u/exploringonmyowntime

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A little bit about me. Married. A couple of kids. Reasonably intelligent, but not a Rhodes scholar.  Reasonably attractive, but not Henry Cavill. Reasonably fit, but not shredded. Reasonably classy, but not afraid of curse words. Are you sensing a theme here?

I have a big heart and I’m not afraid to share it. Within reason of course. I'm not interested in drama but I'm not afraid of feelings and genuine friendship either. I'm here looking for something exclusive and something that inspires me. Yes, I said exclusive. I have neither the time nor the vacuous soul to entertain more than one affair at a time. If we're together I will want to cultivate what we have. I personally don't think sex between two people can be very good when it's a one-off and I much prefer the kind of eroticism that two people can create through consistency, experience and friendship.

I miss the light feeling of going through my day knowing there is someone thinking of me. I miss blushing at the memory of something I share with only one other person on earth. I miss bringing a smile to someone’s face and the generosity of mind and body that two people can share when they’re together. I just really want a sexy BFF who makes me smile stupidly to myself as I walk the grocery store aisles.

I am college educated professional, working in a creative field. I’m passionate about what I do and it affords me the luxury to do this. I can nerd out on houseplants and horticulture, art, food and generally, I love learning new things from culture to science. I also love red-necky things despite being a proud libt@rd. One of my favorite parts of this whole affair thing is learning new things from you. Places you’ve been. How you grew up. What music you listen to at the gym or when you’re driving on a spring day with the windows down. I like the dating aspects of an affair.

I’m an athlete in addition to working out 2-3 times a week and if I may brag a little bit, I’m looking really good for my age. I’m generally the kind of person that will try anything once. Level-headed but not boring. Equally as comfortable eating $hitty Chinese food as I am dining at a Michelin Star restaurant but fundamentally a jeans and t-shirt type, though I can hang a suit well. Always down for a dumb movie, a trip to an art gallery, the natural history museum or some time in the great outdoors. I love a good sunset and sometimes a good sunrise.

I am slightly kinky. I’m an open book. I pride myself on being safe, sane and consensual. Really, I'm mostly interested in exploring with someone who knows what she likes and isn't afraid to talk about it. Not in the first text mind you, but eventually. I’m also very into good old fashioned f@cking so not a 24/7 type of kinkster. Gentlemen in the streets as they say. I’m not a pro-dom but I am experienced and I've been told that I have natural talents. Also, it's just fun af. It’s strictly an affair thing for me as I evolved beyond my marriage. And for what it’s worth, I’ve heard it all. I don’t judge. And this should go without saying but this is not the kind of mystery I'm into... DDF and well versed in testing.

You?

Ideally, you’re smart with a good sense of humor and liberal. I’m drawn to smart, kind, fit, slightly kinky women. You value your appearance and your femininity but it’s not your whole identity. You don’t need to be an an athlete per se, but you should be fit and value your health, sexual or otherwise.

You are a little kinky and you get that what we like in the bedroom does not necessarily reflect who we are in the real world. Happy to elaborate elsewhere but I’ll spare you the nitty gritty here. I’ll also spare you the unsolicited 🍆 pics. Not my thing.

I’m looking for someone with daytime availability and the ability to travel periodically. The travel isn’t a deal-breaker but it’s a nice bonus. We should be able to spend the day together in a nice hotel. I’m not a quick backseat lover. I have some class.

Ultimately, I hope to find something ongoing. For how long will depend on what makes us both comfortable. I’m big into open dialogue as I think communication in this world is of paramount importance.

That’s enough for now. I hope you have a great weekend!

 

A little bit about me. Married. A couple of kids. Reasonably intelligent, but not a Rhodes scholar.  Reasonably attractive, but not Henry Cavill. Reasonably fit, but not shredded. Reasonably classy, but not afraid of curse words. Are you sensing a theme here?

I have a big heart and I’m not afraid to share it. Within reason of course. I'm not interested in drama but I'm not afraid of feelings and genuine friendship either. I'm here looking for something exclusive and something that inspires me. Yes, I said exclusive. I have neither the time nor the vacuous soul to entertain more than one affair at a time. If we're together I will want to cultivate what we have. I personally don't think sex between two people can be very good when it's a one-off and I much prefer the kind of eroticism that two people can create through consistency, experience and friendship.

I miss the light feeling of going through my day knowing there is someone thinking of me. I miss blushing at the memory of something I share with only one other person on earth. I miss bringing a smile to someone’s face and the generosity of mind and body that two people can share when they’re together. I just really want a sexy BFF who makes me smile stupidly to myself as I walk the grocery store aisles.

I am college educated professional, working in a creative field. I’m passionate about what I do and it affords me the luxury to do this. I can nerd out on houseplants and horticulture, art, food and generally, I love learning new things from culture to science. I also love red-necky things despite being a proud [libt@rd](mailto:libt@rd). One of my favorite parts of this whole affair thing is learning new things from you. Places you’ve been. How you grew up. What music you listen to at the gym or when you’re driving on a spring day with the windows down. I like the dating aspects of an affair.

I’m an athlete in addition to working out 2-3 times a week and if I may brag a little bit, I’m looking really good for my age. I’m generally the kind of person that will try anything once. Level-headed but not boring. Equally as comfortable eating $hitty Chinese food as I am dining at a Michelin Star restaurant but fundamentally a jeans and t-shirt type, though I can hang a suit well. Always down for a dumb movie, a trip to an art gallery, the natural history museum or some time in the great outdoors. I love a good sunset and sometimes a good sunrise.

I am slightly kinky. I’m an open book. I pride myself on being safe, sane and consensual. Really, I'm mostly interested in exploring with someone who knows what she likes and isn't afraid to talk about it. Not in the first text mind you, but eventually. I’m also very into good old fashioned f@cking so not a 24/7 type of kinkster. Gentlemen in the streets as they say. I’m not a pro-dom but I am experienced and I've been told that I have natural talents. Also, it's just fun af. It’s strictly an affair thing for me as I evolved beyond my marriage. And for what it’s worth, I’ve heard it all. I don’t judge. And this should go without saying but this is not the kind of mystery I'm into... DDF and well versed in testing.

You?

Ideally, you’re smart with a good sense of humor and liberal. I’m drawn to smart, kind, fit, slightly kinky women. You value your appearance and your femininity but it’s not your whole identity. You don’t need to be an an athlete per se, but you should be fit and value your health, sexual or otherwise.

You are a little kinky and you get that what we like in the bedroom does not necessarily reflect who we are in the real world. Happy to elaborate elsewhere but I’ll spare you the nitty gritty here. I’ll also spare you the unsolicited 🍆 pics. Not my thing.

I’m looking for someone with daytime availability and the ability to travel periodically. The travel isn’t a deal-breaker but it’s a nice bonus. We should be able to spend the day together in a nice hotel. I’m not a quick backseat lover. I have some class.

Ultimately, I hope to find something ongoing. For how long will depend on what makes us both comfortable. I’m big into open dialogue as I think communication in this world is of paramount importance.

That’s enough for now. I hope you have a great weekend!

 

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I don't have a ton to say today. I've been looking for a while. Had some near hits and some misses I'm incredibly grateful for!

I'm not one to make snap judgments based on a single text message that could be interpreted in a half a dozen ways. Hell, I'm not one to make snap judgements. Although I will say, that on pic exchange, I'm fairly decisive and would never lead anyone on nor would I ghost. I'd also be the first to tell you that you're beautiful. That said, I do expect a base level of human decency regardless of which end I'm on.

If you really want to get to know me, read my other posts, but do me a favor and don't read too much into them. I get along well with all kinds of people. I see beauty in most everyone and everything. Except Maga. I don't care how hot you are, if you're conservative or "not really political", I will not get in bed with you. 

Where to start… You can see that I’ve been looking for awhile. I have a number of ads up that go into great detail about what I’m looking for but they should also illuminate the fact that I’m quite funny and yet also, very level headed. Don’t be intimidated. I’m not looking for perfection. That would be crazy even if I was single and dating. People aren’t perfect. I don’t want perfect. But I do want just right. For both of us.

The most important thing to me is that you are kind, patient and level-headed. I’m not interested in being your roller-coaster. I don’t rush into anything in this world because honestly, I’ve got a lot to lose. I don’t take this risk lightly and if I’m going to do it, it’s got to be just right. As a result, I’m very discreet. Almost to a fault.

I’ve done this before and it was almost perfect. I could find a warm body if that’s all I was looking for but I want the complete package. Without further ado, my incredibly boring laundry list…

~ Decent looking, fit and put together. I lift at least twice per week and play a fast sport. I’m well-groomed and I try to look nice when I go out but I’m fundamentally a jeans and T-shirt kind of guy:

~ Educated and liberal.

~ Under 5’5”. I’m only 5’7”. I don’t care how tall you are but I know it’s a thing for a lot of women.

~ Smart. Brains are extremely sexy to me.

~ Kind. Absolutely one of the most important character traits.

~ Humble. If you’re privileged enough to discard people when they are no longer useful to you… move on.

~ Patient. I take my sweet sweet time here and I make sure everything is just right. If that annoys you, we probably won’t get along. I’m not impulsive or entitled.

~ Discreet. No ENM or people with nothing to lose.

~ Slightly kinky.

~ Daytime availability and/or the ability to travel for the occasional overnight.

~ DDF and well versed in testing. I don’t smoke, I barely drink and I’ve never had an STI

Ok. Finished with the most boring ad I’ve written in awhile. Have a great Sunday!

Where to start… You can see that I’ve been looking for awhile. I have a number of ads up that go into great detail about what I’m looking for but they should also illuminate the fact that I’m quite funny and yet also, very level headed. Don’t be intimidated. I’m not looking for perfection. That would be crazy even if I was single and dating. People aren’t perfect. I don’t want perfect. But I do want just right. For both of us.

The most important thing to me is that you are kind, patient and level-headed. I’m not interested in being your roller-coaster. I don’t rush into anything in this world because honestly, I’ve got a lot to lose. I don’t take this risk lightly and if I’m going to do it, it’s got to be just right. As a result, I’m very discreet. Almost to a fault.

I’ve done this before and it was almost perfect. I could find a warm body if that’s all I was looking for but I want the complete package. Without further ado, my incredibly boring laundry list…

- Decent looking, fit and put together. I lift at least twice per week and play a fast sport. I’m well-groomed and I try to look nice when I go out but I’m fundamentally a jeans and T-shirt kind of guy:

- Educated and liberal.

- Under 5’5”. I’m only 5’7”. I don’t care how tall you are but I know it’s a thing for a lot of women.

- Smart. Brains are extremely sexy to me.

- Kind. Absolutely one of the most important character traits.

- Humble. If you’re privileged enough to discard people when they are no longer useful to you… move on.

- Patient. I take my sweet sweet time here and I make sure everything is just right. If that annoys you, we probably won’t get along. I’m not impulsive or entitled.

- Discreet. No ENM or people with nothing to lose.

- Slightly kinky.

- Daytime availability and/or the ability to travel for the occasional overnight.

- DDF and well versed in testing. I don’t smoke, I barely drink and I’ve never had an STI

Ok. Finished with the most boring ad I’ve written in awhile. Have a great Sunday!

I was recently chatting with someone and she mentioned that when guys say they want something exclusive, they’re usually juggling multiple APs. My response: “Well, I can’t find even one AP so I either have standards or I’m a bridge troll. I’ll let you decide”. I also made another joke about having never had an STI and that I planned on keeping it that way so multiple APs are not in the cards for me. That was apparently enough to turn her off and she dipped. All of that is to say that if you don’t find that remotely funny, we probably won’t get along.

I am not shy about discussing the practicalities of an affair, sex or feelings, so if you’re squeamish or you want some fantasy form of a mind-reading relationship you can’t get at home, I’d keep moving. I want an honest, heartfelt, fun, sexy, EXCLUSIVE affair. I’d even let you see my telegram chat history if you didn’t believe me.

So, me… all of the gritty details as humbly as I can write them. If you think I sound arrogant, you may be confusing my self-awareness and confidence for arrogance. All I can say is, have a little faith. I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt and I would appreciate the same in return.

I’m a kind, sarcastic, smart, funny af, slightly kinky, college educated, liberal, married, father of 2, that lifts weights at least twice per week, plays a fast sport and is probably on the more attractive side of Reddit suitors. Even saying that gives me the ick so take it with a grain of salt. (I’ve been here a long time and I know where I fit. I’m probably a 7 irl. Maybe an 8. On Reddit… an 11. lol. Although, this place makes me feel like a 5 half the time) I was a late bloomer which is why I have a personality. If you want someone who grew up with pretty privilege, I’m not your guy. I’m not that “cool” or entitled.

I hope you have a great weekend. Best of luck to you even if you don’t DM me.

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I was recently chatting with someone and she mentioned that when guys say they want something exclusive, they’re usually juggling multiple APs. My response: “Well, I can’t find even one AP so I either have standards or I’m a bridge troll. I’ll let you decide”. I also made another joke about having never had an STI and that I planned on keeping it that way so multiple APs are not in the cards for me. That was apparently enough to turn her off and she dipped. All of that is to say that if you don’t find that remotely funny, we probably won’t get along.

I am not shy about discussing the practicalities of an affair, sex or feelings, so if you’re squeamish or you want some fantasy form of a mind-reading relationship you can’t get at home, I’d keep moving. I want an honest, heartfelt, fun, sexy, EXCLUSIVE affair. I’d even let you see my telegram chat history if you didn’t believe me.

So, me… all of the gritty details as humbly as I can write them. If you think I sound arrogant, you may be confusing my self-awareness and confidence for arrogance. All I can say is, have a little faith. I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt and I would appreciate the same in return.

I’m a kind, sarcastic, smart, funny af, slightly kinky, college educated, liberal, married, father of 2, that lifts weights at least twice per week, plays a fast sport and is probably on the more attractive side of Reddit suitors. Even saying that gives me the ick so take it with a grain of salt. (I’ve been here a long time and I know where I fit. I’m probably a 7 irl. Maybe an 8. On Reddit… an 11. lol. Although, this place makes me feel like a 5 half the time) I was a late bloomer which is why I have a personality. If you want someone who grew up with pretty privilege, I’m not your guy. I’m not that “cool” or entitled.

I hope you have a great weekend. Best of luck to you even if you don’t DM me.

Care to play a little game with me? I won’t tell you anything about myself or who I’m looking for and you can DM me to start a conversation. If it works out great. But if it doesn’t, you can block me and move on. No harm no foul.

I have one ground rule. No pics on reddit.

If we get anywhere, I’ll open up my post history for you to read. What do you say? Are you feeling lucky? Or did I just accidentally start a game of Russian roulette? 🤔

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Care to play a little game with me? I won’t tell you anything about myself or who I’m looking for and you can DM me to start a conversation. If it works out great. But if it doesn’t, you can block me and move on. No harm no foul.

I have one ground rule. No pics on reddit.

If we get anywhere, I’ll open up my post history for you to read. What do you say? Are you feeling lucky? Or did I just accidentally start a game of Russian roulette? 🤔

Maybe “everyone” is an exaggeration but seriously, why? Men and women alike. I don’t discriminate in saying that. I’ve received my fair share of dm’s that make me wonder how these people can hold a job, much less maintain a relationship.

I would say I’m not your typical redditor. The most obscure sub I’m on would be houseplants. Or orchids maybe. Or this one. I’m not a big social media guy. The whole phenomenon is just crazy.

Yes, I’ve written my fair share of M4F ads because one, I enjoy the catharsis of writing, and two, I want to give you a picture of who you’re about to dm. If you like intrigue, mystery and the thrill, I’m probably not your guy. Not that we won’t have the thrill but that’s not why I’m here.

I’m your fairly typical suburban dad next door type. Dare I say dilf, though that might be a an exaggeration of my f-ability. Nobody I know would ever expect me to be here. I have my reasons. And they’re pretty good reasons.

You should read my other ads if you want a clearer picture but I’d love to find a sane, well adjusted, kind, down to earth, fit, mom next door type with great communication skills. This may be my last ad for awhile. Unless you like reading them, in which case, I take requests. Lol. After this I may take a break as it’s awfully quiet here these days and I haven’t had a lot of terribly high quality conversations lately.

If you made it this far and this resonates with you AND you’re not shallow and a big weirdo, please do say hi. Otherwise, best of luck to you! 🤗 ~

Maybe “everyone” is an exaggeration but seriously, why? Men and women alike. I don’t discriminate in saying that. I’ve received my fair share of dm’s that make me wonder how these people can hold a job, much less maintain a relationship.

I would say I’m not your typical redditor. The most obscure sub I’m on would be houseplants. Or orchids maybe. Or this one. I’m not a big social media guy. The whole phenomenon is just crazy.

Yes, I’ve written my fair share of M4F ads because one, I enjoy the catharsis of writing, and two, I want to give you a picture of who you’re about to dm. If you like intrigue, mystery and the thrill, I’m probably not your guy. Not that we won’t have the thrill but that’s not why I’m here.

I’m your fairly typical suburban dad next door type. Dare I say dilf, though that might be a an exaggeration of my f-ability. Nobody I know would ever expect me to be here. I have my reasons. And they’re pretty good reasons.

You should read my other ads if you want a clearer picture but I’d love to find a sane, well adjusted, kind, down to earth, fit, mom next door type with great communication skills. This may be my last ad for awhile. Unless you like reading them, in which case, I take requests. Lol. After this I may take a break as it’s awfully quiet here these days and I haven’t had a lot of terribly high quality conversations lately.

If you made it this far and this resonates with you AND you’re not shallow and a big weirdo, please do say hi. Otherwise, best of luck to you! 🤗

I’m not the type to pick up women. Never have been. It’s not for a lack of innocent flirting because let’s be real, everyone loves getting flirted with. But aggressive innuendo and asking out random strangers or people in my circle, not my thing. If you’re here to be chased, I won’t do it.

If on the other hand you want to meet someone with their head on straight who will make you feel like the most interesting and beautiful woman in the room. DM me. If we click, and that’s a big if here, that affection and desire will be genuine. Yes, I can bull$hit with the best of them but what you’ll get from me is absolute sincerity. I have no interest in pretending to find you sexy or smart. If the mental and physical attraction is there, you’ll know it. That is not something I joke around with.

Quick details about me so you know what you’re getting yourself into…

College educated, liberal, married and stable. A couple of teenage kids. Have done this once before. DDF. I will make you laugh and/or blush. Have most of my beautiful brown hair, hazel eyes, olive skin and a body that I might describe as a jacked dad-bod. I get a decent number of compliments from my guy friends and I’m regularly told I don’t look my age. But let’s be real, I’m no spring chicken and a six pack isn’t in the cards unless I starve myself so that’s not happening.

And if I may brag, I can write/communicate quite well. Though my grammar is questionable. You can read my other posts if you want to know a lot more about me but I’m still looking because I’m selective. Not because I’m desperate. Part of me just likes writing these ads. 🤷‍♂️

I’m not the type to pick up women. Never have been. It’s not for a lack of innocent flirting because let’s be real, everyone loves getting flirted with. But aggressive innuendo and asking out random strangers or people in my circle, not my thing. If you’re here to be chased, I won’t do it.

If on the other hand you want to meet someone with their head on straight who will make you feel like the most interesting and beautiful woman in the room. DM me. If we click, and that’s a big if here, that affection and desire will be genuine. Yes, I can bull$hit with the best of them but what you’ll get from me is absolute sincerity. I have no interest in pretending to find you sexy or smart. If the mental and physical attraction is there, you’ll know it. That is not something I joke around with.

Quick details about me so you know what you’re getting yourself into…

College educated, liberal, married and stable. A couple of teenage kids. Have done this once before. DDF. I will make you laugh and/or blush. Have most of my beautiful brown hair, hazel eyes, olive skin and a body that I might describe as a jacked dad-bod. I get a decent number of compliments from my guy friends and I’m regularly told I don’t look my age. But let’s be real, I’m no spring chicken and a six pack isn’t in the cards unless I starve myself so that’s not happening.

And if I may brag, I can write/communicate quite well. Though my grammar is questionable. You can read my other posts if you want to know a lot more about me but I’m still looking because I’m selective. Not because I’m desperate. Part of me just likes writing these ads. 🤷‍♂️

Dear Lord,

Please let someone slide into my DMs who doesn’t ooze entitlement, nonchalance, OMGs and LOLs.

Please let them be the kind of person who doesn’t believe the world owes them anything. Who values what they can do for others over what hole others can fill for them. And yes, I mean that literally and figuratively.

I don’t really care if they’re 30 or 300, as long as they are emotionally literate, able to think before they speak and generally consider themselves to be a good person. Present indiscretion excluded.

In conclusion, if you bring me someone good, I promise not to do anything bad between now and when I wake up, amen.

Dear Lord,

Please let someone slide into my DMs who doesn’t ooze entitlement, nonchalance, OMGs and LOLs.

Please let them be the kind of person who doesn’t believe the world owes them anything. Who values what they can do for others over what hole others can fill for them. And yes, I mean that literally and figuratively.

I don’t really care if they’re 30 or 300, as long as they are emotionally literate, able to think before they speak and generally consider themselves to be a good person. Present indiscretion excluded.

In conclusion, if you bring me someone good, I promise not to do anything bad between now and when I wake up, amen.

A little bit about me. Married. A couple of kids. Reasonably intelligent, but not a Rhodes scholar.  Reasonably attractive, but not Henry Cavill. Reasonably fit, but not shredded. Reasonably classy, but not afraid of curse words. Are you sensing a theme here?

I have a big heart and I’m not afraid to share it. Within reason of course. I'm not interested drama but I'm not afraid of feelings and genuine friendship either. I'm here looking for something exclusive and something that inspires me. Yes, I said exclusive. I have neither the time nor the vacuous soul to entertain more than one affair at a time. If we're together I will want to cultivate what we have. I personally don't think sex between two people can be very good when it's a one-off and I much prefer the kind of eroticism that two people can create through consistency, experience and friendship.

I miss the light feeling of going through my day knowing there is someone thinking of me. I miss blushing at the memory of something I share with only one other person on earth. I miss bringing a smile to someone’s face and the generosity of mind and body that two people can share when they’re together. I just really want a sexy BFF who makes me smile stupidly to myself as I walk the grocery store aisles.

I am college educated professional, working in a creative field. I’m passionate about what I do and it affords me the luxury to do this. I can nerd out on houseplants and horticulture, art, food and generally, I love learning new things from culture to science. I also love red-necky things despite being a proud [libt@rd](mailto:libt@rd). One of my favorite parts of this whole affair thing is learning new things from you. Places you’ve been. How you grew up. What music you listen to at the gym or when you’re driving on a spring day with the windows down. I like the dating aspects of an affair.

I’m an athlete in addition to working out 2-3 times a week and if I may brag a little bit, I’m looking really good for my age. I’m generally the kind of person that will try anything once. Level-headed but not boring. Equally as comfortable eating $hitty Chinese food as I am dining at a Michelin Star restaurant but fundamentally a jeans and t-shirt type, though I can hang a suit well. Always down for a dumb movie, a trip to an art gallery, the natural history museum or some time in the great outdoors. I love a good sunset and sometimes a good sunrise.

I am slightly kinky. I’m an open book. I pride myself on being safe, sane and consensual. Really, I'm mostly interested in exploring with someone who knows what she likes and isn't afraid to talk about it. Not in the first text mind you, but eventually. I’m also very into good old fashioned f@cking so not a 24/7 type of kinkster. Gentlemen in the streets as they say. I’m not a pro-dom but I am experienced and I've been told that I have natural talents. Also, it's just fun af. It’s strictly an affair thing for me as I evolved beyond my marriage. And for what it’s worth, I’ve heard it all. I don’t judge. And this should go without saying but this is not the kind of mystery I'm into... DDF and well versed in testing.

You?

Ideally, you’re smart with a good sense of humor and liberal. I’m drawn to smart, kind, fit, slightly kinky women. You value your appearance and your femininity but it’s not your whole identity. You don’t need to be an an athlete per se, but you should value your health, sexual or otherwise.

You are a little kinky and you get that what we like in the bedroom does not necessarily reflect who we are in the real world. Happy to elaborate elsewhere but I’ll spare you the nitty gritty here. I’ll also spare you the unsolicited 🍆 pics. Not my thing.

I’m looking for someone with daytime availability and the ability to travel periodically. The travel isn’t a deal-breaker but it’s a nice bonus. We should be able to spend the day together in a nice hotel. I’m not a quick backseat lover. I have some class.

Ultimately, I hope to find something ongoing. For how long will depend on what makes us both comfortable. I’m big into open dialogue as I think communication in this world is of paramount importance.

That’s enough for now. I hope you have a great weekend!

 

A little bit about me. Married. A couple of kids. Reasonably intelligent, but not a Rhodes scholar.  Reasonably attractive, but not Henry Cavill. Reasonably fit, but not shredded. Reasonably classy, but not afraid of curse words. Are you sensing a theme here?

I have a big heart and I’m not afraid to share it. Within reason of course. I'm not interested drama but I'm not afraid of feelings and genuine friendship either. I'm here looking for something exclusive and something that inspires me. Yes, I said exclusive. I have neither the time nor the vacuous soul to entertain more than one affair at a time. If we're together I will want to cultivate what we have. I personally don't think sex between two people can be very good when it's a one-off and I much prefer the kind of eroticism that two people can create through consistency, experience and friendship.

I miss the light feeling of going through my day knowing there is someone thinking of me. I miss blushing at the memory of something I share with only one other person on earth. I miss bringing a smile to someone’s face and the generosity of mind and body that two people can share when they’re together. I just really want a sexy BFF who makes me smile stupidly to myself as I walk the grocery store aisles.

I am college educated professional, working in a creative field. I’m passionate about what I do and it affords me the luxury to do this. I can nerd out on houseplants and horticulture, art, food and generally, I love learning new things from culture to science. I also love red-necky things despite being a proud libt@rd. One of my favorite parts of this whole affair thing is learning new things from you. Places you’ve been. How you grew up. What music you listen to at the gym or when you’re driving on a spring day with the windows down. I like the dating aspects of an affair.

I’m an athlete in addition to working out 2-3 times a week and if I may brag a little bit, I’m looking really good for my age. I’m generally the kind of person that will try anything once. Level-headed but not boring. Equally as comfortable eating $hitty Chinese food as I am dining at a Michelin Star restaurant but fundamentally a jeans and t-shirt type, though I can hang a suit well. Always down for a dumb movie, a trip to an art gallery, the natural history museum or some time in the great outdoors. I love a good sunset and sometimes a good sunrise.

I am slightly kinky. I’m an open book. I pride myself on being safe, sane and consensual. Really, I'm mostly interested in exploring with someone who knows what she likes and isn't afraid to talk about it. Not in the first text mind you, but eventually. I’m also very into good old fashioned f@cking so not a 24/7 type of kinkster. Gentlemen in the streets as they say. I’m not a pro-dom but I am experienced and I've been told that I have natural talents. Also, it's just fun af. It’s strictly an affair thing for me as I evolved beyond my marriage. And for what it’s worth, I’ve heard it all. I don’t judge. And this should go without saying but this is not the kind of mystery I'm into... DDF and well versed in testing.

You?

Ideally, you’re smart with a good sense of humor and liberal. I’m drawn to smart, kind, fit, slightly kinky women. You value your appearance and your femininity but it’s not your whole identity. You don’t need to be an an athlete per se, but you should value your health, sexual or otherwise.

You are a little kinky and you get that what we like in the bedroom does not necessarily reflect who we are in the real world. Happy to elaborate elsewhere but I’ll spare you the nitty gritty here. I’ll also spare you the unsolicited 🍆 pics. Not my thing.

I’m looking for someone with daytime availability and the ability to travel periodically. The travel isn’t a deal-breaker but it’s a nice bonus. We should be able to spend the day together in a nice hotel. I’m not a quick backseat lover. I have some class.

Ultimately, I hope to find something ongoing. For how long will depend on what makes us both comfortable. I’m big into open dialogue as I think communication in this world is of paramount importance.

That’s enough for now. I hope you have a great weekend!

 

You? Married. Preferably with a kid or two. Fit. Have your life together but work isn’t your life. You recognize that life is for savoring. Not just repeating the same thing day in and day out.

You’re kinky and while things at home are okay, he doesn’t really feel the same cravings. He indulges you sometimes but doesn’t really feel it in his bones the way you do. You yearn to be free.

Me? Attractive. Fit. Kind. Educated. Liberal. And I will make you laugh at an inappropriate time during your zoom call.

When I said: “emphasis on the F”, I meant it. I will not f@ck someone I don’t like. It’s not how I’m built.

You? Married. Preferably with a kid or two. Fit. Have your life together but work isn’t your life. You recognize that life is for savoring. Not just repeating the same thing day in and day out.

You’re kinky and while things at home are okay, he doesn’t really feel the same cravings. He indulges you sometimes but doesn’t really feel it in his bones the way you do. You yearn to be free.

Me? Attractive. Fit. Kind. Educated. Liberal. And I will make you laugh at an inappropriate time during your zoom call.

When I said: “emphasis on the F”, I meant it. I will not f@ck someone I don’t like. It’s not how I’m built.