As a client, if I don't see reviews I just pass. Not worth finding out if the photos are real or if the provider's not that great etc., or if it's just a bot. It seems like some girls post for years and still can't find reviews. So for those that don't have reviews, how to you get clients?
thanks for any input
Scheduling to meet a new provider. I’ve been accustomed to scheduling hotel room rendezvous meetings. I’m considering asking about a first meeting at the hotel bar for a dinner/dessert then heading to the room. I think it would help to break the ice and mitigate any of that first time awkwardness when meeting.
What are the thoughts on this as a first meeting? Is expecting public time for a first meeting not reasonable? I will obviously ask her preference, but wanted to see what others thought. Thank you!
Like he’ll be sucking instead of using tongue or something. How do you in your experience lead or force him to do it right lol or how do you do it right to him if he’s already so committed to doing it in a way that’s fucked.
I’m looking for some perspective from escorts because I’ve gotten myself into a situation I never expected.
I hired an escort for the first time a little over a month ago. I wasn’t looking for a relationship at all, but we clicked way harder than I expected. Since then we’ve spent about five weekends together and a a bit of time during the week with her and a lot of it hasn’t felt remotely like a normal appointment.
We’ve gone bowling, gone out with her friends, danced, gotten massages, taken my dog to the park, slept/cuddled together, studied for her GED, gone out to eat, and just spent entire days doing basically nothing together. She’s invited me around her kids and talked about doing things with all of us. She reaches out on her own sometimes, tells me she really likes me, says she’s glad she met me, and has specifically told me I’m “not just another client.”
Oddly enough, there hasn’t even been much sex. Most of what made me attached was just the normal companionship.
The confusing part is that 70% of the time still eventually asks me for money before i leave. Sometimes we can spend a day or two together where nothing feels transactional whatsoever, then before I leave she’ll ask to be paid.
She also has another guy in her personal life that she seems emotionally invested in, and from what I can tell she wants more from him than he gives her. So I’m trying not to fool myself into thinking I’m occupying a place in her life that I’m actually not.
I’ve gotten way more attached than I should have before having a direct conversation about any of this. I like her as a person and would genuinely be interested in dating her. Her work itself isn’t the issue for me right now. What I can’t continue doing is paying for access to someone I’ve developed real feelings for. I’m perfectly happy paying for dates, taking her places, treating her, etc. I just don’t want to pay her for her time if we’re supposedly developing something personal.
I know the obvious answer is that I need to talk to her directly. I feel like a fool letting it go on this long and not hashing out things. And yes, i'm aware she could just be playing me for money and thinking of our time as a paid break from having to see multiple people on the weekend to earn what im giving. I’m mostly curious how this looks from the provider side because from mine it has been one of the most confusing situations I’ve ever been in.
So for escorts who’ve dealt with this:
I reached out to an escort through her booking form and provided all the needed screening info and provided 2 references per her request.
She emailed me back thanking me for reaching out but asked if I got permission from my references first. These references have said in the past they are cool being a reference and I did see them within this past month but I didn’t ask about being references when I saw them recently.
I let this escort know that they have said it was okay before but I didn’t give them a heads up yet that she would be reaching out so I asked if I could give them a heads up first.
This was yesterday and I gave both escorts a heads up that she would be reaching out but she hasn’t replied back yet saying it was okay to let her know when it’s fine to reach out to them.
Should I email her back letting her know they have the heads up and she can reach out? I’ve never been asked that question before and it threw me off. What should I do?
I always knew my real life and escort life would eventually cross paths. I just genuinely did not think it would happen this fucking fast.
Within the last 24 hours, my hometown suddenly showed up heavily in my profile analytics when it hadn’t been there before, and the Instagram I made for my provider persona started suggesting people from my real life—including my kid’s stepmom. I deleted the Instagram, but at this point I’m pretty sure somebody connected the dots.
I don’t even know what the point of this post is. Partly venting, partly asking what other providers did when this happened. I knew being recognized was a risk I was willing to accept, and I’m not ashamed of what I do. It’s the loss of control over who knows, when they know, and how far it spreads that is freaking me out.
For anyone who has had their escort identity connected to their real one: what happened next? Did you eventually just come out and tell your close relatives, or did they ask you directly? Did people mostly lurk and gossip and eventually get bored, or did it actually escalate? Did you change anything about how you advertised or handled social media, or did you just keep moving forward like normal?
Guess I’m just confused. Timer didn’t finish. Was I doing something wrong?
During our time, she just randomly asked if I was finished yet. I replied, almost. It was very awkward. She said it as if she wanted me to stop and leave.
Other than that, everything else was normal for the session. She even gave me her personal number and invited me back.
I’m not understanding this conversation, maybe someone could provide their thoughts. I haven’t been back because of the awkward situation.
If I were to invite an escort to an event, I'd expect to pay for their time, of course. I wouldn't be so bold as to expect to discount the entire value of the ticket. But if the ticket is $1k+, that's not nothing. They may not be interested at all in the event and wouldn't pay even a dollar to attend, so that's one end of the spectrum, or they may absolutely love it and would have paid the entire amount themselves if it weren't sold out - that's the other end of the spectrum. Realistically or on average, how are such things handled?
I'm from Philly and planning on taking a trip to Portugal in October, I really want to tale someone with me. Before I dive into this, I wanted to ask you guys do people go on trips with their sponcers?
Is it normal for an escort to call you or text you like every day , to talk about every day life ?
After setting a date up a few weeks in advance, and it now being a few evenings away, when should I confirm the details with the provider? I want to respect her time but also want to touch base to confirm and find out when and where. Also, what is an appropriate cash tip? Thx!
My dad died last year, and after selling his house, I decided to earmark $50,000 to do a 6 month long working holiday in another country in October. But recently I’ve had my heart broken, and I’m starting to wonder if I even care about going over seas, or if I was just using that idea in the hope that travel would make me more attractive to a partner, and if I’d really hate going overseas if I went. Maybe what I really want is someone to make me feel loved, and if paying for that feeling would be less of a waste of money.
So I guess I’m just wondering; if you had a client offer $2k paid weekly for six months, what would you offer in terms of a GFE? I’m assuming exclusivity wouldn’t be on the table for most.
Edit: I forgot to mention this was in AUD, which would equal about $1400/week (or 35,000 total) in USD.
I recently found a new escort and I am eager to meet her. Since I really like this person, I am more than willing to make a good first impact. Would a gift as proper flowers, good wine, or similar be adequate or just weird? I talked about it with my friends: some say it could be a nice touch as a nice addendum (although money remain ALWAYS imperative); others said it may feel like I want to take advantage of kindness to cut the payment; others just said it’s weird.
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I am asking because a high end provider that I went to see advertised a rate of $500, but when I actually contacted her and asked about her rates, the rate I was quoted was noticeably lower than what I had seen advertised.
I honestly wasn't expecting that, so I'm curious, is this something that happens occasionally? Do providers sometimes quote a different rate when communicating with a potential client, whether because of a temporary change in rates, a slower period, a promotion, or some other reason?
How common is it for the rates you usually offer, to differ from the rate shown in your ad?
I was just surprised by the difference because I had assumed the advertised rate was what I should expect to pay, so I wanted to understand how providers generally handle situations like this.
Hi all, I have pretty extreme issue with premature ejaculation that have put any form of penetrative sex out of the question. Not only that, but I’ve had issues in the past with even handjobs or blowjobs not lasting or being enjoyable due to PE. Even simply making out and feeling pressure on my penis has made me cum.
I’ve done some research and have discovered that over-the-counter delay sprays have led to positive results in helping men last longer in bed. I am really interested in trying this remedy but don’t have a partner to experiment with. Is this something I could ask a provider that I can use during a session?
For context: the spray would be applied prior to sex and can of course have a condom placed on after it is applied. The spray would never come into contact with the provider if used. From what I’ve read it also doesn’t last extremely long (not trying to just have sex for 4 hours straight and never cum). I mainly want to use it for a CBJ that would actually last longer than 20 seconds. It generally helps intimacy last about 5-15 minutes longer.
well i just left my first time with an “escort” but it didn’t live up to my expectations. i found her through eros and messaged her as well as 7-8 other companions. she responded quite casually and came off as authentic. we verified with face time and i set a date and time plus sent the deposit. ive been excited all week for this. today is my birthday so i thought it would be special.
she looked like her picture and was pretty hot. i got there about 2-3 min late because the lyft driver got lost. she was waiting outside the building and welcomed me as i stepped out of the car. i greeted her and handed her an envelope and some flowers in a gift bag, with some condoms as well.
we went in to the apartment and i told her it was my birthday. she brought out her sister and said she could join for an extra $500. i said no, maybe another time. we got comfortable, had some drinks and put on some music.
after some talking, i got undressed and laid down for a massage (since thats one of the services she promoted). she got started and did a pretty decent job, nothing amazing but just alright. i booked for 1.5hrs and around the 1hr mark, she began asking if i wanted a bj or hj. i said bj, and she put one of the condoms on me. she did her thing but i wasn’t able to climax for some time. she tried everything but i wasn’t busting, just stayed hard. i expected that we would go further and do more than just bj and hj. she got a little frustrated and just told me to jack off while she played with herself using some toys. halfway through, the condom broke and she got me another one. after some time, she came and i didnt. but i still hadn’t stopped and close to the time limit, i finally finished after she twerked for a little bit in front of me. i basically paid $800 to jack off in a condom.
i dunno, i kinda left feeling a bit disappointed. i mean we discussed “additional services“ but i don’t think i got my moneys worth. i don’t blame her though, she did her best in the time being; let me feel her, touch her nude, etc. did i do something wrong? are all companions like this? she was polite and respectful, she kinda knew i was new to this and made me feel at ease. i just feel like for all my preparation and excitement, i was let down.
tl;dr - my birthday. booked escort. massage + extra services, 1.5hr. mid massage. anti-climactic hj/bj/masturbation. finished after she twerked for me. felt disappointed after. left on time, had a polite and respectful experience, but dont think i will go again.
honestly, i just needed to get that off my chest.
what is a healthy way to process this? how should i thank her? how do i avoid similar situations in the future and know what i’m paying for? i didnt wanna be too explicit on text so i just assumed we would be doing more. anyone else go through a similar thing?
Not sure how far the GFE can be taken so just curious
There is a provider in my area that put she is a former stripper in her ad. I would love to ask if we could start our time in the room together off with a lap dance. Always had a fantasy of going to a strip club and then things escalate further in the private room or something, so I thought this could be one way to kind of fulfill that wish.
Is that an unreasonable request? Is it something I can ask during booking or just best to do in person after we meet? Thanks!
I'm 19 years old I've never had sex before in my life so I just went to an escort for the first time and she's an independent worker. I wasn't able to last very long obviously but we talked about k pop (as we were both very into it) and she showed me her favourite band and song and she started dancing to it, although I booked for 30 minuites I was with her for an hour as she lost track of time. She then gave me her personal number (which is probably for returning clients) then I left. Then today I just went to visit her cause she left a good impression, it went the same as before (I didn't last very long) except today she had like 19 clients and was very tired as today she was booked to the brim. After we did the deed we just talked about just life stuff. She also vented to me a bit about her clients and showed me some weird and inconsiderate stuff some clients said to her in messages. We were just laughing and making fun of them. I was supposed to do multiple shots but I felt really bad and just told her to relax and we just talked and let her do her stuff, she had a client waiting for her but let me stay in for longer so she can relax and talk a bit. Then as I was leaving she said she's sorry for the hurry and that next time she'll give a 50% discount as "if I take care of her she'll take care of me". I don't think I'll do this escort stuff again tho but it was nice while it for the 2 times I did it.