Struggling to find my spark and initiate more
My wife and I have been married and living together for about two years. Before that, we were long distance for about a year. When we first started talking, it was very easy for me to initiate play, involve our kinks into our conversation, and be excited about our dynamic. For the past year or two that's been getting increasingly more rare.
My wife and I are both asexual, so apart from cuddling in bed, our dynamic is really the only way to be intimate, so that part of our life has been dry.
My wife sat me down today and said that she really feels like that part of our relationship is completely missing from her life and has been for the past two years. BDSM has always been a big part of her life, much more than it has been for me. She's told me multiple times over the past months in more brief conversations that she wants me to initiate more, and given me ideas for specific things to do, and I always get excited in the moment but then it just doesn't happen. This also makes her feel like she's 'topping from the bottom' by doing this and it's keeping her from getting into subspace.
I completely agree with her, but I genuinely can't figure out what's blocking me and why I don't feel any drive to be more active in our dynamic. The thought of domming makes me excited, and I would love to engage more in our dynamic, but ideas and thoughts that used to come naturally just don't happen anymore.
Does anyone have any ideas for what I can do to feel more inspired and to get into the flow of domming again?