u/asiancpl98x

Hi, I’m looking for a permanent cage for my uncut husband. He will be let out a few times a year for travel/sex, but will otherwise be wearing it 24/7, so we need to make sure it’s comfortable for long term wear.

We have seen reports of frenulum pain for some wearers, and the frenulum relief option doesn’t seem to help. For that reason, we are considering a geometric ring with wings on the bottom to take pressure off the frenulum, and no wings on top to have a snug fit against the top of the glans.

Does anyone else have this combination, and does it work for you? Has anyone had success with a different option? Thanks ❤️

My husband and I have been using the honor system for chastity since he can’t wear the ring or get piercings due to safety issues.

Does anyone have any recommendations for devices that aren’t necessarily 100% escape proof, but difficult to put back on without unlocking? This would still let me easily see whether he has kept the device on the whole time and keep him honest.

We are considering a ringless cage that works using a fitted ring below the head (google “ringless chastity cage”), but it seems like those might be too easy to slip out of by accident. Has anyone used these, and what was your experience?

Alternatively, are there any other “honor system” couples who can share tips on things they did to materialize the feeling of control without using a traditional ringed cage?

Thank you ❤️

The last time I had sex was the day after my wife came home from her first overnight stay with her boyfriend. After letting him go bare, she let me reclaim her using a condom. Afterwards, she took plan B, and we didn’t have any more sex while she recovered. This was over a month ago.

BF moved shortly after, so wife is on the market for a playmate again. In the meantime, I thought she’d be open for some intimacy. Last night, she was looking sexy in her pajamas, and neither of us had any sex for over a month, so I jumped in. I got on top of her and started deep kissing. She reached for a condom like she always does, but this time she pulled out a marker and signed her name on it.

When I reached out to grab it, she pulled it away and held it out of reach while she explained how things were going to work. She explained I could use the condom at any time, but she’s going to be in charge of how many I get. I can only use the ones signed by her—I can’t just buy my own. When I asked how many I’m going to get, she said not to expect very many.

So I asked her what happens if I save it, and she pulled out her favorite vibrator and got herself off while we made out. After that she excused me to the bathroom so I could do the same.

So now I technically get to have sex whenever I want, but I have to find the right time to use it!