u/clover__petals

Celebrating the 4th of July with jorts and a gay sex orgy. I’ve been looking forward to this for months and will (hopefully) have some fun stories for y’all later 🔥👖🔥

I love to be nurturing, to guide, and take control. I love to spoil and to punish.

I’m more in tune with my masculinity and be called mommy doesn’t suit me. I love being called Daddy.

I’ve never properly done anything Daddy/boy. For those who have - what does this look like for you? What do you want in a Daddy?

I want to start with saying I’m not really looking for advice just needing somewhere to unload. The situation is being dealt with in the community and he’s being taken care of (trans masc boy dyke.) I’ll call him Chip for ease.

if this is inappropriate mods please delete.

As the title says, one of my regular play partners was recently assaulted by someone I considered a friend and a pivotal part of the dyke community. I don’t know specifics, but I know there was a lot of boundary crossing that had been discussed more than once, to ultimately taking things too far in pain play beyond what was negotiated. There’s also a significant age gap between them and she regularly goes after younger people.

I met Chip through her. We did an intense gang bang scene with 3 tops and him at a play party. This was last November, I know they were regularly playing beforehand until recently.

Chip is an experienced sub and masochist with clear boundaries and kink knowledge. He’s a great scene partner and a good person all around.

It feels so strange and bad. I trusted her, I considered her a friend and she hurt someone I’m close to. She’s since left the community she helped build and organizes.

Tonight is a big event that I’ve been looking forward to for months. She’s always been there and isn’t anymore and I feel a sense of heaviness.

It serves as a stark reminder that anyone can be abusive, and that BDSM is very serious and can lead to physical, mental and emotional pain. Our community is small and intimate and to have a leader cause harm feels especially scary.

I plan to make Chip feel safe and have fun tonight and remind him that this is his community, he doesn’t need to hide. He did nothing wrong.

Just 😔 ugh.

Listen I know this is a my steak too juicy my lobster too buttery post but I’m really wanting to discuss avoiding burn out/over extending myself and letting people down gently.

I’m a trans masc Dom and fairly active in the queer kink community my city. I’m also polyamorous and pretty slutty. I’m fairly attractive and covered in tattoos. I have a domestic partner and a couple regular play partners. I go to play parties/orgies fairly regularly.

I’m a bit more rare as a lot (though not always accurate) of trans masc are assumed as subs and/or bottoms. There’s already a bit of a Dom shortage in the first place.

As a result of all this, I’m getting increasingly hit on more and solicitations from subs to play and/or hookup.

How do you manage this? I love the attention and I’m flattered whenever someone deems me as a safe potential partner, but I do not have the time or emotional capacity to entertain everyone. In the past, I’ve leaned into bad tendencies of people pleasing and burnt myself out quickly. I have the sense of wanting to provide and to please (I’m also a service top). I see approaching someone with submission as beautiful and vulnerable and I don’t enjoy letting someone down in this situation.

I’ve also had it happen in the past where I’ve had subs become more emotionally attached than myself. It’s easy for me to separate sex, kink and love into separate categories. I’m getting better at setting these expectations prior but could still use work on it.

Would love to hear from other’s experiences on this.

Just smiling at work while remembering last night ~

I had my mutt stripped to just a jock strap and bound their arms behind a wooden chair with leather cuffs. They were gagged with a dog bone shaped bit so they couldn’t speak or protest and I positioned them in front of the mirror to look at themselves during. Then I shaved their sideburns and razor cut their hair so it fell all over them and made them a mess. I cut it how I liked it so my mutt was well groomed and befit to kneel by my side🖤

I personally prefer mutt and sometimes stray to puppy because it feels more degrading hehe, anyone else?

Hi lovelies,

I wanted to report in that my first time topping needles was a success! My pin cushion was a great teacher and I caught on right away. My first needle was the perfect depth and I was proud.

I love activities that require me to hyper focus and act in sync with my bottom’s breathing. It makes me feel calm, mind quiet like it’s the only thing that matters.

Definitely adds to it that it’s beautiful, we made a cute circular cross like pattern. I slapped the skin with the needles a bunch, then I pulled them out meanly a flick of the wrist which caused some pretty bleeding.

Since we only did 4 needles, we also did wax play and my partner co-topped. We each had a candle - I had red and they had black.

We blind folded our boy dyke and painted him all pretty 🥰 we played with ice for the intense temperature change - at one point putting the cube in my mouth to drag it along the skin and nipples.

We played taunting games like - don’t break eye contact (blind fold off obvi) while I poured a long run of wax down his skin. He was squirming and yelping, eyes rolling back so he kept failing pretty bad - oh no! Also talking to each other and ignoring him, casually dropping wax when he least expected it.

Then we scraped off the wax with (dulled) knives which is nice and meditative.

Afterwords, he laid in my lap and I gave him a jaw, neck and chest massage.

Loved it.

What kinky stuff did you get up to this weekend?

Hi hi good morning,

This Sunday one of my regular subs is coming over for needle play. I have never done this and the plan is for them to teach me as they bottom for it. We will of course go very basic and not go for any designs or anything advanced. I’ve never been taught by a sub/bottom but they are a very confident pin cushion who occasionally tops for it too. We have a really trusting dynamic in general also and have been playing together for close to a year.

I have experience administering shots - my partner is on T and I give them almost weekly. I’ve also given myself a shot and one of my friends. I know it’s not the same exactly but I am comfortable with needles have a steady hand. I’m also a bit of a sadist and precise styles like this are intriguing to me. I find blood so sexy and like the artistry of needles.

Other than the basics such as gloves, alcohol wipes and communication - is there anything else you recommend in this situation? I’m especially curious if anyone has experience learning from a sub/bottom in an active/potentially dangerous activity.

In sapphic relations - does receiving head make you a top or a bottom?

I personally consider it a bottoming activity, with the one giving head as the top. Receiving head is generally more passive imo compared to the active role of eating a girl out/sucking her off.

I’ve seen others disagree with me, so I’m just curious on the general consensus. In gay man culture, to my understanding, this is reversed (top is the one receiving head, bottom gives.)

I’m specifically talking about top and bottom, not D/s as that changes things entirely.

Edit: thanks for all the fun insights 🥳 I definitely agree this is a nuanced topic, and top and bottom doesn’t apply well to sapphic sex. Head can be more of a top or bottom activity depending on the specifics. Re-emphasizing - I’m discussing top/bottom dynamics NOT D/s because that’s a whole other topic.

I’ve had a crazy busy couple days at work and I’m so sleepy. My partner offered to make steak tonight and I wanna play tomodachi life. It’s cold and rainy outside.

But it’s Bootblack night ran by the local leather dykes that always becomes a crushing event. There’s a cutie I’ve played with a couple times who messaged me to ask when I’m coming. He (trans masc dyke) wants me to step on him and bring my strap on for my boot for him to ride. I also just got some sexy new leather chaps….

🫣 I know this is so my steak too juicy my lobster too buttery but please help me get the motivation to get hot in leather and go out tonight.

A good friend of mine is hosting a rather elaborate house party at the end of this month. The same friend who hosted the orgy I attended and posted about in March. It’ll be an incredible party for sure with lots of artistic, hot, queer and kinky people.

They said it’s not a play party, but a *playful* party.

They messaged me and asked if I would want to run an impact station. Basically, bring a variety of toys and use them on people like a taster or for fun.

I was honestly so flattered!!

But I declined because I don’t feel advanced enough to teach. I have imposter syndrome at
times and I’ve only been active in the scene going on 2 years or so (hard to quantify haha.)

I’m curious if any other dommes have experience with this type of thing - like when did you feel ready to level up? Is any one here pro? Does imposter syndrome ever go away?