u/eyecouldbeyou

As in absolutely love your partner to the fullest but have lustfull fantasies of someone else. I dont mean a celebrity. I mean someone attainable. Whether it be a co-worker, someone you see (or know) at the gym, your partners friend, someone from your church, etc and etc.

If given the opportunity to get with the person you fantasize about most of us would choose love over lust but some would take that opportunity.

Unfortunately we will never know who chose what. It can the library attendant who is the sweetest most innocent person that would never imagine in a million years actually go through with it.

The way I see it if you are truly in love then you'd never lust for anyone else. Yes we are human and yes we ALL check out someone we may find attractive but to start thinking of someone else in a sexual manner than your own partner then you really aren't truly in love. But thats just my humble opinion.

FYI: I don't expect many responses since most of you probably share you account with your partner

If so what did you do to reassure him? How did you know he was insecure? Did he flat out tell you or was he not initiating reclaim sex? Was he insecure of his manhood compared to the thirds?

I'm sure many of you have surpassed this situation with communication (which is key to make this successful) but I'm sure the first few times must be difficult for a man to see his wife getting physical sexual pleasure from another man. He may be over thinking many things and questioning himself tons.