u/bicibicibee

And you say:

“She tortures me, tortures me with her love... In the past it was only that infernal body of hers that tortured me, but now l've taken all her soul into my soul and through her l've become a man.” (Brothers Karamazov, Dostoyevsky)*

I am a cliche Austen reader, if you can’t tell (before the movie adaptations yes I will complain about the production quality, and script quality) looking for the person who’s going to not fill the void left by my marriage and past traumas, but be part of my void while I navigate life.

I want you to build me, while I build you, while we build ourselves, like the little voice of encouragement in your head that was probably absent in your growing up, or perhaps your home life today. I’m big on words of affirmation and encouragement, and know the pain of its absence when life gets blue.

Confidante, someone once said. And perhaps that is what I am looking for too, someone to confide in, confidently, so I can be a woman, and you a man, but perhaps whether we be eachothers in spirit, mind, heck body even, is a question for the universe.

I’ll try to not be so picky. But I do have a few conditions:

1. I don’t mind kids, but don’t expect me to understand off the bat the frustrations, but I’m willing to learn and hear you. Also I’m the chosen one with kids at parties. So I have a good grip I think (kudos to the childlike wonder that has not yet died in me!)
2. Please look after yourself. I’m particular and keep myself really well presented, thinking Dakota Johnson bangs and Monica Belluci face. Something like that.
3. Please be a conversationalist, intellectual and emotional intimacy is my kryptonite. I like reading. I have multiple hobbies but I am shy. I need to trust to open up. If you don’t have the patience, I am not your person - one too many times I have been referred to as a pocket rocket and I need a captain.
4. Long. Term. I’m not talking weeks, months. I want someone to be my forever-to-the-grave, I can love and I want to love, be loved. Unconditionally. Too much love, very little output. Imagine.
5. Ideally Australia, but I’m open to international waters because I am that impulsive for love to travel halfway across the world to meet my lover. Crazy? I prefer the term Crazy in love, drunk in love doesn’t sound right, it sounds once off drunken mistaken you know.

I want to experience a love that only you and I know about. Too many people these days seems to understand love, but they don’t understand to love is to hate, to trust is also to fear, because that is the art of passion of love, and loving. Dostoyevsky said many great things, a few of my favourites that resonate strongly and build up my core values of love:

1. Loving someone means seeing them as god intended them to be (agree)
2. "The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for”
3. Pain and suffering are always inevitable for a large intelligence and a deep heart.. (perfect segway to):

**I am a sucker for intelligence**, someone with emotional intelligence but also logic, that can sit down with me and be present, even in small moments of texting, pictures or perhaps we will meet one day. I am not sure. Not all outcomes are controllable right?

Please be willing to let me in, because making someone fall in love with you with no intention of playing this game the best we can is honestly? a really shitty move, and I wish you wet socks on grass for the rest of your life if you’re that guy.

I’ll tell you more about myself if you tell me more about yourself. Let’s start with.

What’s your favourite romantic movie/book (for my readers) couple, why? This question gives me a lot of insights, so think carefully.

And you say:

“She tortures me, tortures me with her love... In the past it was only that infernal body of hers that tortured me, but now l've taken all her soul into my soul and through her l've become a man.” (Brothers Karamazov, Dostoyevsky)

I am a cliche Austen reader, if you can’t tell (before the movie adaptations yes I will complain about the production quality, and script quality) looking for the person who’s going to not fill the void left by my marriage and past traumas, but be part of my void while I navigate life.

I want you to build me, while I build you, while we build ourselves, like the little voice of encouragement in your head that was probably absent in your growing up, or perhaps your home life today. I’m big on words of affirmation and encouragement, and know the pain of its absence when life gets blue.

Confidante, someone once said. And perhaps that is what I am looking for too, someone to confide in, confidently, so I can be a woman, and you a man, but perhaps whether we be eachothers in spirit, mind, heck body even, is a question for the universe.

I’ll try to not be so picky. But I do have a few conditions:

1. I don’t mind kids, but don’t expect me to understand off the bat the frustrations, but I’m willing to learn and hear you. Also I’m the chosen one with kids at parties. So I have a good grip I think (kudos to the childlike wonder that has not yet died in me!)
2. Please look after yourself. I’m particular and keep myself really well presented, thinking Dakota Johnson bangs and Monica Belluci face. Something like that.
3. Please be a conversationalist, intellectual and emotional intimacy is my kryptonite. I like reading. I have multiple hobbies but I am shy. I need to trust to open up. If you don’t have the patience, I am not your person - one too many times I have been referred to as a pocket rocket and I need a captain.
4. Long. Term. I’m not talking weeks, months. I want someone to be my forever-to-the-grave, I can love and I want to love, be loved. Unconditionally. Too much love, very little output. Imagine.
5. Ideally Australia, but I’m open to international waters because I am that impulsive for love to travel halfway across the world to meet my lover. Crazy? I prefer the term Crazy in love, drunk in love doesn’t sound right, it sounds once off drunken mistaken you know.

I want to experience a love that only you and I know about. Too many people these days seems to understand love, but they don’t understand to love is to hate, to trust is also to fear, because that is the art of passion of love, and loving. Dostoyevsky said many great things, a few of my favourites that resonate strongly and build up my core values of love:

1. Loving someone means seeing them as god intended them to be (agree)
2. "The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for”
3. Pain and suffering are always inevitable for a large intelligence and a deep heart.. (perfect segway to):

I am a sucker for intelligence, someone with emotional intelligence but also logic, that can sit down with me and be present, even in small moments of texting, pictures or perhaps we will meet one day. I am not sure. Not all outcomes are controllable right?

Please be willing to let me in, because making someone fall in love with you with no intention of playing this game the best we can is honestly? a really shitty move, and I wish you wet socks on grass for the rest of your life if you’re that guy.

I’ll tell you more about myself if you tell me more about yourself. Let’s start with.

What’s your favourite romantic movie/book (for my readers) couple, why? This question gives me a lot of insights, so think carefully.