe I’m just overthinking lol

Any help or advice or genuine interactions are appreciated.

I'm just wondering if any escorts actually fall in love with their clients?

I met an escort girl since a year and half. Initially I was taking only service from her then after 2 to 3 times of our meet, I am not into sex with her but spend times together at my place, feed her food as she normally loves what I cooked and pay her as per the hours she stayed with me. After few months, I left the city and we are still in touch via phone calls and chat.
Over a course of time, we became more closer and she used to ask me for financial help. I keep helping her but now she expressed about not liking her job and informed me that she has stopped working. She asked me to buy stuff for her, accessories, food, parties and many others. I keep doing what she asked but I am not sure if this is love?

Have you ever had a new client and reached out to them? Like sent them a message or tried giving them a call? Of your own free will?

Im wanting to how A.I. has affected the industry. alot of people are starting to ignore content made with it and since it seems (to me) the consumers are turning away from a.i. was there any worry of escort service's becoming less favorable? I personally never thought so but you never know.

Former dancer here. One thing I feel like nobody talks honestly about is the actual social dynamic during escort interactions.
I’m less curious about the business side and more curious about what sessions ACTUALLY feel like socially/interpersonally once someone arrives.
Do interactions usually feel:
awkward at first?

transactional?

conversational?

emotionally detached?

more like a fake “girlfriend experience”?

I genuinely feel like I’d overthink things like:
transitioning from talking to intimacy naturally

handling personal questions/boundaries

avoiding awkwardness

staying personable without oversharing emotionally

Would really appreciate hearing how experienced providers mentally/socially navigate those interactions because online discussions either feel glamorized or super vague.

I haven't seen an escort before, but I know obviously I would have to screen and give them some of my info and whatnot beforehand, so obviously if I ever do decide to see an escort, they will probably know where I live; that's fine, I get that. Now obviously, an escort can just say no to an appointment for any reason, so what I'm wondering is, is it common for an escort to deny an appointment because the client lives too far away? I know you all always have to deal with the risk of someone cancelling and whatnot, and obviously if the client is further away it makes that even more likely.

Reason I'm asking, I haven't seen an escort before, and I'm a virgin and have considered it here and there. I also live in an area without very many escorts, so since I'll have to travel anyways, I'm letting myself be a bit more picky and looking at further places. There's a couple people I'm considering asking for an appointment, that are around 10 hours away from where I live, so I would probably just have to get a hotel in the area the day before the appointment if I did that, but I'm just wondering if an escort would even accept an appointment with someone that far out to begin with? I know I could probably just go ahead and text and ask, but I know people usually don't like when people text before they actually make a decision and waste their time, so I wanted to just see what the general consensus is here so I don't bother anyone needlessly.

Sorry if this is worded poorly, I'm bad at articulating things! I hope I got the question across without making it impossible to read.

Hi, I’m seeing a provider for the first time and I’m curious what I should where. I know that it’s not a big deal probably,I wanna look nice and look good for the person. I plan on showering and what not before I go and when I get there so I look presentable at the door and what not. But I just am trying to build up my own confidence a bit around people and would like to impress the person for me? If that makes sense? I don’t know if just a pair of dress pants, doc martens and a Hawaiian polo is ok? That’s all I really have that's on the nicer end so I’d go buy a shirt if it should be nicer.

(I also know not to where like cologne! Been told that by a friend a long time ago when they were telling me of their adventures.)

Also is it weird if I keep on a small friendship bracelet? I have a promise with a friend I’d only take it off for sleep and showering situations. It's kinda important to me.

I’m not in a typical casino city. How can I tell if there is an escort I can approach? Say for example a casino in the Sacramento area? I’m also very shy so I don’t want to embarrass myself.

How does a new client select an escort if he is seeking something regular? Can a client ask for MSOG, dirty talking, and hair pulling in a professional way? If a client knows he can get there in less than a minute and he wants more before the session starts how do you communicate that?

So I have balanitis basically I shoulda been circumcised but wasn't, had a bunch of problems because of it and it's slowly turning the head of my penis white.

I should mention this before I turn up right?

I suppose there's a first time for everything. I had a client drive all the way to my incall location, park, walk to my door, and then turn around and leave before I could let him in. Never heard from the guy again. I'm thinking he must've gotten cold feet? I've been escorting for less than a year, so I'm not sure if this is something that just happens. I'm worried about maybe a bad review as I know I don't have a lot of reviews as it is.

Edit for clarification: I saw him out the window leaving his car, but I don't believe he saw me. He texted me asking me to go to the door, I texted back I was at the door but didn't see him. I'm guessing he just drove away after that. It was bizarre.

I have an overnight bondage booking with one of my regulars. When I met him he asked about bondage and I told him I'd consider it for a regular and we agreed to do an overnight bondage this weekend. I don't know what to expect other than what I've seen in porn and tv. Does anyone do bondage? Can anyone tell me what to expect? Btw, the client is trustworthy, so I don't have any specific fear about him.

I’ve been thinking about hiring an escort, but what I’m looking for isn’t really just sex. More than anything, I want someone to hold me, talk to me gently, and make me feel loved for once in my life. I know those feelings won’t be real, but right now that kind of comfort would mean a lot to me. I guess what I’m asking is whether that’s a reasonable request, or if these arrangements are usually expected to be purely physical.

Situation is a bit confusing. My wife and I have been seeing this woman for the last year every three or four months. We’re both really happy with the arrangement. She recently canceled for the first time. Stating that she was called out of town. She expressed regret that she had to cancel stating that she missed us and wanted to find another time. Two days later, we replied. Stating that was no problem and gave her Some alternative times. It’s been six days four business days. We have not heard back from her. This is unusual for her to take this long to reply. Should we just move on? Wait. A little longer.? Reply again? I do know that she is going to be moving soon. And she also had a parent that died in December. Entirely possible that it was a family emergency. I can also see that she has not been active recently. She is independent . There doesn’t seem to be any universal protocols for this type of situation. Any thoughts?

I am fairly new and have been with a high end escort a few times over the last 3 months. We really like each other and it’s been fabulous. The last couple of times it’s been at her home. It felt weird initially but it does have its perks. Is this something unusual or weird. She said that she really trusts me.

On a related note, I will be traveling to another town for work, and I would like to ask her to give some references for an escort in this new town. Is that something which is frowned on or ok. I don’t want to mess this up. She is amazing.

Do escorts ever say theyre independent but they actually do have "folks"? Or can you usually take them on their word for it? I just have a deep disdain for pimps and dont want my money going to one

I really don’t keep numbers saved and had one escort ask for reference. I really don’t know how to provide one. Most ladies I’ve seen were from out the city on tour. How can I go about this. I really want to see this gorgeous lady soon. She’s stunning

I’ve finally found someone whose company I genuinely enjoy, someone who’s warm, respectful, and easy to be around. Spending time with her and giving thoughtful gifts feels good to me. Is that normal? I want to keep things the way the arrangement is supposed to be thought of, consistent, ideally seeing just one person on a regular basis, but I also don’t want to give the impression that I’m developing romantic feelings. I just prefer a steady, familiar arrangement rather than meeting someone new every time. What’s the best way to go about this?