Does anyone else want the whole princess treatment? Like being spoiled, adored, praised, and handled with care BUT also crave a little roughness and intensity sometimes?
Like… I want to be treated delicately but I also want a Dom who knows when I need something a little less delicate. Anyone else?
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how being plus-size affects the way I experience femininity and submission.
Sometimes I feel like there’s a certain “look” I’m supposed to have to be soft, delicate, submissive, or desirable. And when I don’t fit that image, I find myself wondering if I’m enough to be wanted in that way. I’ve come a long way and for the most part i’d say i’m comfortable in my body but sometimes i find myself struggling with it.
I know logically that my size doesn’t determine my femininity but knowing something and feeling it are two very different things.
I’d genuinely love to hear from people who relate.
And if you have advice, please share it. I think sometimes we need to hear from people who have already worked through the things we’re still learning to love about ourselves.
Does anyone else get the ick when you start the vetting process or start talking to a potential dom and they start asking sexual questions right off the bat? Or they start asking what being a sub “means to me” and how much control i’m “willing to give up” which granted, we can chat about those things at some point but before everything else i’m a person. What happened to hi? hello? how are you? Idk maybe it’s just me but it def gives me the ick
I’m incredibly new to the lifestyle….like, very very very new, so I’m looking for a dominant partner who has patience and genuinely enjoys taking things slow. The idea of TPE interests me, but it also makes me a bit hesitant. Before exploring anything that deep, I need real trust, open communication, and plenty of time.
A bit about me: shorter side, chubby, brown hair, green eyes. I deal with chronic decision fatigue, so what I’m really craving is steady guidance and someone to help me feel anchored. The dream is to hand over some control, but only after we’ve built something solid (and probably had a ridiculous number of conversations).
If you’re an experienced dom who likes teaching, checking in often, and doesn’t mind a little awkwardness mixed with enthusiasm, let’s talk.