u/goddess_elizabeth200

Hey everyone! some of you might know me some of you may not! im elizabeth, im from south wales and i love smoking!

ive realised lately that i don’t have many stoner friends myself and that the findom community doesnt seem as solidified as it used to be with how close everyone was a few months ago.

it made me think, how can i make solve this! well duhh!!! stoners have got to be one of the chillest types of people! we love a chat and a chill aslong as we have our plant🫶

use this post as a way to make new friends! subs dommes ectt!!!

1. Understand What Findom Actually Is

Findom isn’t just “getting money from subs.” It’s a psychological kink based on power exchange, control, and worship. Study it, read forums, join groups (lurking first) to understand how dommes interact with subs.

2. Decide Your Persona

Are you a strict, cruel domme? A soft, bratty, playful one? A “sweet but in control” goddess? Build a persona that feels authentic to you. consistency builds trust and loyalty.
(Examples: witchy, bratty, nurturing, sadistic, luxury goddess. me personally i like the witchy and bratty vibe but also nurturing)👀

3. Create a Safe & Alluring Space Online

Your profiles should look polished and inviting.

High-quality photos that reflect your persona.

A bio that’s confident but clear about boundaries (tributes, age verification, consent).🌿

Use platforms like Twitter, Reddit, Telegram, or FetLife to find your audience. (i have found more success with telegram and reddit)✨️

4. Establish Rules & Boundaries

A true domme leads with structure. Set clear expectations for:

How to approach you.

Minimum tribute for contact.‼️‼️

What you offer (tasks, humiliation, praise, drain games).

What’s off limits (no illegal content, underage, harassment).‼️‼️

5. Learn to Build Anticipation & Desire

Findom is psychological. your words and energy matter more than anything.

Tease, hint, and hypnotize rather than demand straight away as this can make you seem desperate if displayed incorrectly

Use your tone and rhythm to make subs want or feel the desire to tribute.

Be unpredictable. soft one moment, sharp the next. (this is my personal favourite)🤭🤭

6. Start Small & Test the Waters

Don’t expect big tributes right away. Build a few genuine connections with subs who align with your style. Show that you’re consistent, dominant, and safe. This creates trust, which makes subs more eager to give in😘

7. Maintain Power With Sweetness & Steel

Most dommes mix dominance with approachability.

Praise your subs when they tribute. or don't 🫣

Make them feel chosen, but keep them reaching for more.

Stay in control at all times, no free emotional labor without tribute.
some "subs" like to see how far they can push.

8. Protect Yourself (Always)

Age verify everyone before engagement.‼️‼️‼️

Keep personal details private.‼️

Use payment platforms designed for adult creators (CashApp, Wishtender, Throne.).

Block or ghost time-wasters, disrespectful people, or scammers.
youre making yourself look stupid by falling for this.

9. Keep Your Brand Fresh

Rotate your content (photos, captions, drain games, tasks). Experiment with different styles of posts. Offer limited “specials” or themed sessions to keep subs engaged.

10. Know Your Power

Findom only works when you believe in your value. Subs sense your energy. Don’t be afraid to demand tributes, and don’t undercut yourself. You’re not begging you’re commanding.🖤