u/craftyexplorer9

Hi all,

OG POST

I wrote a therapeutic diary entry of sorts the other day that got some mild attention and we had quite a weekend so I figured I would share some updates.

Last week, I shared my post with my husband after we talked about some of these desires. As a recap, we’ve been ENM for the entirety of our relationship with varying levels of open and solo exploration depending on how our lives were changing at the time. I’m currently medically compromised in a way that suppresses his desire for me and takes solo play for me really off the table. But his sex drive and my sex drive are decently high at this time we just can’t satisfy each other solo as much as we like to usually. I’ve been exploring this community as a way to satisfy both our sex drives, build up our bond sexually during this temporary phase, and for me to feel better about his solo play.0

Onto updates since last week:

Because I’ve had mixed emotional reactions to his solo play, mostly on the negative end of the spectrum from jealousy to resentment, he had taken a pause on pursuing other women.

After sharing the post we had a really fun, deep, connected talk about how I can feel better about his solo dates. Basically, we had come to the conclusion that as included as I could be would be optimal for me including:
✨prefer for me to be physically present and actively participating in the play. If she’s no comfortable with me touching her then strictly FMF play.
✨videos of their play that we can watch together when he comes home
✨telling me a play by play of the play.

Again- I’m into a reverse cuck dynamic lol so I prefer degradation to be directed at the cake if any were to take place.

After our talk, my husband had a date invite with a semi-recurrent play date. Obviously, compared to their vanilla playtime, these requests were quite an escalation. She actually was quite receptive to most of them, but needed more time to digest them which is totally fair. She actually was into him degrading her in comparison to me, which he was excited about! And he proceeded to degrade her a bit from what he told me.

I was upset that night as he had platonic plans immediately following his playdate and we had no time to reconnect so I was just up late, horny, alone while the kids slept and he was out with friends. I definitely blew up at him a bit when he got home, but apologized and explained we needed to set aside some reconnection time intentionally after play dates so I can feel included and have my needs met too.

Part 2 update coming soon as the next night we went to a play party together… 😘

New to this community and kink so apologies if I’m actually mis identifying as a cuckqueen etc.

Quick intro, we’re ENM have been for many years. I’m not active right now for medical reasons but he is more active because we can’t fully satisfy him at home like he’s used to because of aforementioned medical issues.

To but it bluntly— my husband is a catch. Attractive, sensitive, attentive, tall, visible abs and big muscles, perfectly above average cock, stamina and technique for days. He is one of the lucky men who can just find multiple women on dating apps open for casual, no strings attached sexual encounters. On top of all of this he’s brilliant, an amazing provider for our family, a present father, and worships the ground I walk on as his wife.

I’m leaning into my husband being with other women, having group sex with other women, etc. because of my limits with our medical issues.

Into the dynamics and role play of it all:

I am NOT into being humiliated or talked down to by anyone. And it’s not that I want to humiliate him or the other woman either, but I want to be revered. Almost like I’m too precious to be defiled like that.

For any solo experiences he has, I’m almost into the idea the other woman is the cuck? Like she only gets his cock, he comes home to me and worships me and everyday tells me how no woman holds a candle to me. She’ll never be taken care of like I am, be his wife, mother his children, etc. like I get his whole package, so almost like she’s cucked in a way? (This is all in my head, I’m not saying anything to this woman unless she was into this sort of fantasy)

I’m also into fully being in control of this dynamic. I tell him what I’m comfortable with and if I told him he had to stay home and be with me he would. He would literally do anything I ask of him.

Maybe just hot husbanding is the right term? With a little domme energy? lol