r/AskAnEscort

I’ve recently started working again after a hiatus and I’ve got a new client who, feels to me like he is hyper fixated on my happiness when we’re together, and wanting me to orgasm and cum (🙄)

Things like “we could do xyz or not, it’s whatever makes you happy”

“I want you to truly enjoy our time together and be happy with me”

He has acknowledged he knows this relationship is transactional, & I even spin my replies to be about how my him continuing to respect my time$$ and boundaries keeps me happy.

For example, we’re planning our next meet and I’m asking how much time he wants together and he’s like “how ever long it takes to make you cum 5 times” (😑)

My spidey sense is tingling that he’s trying to manipulate me into wanting to like him so he doesn’t have to pay… i say this because he did attempt to haggle me in the beginning but has since been paying me what I ask.

Am I trippin y’all or should I continue staying vigilant?

I'm 29M virgin. Never had a relationship with a girl. Never truly pursued it due to many issues such as insecurity about my body, extreme shyness with women etc.

Lately I was thinking of going with a provider. This is bcs I'm partly curious and interested, partly wanting to overcome my insecurities and nervousness.

Whould a provider help me? I was thinking to go easy and ask first for non-sexual acts such as kissing.

I know that a cash tip is much more preferred, and I always give a 20% tip (no matter what). I'd like to try and stand out as a nice, respectful client and therefore try to give a small thoughtful gift. The small handful of providers I have seen in the past always had something mentioned on their website or social media something they liked. However, I am seeing someone in a couple weeks that has nothing mentioned at all. My best guess would be a giftcard, but that seems really lame.

Any suggestions? Or should I just stick with the tip and leave it since I would be largely grasping at straws.

Found an escort in my city that does BDSM type stuff so I messaged her. Told her what I wanted and we agreed and set a meet-up time. I'm excited for it but also nervous. What if she's bad at doing the stuff I want? I told her I wanted a rapid lubed handjob and to have her use some toys on me. She agreed but what if she sucks at it? Like what's the protocol? Im sure it will be great but if it does turn out to be awful can I just run away? Being serious.

I really seek escorts out of comfort and loneliness. my past experiences have been okay, but i recently met with this most kind and sweet woman. She seemed to know what i wanted way better than i did. We layed in bed and she wrapped her arms and leg around me holding me really tight, while saying comforting words and occasionally offering her boob for me to suck while petting my head. I dont remember the last time i felt that happy and comforted, she was so amazing.

Unfortunately she is a touring escort, and only visits here once or twice a year, ill definetly visit her again when she comes, but id like to experience that again sooner too. How should i word that kind of experience wish to a new provider over text? Again i dont want sex, just that. Thank you :)

Is it okay to ask a provider if they have any enhancements such as breast enlargement before booking? I have a strong preference for “all natural” and it’s hard to tell sometimes from websites and ads.

Like if you are booked for say 30 min. Do you leave after the client is finished or do you have to stay for the full 30 minutes?

I had booked an escort, late 30s I lasted for a very small amount of time. I assumed she would leave cause I finished and paid her but she stayed and let me play with her tits.but idk why I just cuddled with her while she caressed my hair for the remaining time. She was my first escort I slept with and iv just been visiting her only. Is it normal?

Hi, I’m hoping to get some advice from providers on how to communicate my needs clearly and respectfully before booking.

I’m a straight guy, but PIV is not something I enjoy or want in a session. I’m looking for oral(either way), hand stimulation, Russian, etc only. I want to be upfront about this before we meet so there’s no awkwardness or disappointment on either side.

My concern is that being too direct might sound like a cop or make her uncomfortable. What’s the best way to phrase this when I reach out to a provider? And when is it best to address this? ​Any language that feels safe and clear from your side?

Thanks in advance — I really want to get this right.

I have traditionally not kept a separate phone or number for my sessions, but I think I should at this point. Let’s not get too carried away with the “why”.

I am willing to provide, where required, my real number but ONLY for verification purposes.

The second line/number would be strictly for communication purposes.

From an escorts point of view, what are your thought?

BTW - I have never failed a screening or had any issues before, during, or after any sessions.

I recently did a podcast with a former escort I used to see )don't ask what it is because I'm not going to say). During the conversation, I mentioned that I always thought we got along well. I wasn't saying she liked me romantically, just that I thought she liked me as a person.

She surprised me by saying she didn't. She explained that being warm, friendly, and engaging was just part of the job, and that most sex workers don't actually like their clients on a personal level.

It honestly caught me off guard because I'd interpreted our interactions differently.

Is that generally true? Even if a client is respectful and a regular, do most escorts still not actually like them as people? Or was she just speaking from her own experience?

For the record some of the reasons she gave was:

• I could be a bit arrogant and acted like I knew more than I did.
• I asked too many personal questions and it felt like I was trying to get to know the real her instead of respecting that she was at work.
• Our personalities just didn't click. She found me boring and our conversations felt like work.

Also to be clear, I asked her to be super honest in the interview.

I've seen ~10 providers but have never been asked to freshen up and shower before the activities began and I suspect I will someday be asked based on how frequently I hear its a staple of encounters. How do the clients usually exit the bathroom after showering? Do they just walk out naked, put their underwear (and/or undershirt) back on, or re-dress fully? It feels weird to walk out with Mr. Peeps on full display, like I'm skipping consent of the companion to bare it all.

Curious what providers expect or most often have their clients do.

Que tan importante es para la proveedora la selección que nosotros hacemos del hotel y de la suite.?

Pregunto si el hotel y la suite son seguros y limpios basta o ustedes tienen otros puntos a tomar en cuenta.?

So on Thursday I arranged for a 1hr session with an escort for 7:00 PM on Sunday. Just to make sure I brought enough cash, I politely asked if it was $250 like the ad said. Didn’t get a response, so this morning I politely asked again. I then got a pretty negative response and message seemingly indicating she doesn’t want to see me. The text messages verbatim can be seen below:

(Thursday)
Escort: Yes see you 7 pm
Me: And just to make sure it's $250
correct?
(This morning)
Me: Hi again. It's [My name]. Just wanted to
double check, but it's $250 correct?
Escort: Hey stop you liar
Escort: No see you you no respect Tinson you real client
Me: I'm deeply sorry, but what exactly did I do that was wrong?

So what exactly did I possibly do that was wrong and warranted such a response?

Something kind of weird happened tonight. I was with a girl Ive been seeing regularly tonight. We get along really well and she definitely enjoys our time together.

Tonight while she was on top of me, she leaned in and kissed me on the lips several times. She'd never done that and we'd never discussed it before. Im not sure what to make of it now.

After that she didnt kiss me anymore and not to say goodnight either, so Im to assume it was an accident of some sort? Im not sure if I should keep booking I think id feel a bit...awkward if she regretted it

My ATF recently mentioned that she had dated a few clients before in the past and that she was happy to have had them. While I’m glad she felt comfortable enough to tell me, I also found myself wondering if its a good idea for her to be sharing this information? I know its not a big deal, I just thought, wouldn’t this give clients ideas that they might have the chance especially since she didn’t express any regret at the relationships HAHAHA. I suppose it could be some client retention strategy as her GFE reviews seem to be the highest rated in the area.

Edit: Included context that she said that she was happy to have had the relationships.

I have a client that I see once a month for two hours. He is a foot guy. I agreed to let him have a $50 discount because he buys shoes every month “for me” even though they are clearly not for me.

The issue is, he will not stop texting me. From the minute I get up until I go to sleep every single day. Probably 30 or more texts a day. Then, he gets upset when I dont respond in his timeline.

I have explained that I have run a housekeeping business so I can’t respond much and when i am with my clients… any of them… they get the same treatment he gets and I put the phone up when with them.

He is really nice and the money is great considering I lay there pretending Im not there so he can do foot worship, I kick him in the nether region once or twice in my new shoes and leave but the excessive texting makes it not worth it to me.

Should i charge per text? Then maybe he will be more aware of the amount of texting he is doing?
Do you charge?
If so, how much?
If not, what do you do to get clients you want to keep as a client to stop texting you constantly besides what I have already done?

Thanks

Is it bad to try to book a provider day for next week? Especially if I say Happy Fourth of July and it’s no rush to respond?

I'm sorry I don't even know how to frame this question or where to start as it's such a weird one. So a bit of context. I used to book escorts somewhat frequently when I was living in a big city and had a job making pretty decent money. This was back in late 2020s to 2022. This is the time during which I started meeting escorts and continued for roughly 2 years with a decent frequency.

Anyway I left my job to move to my hometown, which is a very small town, to start a business. Without sharing too much detail, my business requires me to be there physically all the time. That's just the nature of business coupled with the fact that since it's a new business it requires a lot of time. It's growing but well it's a business so it is gonna take time. I'm assuming that it'd easily take 7-8 good years for my business to be successful enough to a point where I can sort of have the luxury to travel and stuff and not be physically present all the time.

Problem is since my business constantly requires to be present and it's a small town I rarely get a chance to go to a big city. This is bad to the point where after 2022 till now I have barely booked escorts 3 times so like 3 times in 4 years. And I feel this is gonna last for 7-8 years and by that time I'd be 40. Coming to the main problem which is the cause of my fear. I'm scared that by the time I'm 40 my sexual drive would have dropped dramatically and I would probably not even enjoy sex as much or even if I do I'd probably not have the urge to have sex as frequently as I do now. It's like losing a few good years that I have left when I actually still have a lot of urge to have sex(it was even more when I was in my early to mid 20s for obvious reason).

It just makes me question is this all worth it? I genuinely enjoy having sex and my time with escorts. Meeting different beautiful escorts and just purely having sex and everything. I have always loved it and never got bored of it.

Anyway I'd appreciate if you all can share their insights on this. Do men in their 40s even have sexual urges like they have in their 20s and 30s? Again apology for such a long post this has been bothering me for months and I don't know who to talk to about this.

My husband and I have done screening and an in-person consultation with a female escort and we are excited to see her!

We talked a bit about protection and precautions and limits, and I asked about condom use. She said she uses standard male condoms.

My husband will most likely also do FS with her too, and I was wondering if having her use a female condom would make more sense so he could go back and forth between us without having to remove and reapply a condom. My husband and I don’t use condoms with each other.

I didn’t realize how difficult female condoms were to obtain (and they are only available through insurance and Medicaid doesn’t cover them, so they have to be prescribed in limited amounts through private insurance or obtained through a public health clinic). I was able to get them through a public health clinic, so I’d be able to bring them.

Is it a faux pas to bring it up? And is it considered sketchy to provide the barriers since the control is taken from her?

I couldn’t find a post for this so apologies if it has been asked before and it’s maybe a silly question but does it matter much what the client wears to the meeting? Usually I have dressed smarter in jeans etc but this is my first time going in the summer and it will be a bit hotter, would it matter if I wore shorts instead? I know it probably doesn’t really matter as the clothing won’t be on long but I like to make an effort but I also don’t want to turn up overly sweaty