u/dojacaet

i keep ending up in the same cycle. i meet someone, and without even noticing, i begin to see them as a father figure. i look for safety, reassurance, someone who won’t leave. but that’s not a role they can truly take on, and it puts a kind of pressure on the relationship that was never meant to be there.

when they can’t meet those expectations, i feel hurt or left behind, even though they didn’t actually do anything wrong. and in the end, it creates distance and drives them away. i’m starting to understand that it’s not really about them, i’m just trying to fill that empty space and i don’t know how to fix that.

someone that can give me advice or talk about their own past experience with that?