u/anonymustotalus

My wife and I have been in couple for the past 18 years and are both 35 years old. She has never discovered her sexuality on her own and is from a caring family, but modest towards everything that is sexual.

Simpler to say we have sex frequently and we enjoy it, but she had never masturbated. We bought a wand to use on her and when figuring out the best settings, she just grabbed it because I was clumsy and gave herself 3 orgasms back to back while I was kissing her mouth and neck.

It was the first time she ever did something like that and she said she was so grateful to have bought this wand. She’s leaving for a short 2-3 days trip next week and even said she would bring it with her.

I’m really glad that she made that step and that I don’t feel threatened at all.

I just wanted to share it with other people!

Hi!

I started (35M) experimenting butt play with my long term partner (35F). So far, she has stimulated my prostate with her finger a couple of times and it felt good.

I want to buy a first anal toy for me, but I hesitate between a prostate massager or a butt plug. I’ve read about it on multiple sub, but have difficulty deciding considering theses factors:
- People tend to say PM feel better than a regular plug. I don’t intend on wearing it for a long period (only during intercourse).
- We thought about getting a kit with a vibrating plug and 2 non-vibrating plugs of different sizes (is it a good/bad idea to start with a vibrating one?). That would mean she could also try it.
- We had our mind on a silicone plug, but I’ve just read that it can keep the smell and also it’s not great with silicon based lube, but water based might dry quickly. Should I get a specifie type of lube (ie coconut oil?).

We are a bit unsure about all of this, so we are eager to get your opinions and advices on this.

Thanks!

My (35M) GF (35) isn’t in receiving anal sex at all. We have a strong relationship, trust each other and tried a lot of things at least once.

I never tried to convince her to try it, but she knows it’s a big fantasy. She said I could have a hall pass once or even contract an escort to try experiment anal sex on a woman.

Seems like a good idea, but is all this « trouble » worth it (knowing also it would be a one-time thing)? Any experiences and is it better with my partner present or not during?

Before answering, more details:
\- Yes we’ve had experimented threesomes and sex with others. We are comfortable with this we know it’s purely sexual.
\- We are always safe and get tested before/after having a date with an outsider

Thanks!

Last time my wife and I had a 2-3 days vacation, we ended up having tons of sex (we even surprised ourselves). We are a long-term couple that recently decided to spice our sex life after 15 vanilla years.

We have booked a nice house for a 4 night trip in 2 weeks. There’s no neighbours, a gigantic patio and with a jacuzzi and it’s on a cliff facing the sea.

My wife has responsive desire a told me she wanted me to plan this vacation beforehand like a « sex » trip (ex: list of rules or dares).

I’ve thought about proposing simple rules (ex: no clothes after or before XY hour) and maybe having us writing dares and desires on papers we could pick from a jar (ex: Cook the next meal in lingerie, perform oral on the spot, etc.).

Obviously, we have more sex than usual when on vacation, but could labelling it like a « sex » trip kill the spontaneous aspect of it? On the other hand, planning seems like a great way to be sure of having fun.

Any idea of dares and rules are also welcome!