r/naughtyfromneglect

Gotcha! Okay, I might not model but I am very pretty (modest, clearly), and hopefully funny (did that make you laugh? No?)

I’m equal parts sunniness and sarcasm, a bookwyrm with a hoard of books, I even read them occasionally. I love to write, be barefoot in a mini dress, I am whimsy, and a nerd with a huge heart. And in need of rescuing, please get me out of here.

You are: not younger than me and no more than ten years older, conventionally attractive, not a cake eater, in the EST (ideally) in the U.S., with plenty of time for this. If you can only do 9-5, still talk to past APs, and are not looking to catch feelings then I’m not your girl.

Come get your totally a model today ~

I’m in a long distance relationship and due to significant differing time zones it’s becoming difficult to find time for one another and for a man to make me feel special. My partner is working away on a supposedly temporary basis. The last time we were together was 6 months ago. Hopefully someone here can truly appreciate me and worship accordingly.

Me: Attractive, exercise regularly, enjoys reading, podcasts, good food and cocktails. Good job and travel for work a lot (currently between the UK (home) and Orlando). I’m a dominant person and this includes in the bedroom too. If that’s not for you then please don’t respond.

Looking for: Ideally someone who can adapt to my differing timezones easily. A kind, intelligent, open minded and attractive man. Age does not matter as long as you’re 18+. Ideally someone who takes care of themselves physically and mentally. A man who enjoys submitting to a strong woman and is willing to explore all aspects of this.

Hopefully this reaches the right person and we can begin a beautiful relationship of our own together ❤️ ~

Let’s face it: affairs are about fantasy. I’ve tried, REALLY tried, to be open to all possibilities, but in the end I just end up disappointed, unsatisfied, empty, and ashamed that I keep choosing the wrong men when deep down I know what I want but am afraid to ask for fear of being thought unreasonable. 

So I’ve decided I’m just going to put it all out there and describe my ideal candidate. I know it’s not likely I’ll find him on Reddit, and I’ll probably delete this quickly, but fuck it, what do I have to lose??

My ideal man: 
*35-50 age range
*Reasonably fit. Doesn’t mean perfection, but I do adore muscle-y arms and chest 🙈
*Full head of hair
*Clean shaven
*Great at conversation and subtle flirting, with a sharp wit—FYI, constantly being sarcastic or mean isn’t the same thing
*Has kids
*Centrist to leftist but absolutely no right-wing conservatives
*Is local to MD or travels here regularly
*Has flexibility and independence in their life; able to maintain a regular meeting cadence

A little about me: woman, mom, married, 5’2, 130 lbs, brown hair and eyes. I like coffee, books, really spicy food, all different sorts of music, airports, and I kind of really want to get into birding 😅. I hate seltzer, because I don’t want to waste my time with a drink that almost tastes like something but also doesn’t give you the courtesy of tasting like nothing. DM me for more super hot takes that are actually boring AF 😂. 

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I wanna be your Sally ~ the woman who is bold, honest, sexual, and enjoying life. Sometimes these relationships require 50/50 contribution, other times it's 80/20. We all have our days.

I've done this a few times - I've learned what I like and what I definitely can live without. I hope you have too.

I'm bbw in body type - confident and comfortable in my skin. If you know how to make your partner feel desired, engage her mentally and crave phone sex when being together physically can't be as frequent as we'd like, I'm your girl!

I prefer men over the age of 35. Employed. Smoke free. Status doesn't matter as long as my marriage is respected.

If you wanna wrinkle some sheets, send a message. I will not respond to "hey"!

Most connections here burn out because they’re surface level, but I give and look for the kind of deep, slow-burn chemistry that will make you look forward to your phone vibrating. I'm a married, fit and youthful 50-year-old Creative Director with a high-pressure career (see profile), so in my private life, I want an exclusive, discreet FWB dynamic with a woman who craves sharp wit and heavy physical tension. I'm entirely open to it becoming something much deeper if we click.

I value my time too much to collect chat buddies - I want one specific woman to focus on. If you’re craving attention I’m here for it. I pride myself on my creative brain, but l'll be fully transparent: my intellect is only the second largest thing I bring to the table. 

Because I run my own schedule, I’m open to chat during the day. I want a real connection where you can completely let go. If you are tired of settling for boring banter and want a genuine escape from your daily routine, reach out. To prove you’re not a bot, tell me one thing you need a distraction from right now.

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I tend to have a lot of free time on my hands~

I’m looking for someone who wants to spend time with me all day and night. Someone consistent I can talk to round the clock when I’m being neglected or ignored. I love talking, showing off, and I miss feeling so wanted that you can’t help but check your phone every 5 minutes.

Me: I’m 5’3 a thicc curvy woman who’s learning to be comfortable in her new body. Long hair and soft eyes with a cute smile. Glasses and tattoos.

You: sweet, witty, with lots of free time and the emotional capability to have a connection.

~ Looking to find that missing spark.~

I feel like I'm invisible and I'm looking to find that reason to smile when I look at the phone again. I'm not looking to change my situation or anyone else's, I'm just looking to find that excitement again of feeling wanted and appreciated.

I want us to get to know each other, for me connection is just as important as the physical. So I'm probably not what you're looking if you don't want long chats and getting to know eachother.

I'm more curvy then I should be and am working on getting fitter but I know it's journey. Feel like it's important to mention. Other than that I love being adventurous and love things like hiking and camping, but also love a good night in playing boardgames or watching a film.

If this sounds interesting to you, tell me what your favourite movie is when you say hi.

22 [F4M] #Online Just need some physical fun no strings ~Hello~ Like the title says I've been with my boyfriend for a few years but the bedroom is basically dead at this point. We got together young and now it just feels like we're roommates who happen to share a place. I'm really only looking for a physical thing, I don't want to date anyone or build some big emotional connection on the side. I still care about him but I need more intimacy than I'm getting. Discreet, no drama, just fun when we can both make time.

25yr old Korean girl in LA taking a break from long relationship.😭 Looking for someone online to chat and be friends. 😀

Prefer korean speaking men as other language is challenging. Under 30 years old and respectful but can play alittle online. Im 5'1, 95lbs, 21inch waist, e cup, pale skin, black long and black eyes. 🫣

I prefer to chat on snap.

Please send me age, race and pic if you can~

Please be nice 🥰😍😘

Hello, naughty community ~

I went from active participant, back to lurking fantasizer for so many years. Tried to focus on being a partner and mother. The need doesn’t ever seem to go away, and I miss the secret connections. Mentally, but miss so much physically.

Briefly about me: red hairs, some freckles. Curvy, in a Venusian way. Pro-piercing (I have some) and tattoos (don’t have any myself). ND and usually get along best with other ND people. Love discussing special interests.
I’m also passionate…and looking for a similar-minded man. This may be blunt, but I’m hoping for a well-endowed man that can meet my needs. Ideally, our sexual attraction should be electric.

Trying to make a succinct post is tough. The volume of messages can be overwhelming, so please be patient as I try to sort through. :)

~A lot of people I’ve talked to have said that I seem to know what I want and what I don’t want and that’s very true. I’ve done this long enough ( not bc I love doing it) but long enough to know what will make me happy.

About me: I am often told I look younger than I am. I’m confident enough to say that I’m attractive and have a spark in my eyes. I’m a mom with a career that I am well respected in. I love some good banter but I also have a soft heart. I love the outdoors, working out at the gym and some good binge shows. But, obviously I’m feeling very unfulfilled at home.

What I’m looking for: A genuine, strong man with values. An outgoing personality. An attractive, clean man with an edge. I’m not interested in competing for your time with other women (aside from the obvious). I need someone romantic that wants to dive deep into our lives. No secrets. I don’t take a single ounce of trust for granted and I’d expect the same in return. I want someone that can make jokes about the most random things to make me laugh. Being interested in sports is a big plus. And a gym goer is kind of obvious, because I need to feel that safety net.

I’m a great person that is ready to fulfill someone’s life. To make them feel like the only man on earth. I’ll treat you like a king if you treat me like a queen.

Married woman in NYC feeling the absence of passion, attention, and real chemistry. I miss being desired, pursued, and having conversations that feel exciting without being forced.

I’m drawn to mature, intelligent, confident men who know how to communicate, flirt naturally, and keep things discreet. I enjoy good energy, humor, and a connection that feels easy, genuine, and a little dangerous in the best way. I have a thing for well endowed and older gentlemen.

Looking for someone local who understands discretion, can hold a real conversation, and knows how to create the right atmosphere when two people click. I’m passionate, affectionate, and I miss that spark that makes you look forward to someone’s message. I prefer someone local within the NYC area.

If this sounds like you, send your age, and a little about yourself. ~

I’m a married mom of one, in a marriage that makes me “happy” but is lacking so much of what my body & soul need. Are you yearning for something else, too? I love to explore, read, hike, and talk for hours about anything (life, movies, alternate universes, ya know). I love horror, whether it’s movies, doing ghost tours at an asylum, reading macabre novels. Indian food is my weakness. I’d love to learn your favorite things, what turns you on, what makes you laugh.

I’m mixed (black & white), very wild/curly dark hair, a curvy, soft body that is very pleasant to touch, and I’ve always gotten compliments on the shape & warmth of my eyes.

I’ll say upfront the most important thing I’m seeking, as it’s the thing I cannot get in my marriage. I crave dominance, to be submissive in the right ways, to feel someone take control & make me feel like my body is theirs. There’s a certain “darkness” to me when it comes to sex & intimacy, & I’ve been denying that part of myself for so long. This of course doesn’t have to be everything in an affair (slow love making is lovely, too!) but if you aren’t into that or don’t have some dominant traits in the bedroom, we won’t be a match.

I’m also looking for someone who can carry a conversation, can go between sending filthy texts that make me blush in public, & the next second a ridiculous meme that makes me laugh. Someone who is comfy sharing parts of themself with me. Someone who has a lot of free time to talk & an ability to get away for some time together. Let’s drive each other wild ~

There’s something very intimate to me about small continuity.

Someone remembering I planted a persimmon tree some time ago when the fruit finally ripens. Sending me a photo because “this made me think of you”. Wanting to share the strange little details of their day while they’re happening - not because they have to report in, but because connection naturally spills over that way.

I like people who make things. Music, films, art, businesses, elaborate sandwiches at midnight, terrible jokes, oddly specific playlists, strange obsessions. People with inner worlds.

My ideal evening is probably cooking something beautiful, talking nonsense and serious things in equal measure, listening to music too loudly, showing each other things we’re excited about, and quietly becoming part of each other’s daily life.

I’m not really looking for a performance of compatibility. I think you can tell a lot from what someone notices, what they remember, and the way they choose to speak to people when nobody is telling them who to be.

Tell me something you’ve been genuinely excited about lately. Or something oddly specific you love that most people overlook.

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Jumping straight in: 43f, Chicago area, tall, alt-adjacent look, midsize (~12ish). Sox fan if that tells you anything about my capacity for suffering.

Life outside of all this: live music (mostly metal and hardcore, though my taste is all over the place), sports, and being outdoors for every moment of the 4 months you can exist outside without a parka.

I want the spark. Feeling noticed, wanted, interesting and attractive to someone again. The version of yourself your partner stopped seeing. Most people here know exactly what I mean.

Not looking to blow anything up, not auditioning to be a pocket girlfriend, not chasing something complicated. Just someone in the same situation who wants to feel desired again and has the chemistry to back it up.

Preferred: similar age range, chubby/dadbod

curvy and blonde mom in a dead bedroom ~
meeting up is possible after establishing connection but will take time
if you don’t like women with a little tummy do not waste my time reaching out
prefer to use discord or other platform if we’re a good match, reddit DM are clunky and laggy at times

I'm a professional who works in a high visibility, corporate role, so 100% discretion is the TOP priority here. I'm a chubby white lady... not wildly obese. But I do have big boobs and a mom bod. If that's not your thing... it's okay! No hard feelings here. Very kink friendly but I do prefer a more dominant/alpha personality. I travel occasionally for work throughout the Midwest so meeting up on occasion is possible with the right guy.

Above any particular physical feature, an ideal man to connect with for me would be someone older, emotionally intelligent but grounded. Sharp mind, dry humor, capable of real conversation beyond surface BS. Someone who notices everything, remembers the little things, challenges me intellectually...

Someone with a calm kind of authority. The type who doesn’t need to dominate a room because everyone already feels it when they walk into it. Protective without being controlling. Intense without being loud. Emotionally self-contained, but with flashes of surprising softness when they trust you. The kind of person who makes you feel safer and more nervous at the exact same time.

Full disclosure: there is a man I've worked with for years who checks every single box and I simply cannot have him. So here I am chasing that connection and feeling with someone else. I cannot and will not leave my marriage anytime soon... for many reasons. I think most of us here are in a similar situation. I'm happy to elaborate over time in conversation.

I do require an actual connection to be sexually attracted to anyone, so if you don't want to invest the time necessary for that, it's okay. Not everyone needs that!

At a minimum, I'm very happy just to have access to a space free from criticism of this path... which isn't for everyone ~🤍~

I am looking for a man, aged 40-55, preferably local, who will be attentive both online and in person. Age is not negotiable!

I am 42, married, and a mom. I have a mom-bod, cute and curvy.

I would like to get to know someone who has a great sense of humor, doesn’t take life too seriously but can have intellectual conversations. I’m located just north of Albany. ~

~ Hey there! 24F from Texas. So I and my husband kinda got married a bit too early lol , most especially for me tho cuz he’s 27 and he doesn’t really stay home as a normal husband should , he’s always away for work almost every time which is so bad for me. Makes me feel so much neglected at a very young age of myself, I sometimes wanna cuddle and do things but I can’t, cuz my husband is away for work. I think this is more of a rant than making a post haha but I honestly wouldn’t mind getting to have some extra stuff or maybe have someone to talk to( someone cool and respectful) I don’t wanna complicate my life or anyone’s ~~~~~

I listen to books while I run and commute, and have run out of books on my lists. I am re listening to the hitchhikers guide to the galaxy, but that will only last so long. Please take pity and suggest some after we start chatting!

I am a 41 year old married dad who is looking for a like minded woman to connect with. I am currently training for a marathon, so someone who enjoys running would be nice but not required. I am 6 foot tall, have a short beard and typically wear glasses. Aside from books and running, I enjoy woodworking, the occasional Lego set, and various sports.

I ran my last planned race for the year and need to come up with a plan, and am a bit lost.

While I would love to find an amazing local woman, I am also up for online as well. Feel free to hit me with a book or a drink suggestion, bonus points will be awarded for recognizing where the post title is from!~