r/REALfindomsupport

I’m seeing tons of posts on it. That a man made it, ai coded…

Has anyone used cake app to get crypto sends? If not, what platform do you use?

I want to say something that has been bothering me since I came across a post here recently.

I saw a discussion about findommes who are in the top percentages on Throne, and what bothered me wasn't that people had questions or opinions. It was the overwhelming need to discredit the women who were succeeding.

To be clear, this wasn't just men doing it. There were both men and women in the comments finding reasons why these findommes' success somehow shouldn't count.

"Maybe they're cheating."
"Those numbers don't mean they're good at what they do."
"Getting gifts doesn't actually mean anything."
"There has to be something else going on."
“She’s looking for validation by posting that.”
“She probably sends to herself.”

I have to ask: why is that our first instinct?

If someone is thriving, receiving support, building an audience, and reaching a level of success that most people don't reach, why can't the response simply be, "Good for her"?

You don't have to want what she has. You don't have to like her approach. You don't have to think Throne rankings are meaningful. You don't even have to understand why people choose to spend money on specific findommes.

Why does someone's success seem to trigger this immediate need to explain it away?

Honestly, if seeing another person succeed makes you angry, bitter, suspicious, or compelled to tear them down, maybe that's something worth examining within yourself.

Not everything that triggers you is something that needs to be criticized externally. Sometimes it is showing you something about your own insecurities, comparisons, jealousy, or unmet goals.

*Someone else's success isn't taking anything away from you*

Another person's gifts aren't your losses.
Their ranking doesn't determine your worth.
Their success doesn't make you less successful.
You don't have to compete with every person who is doing well.

We talk constantly about supporting women, empowering women, and creating spaces where people can thrive. That doesn't mean we have to blindly praise everyone or pretend we agree with everything they do. But it does mean we should be capable of seeing someone else's success without immediately looking for a reason they don't deserve it.

You are allowed to simply not care…
You can scroll.
You can move on.
You can say, "That's not for me."

If your immediate response to seeing someone else's success is to investigate, invalidate, accuse, or diminish them, maybe the more productive question isn't "What's wrong with her?"

Maybe it's "Why does her success bother me so much?"

That's a question worth sitting with.
Because sometimes "good for them" is enough.

I signed up for LoyalFans so I had a legit platform to sell... things, message, and get a wider audience and oh man has it been a pain already. I was going back and forth with their support email for over a week! I finally got approved and started getting things up and running.....only to run into ANOTHER issue with my name having been incorrectly entered so my documents don't match. Ughhh very frustrating.

I did a bunch of research across other subreddits to see which platform I should host on and LF seemed to be the most decent across the board. This has me wondering if it's even worth all the trouble.

I’m always down to connect with fellow Dommes especially if you love to support and interact on socials! Just started a new X account after having mine taken down last year. I’d like to have more Domme moots! If any subs want to follow feel free as well <3 Dommes drop your @s 🫶

My x is https://www.x.com/vivaciousdivina

i’m making an OF because i have so many simps on my vanilla socials - they’re sooo easyyy 😂 they don’t even have to know what findom is - they just get so excited to be useful 🥰

finding subs who genuinely believe women are superior >>>

we need a late night findom subreddit 😈

hello beautiful dommes on my phone… i think i thought of something fun but i need your 🫵 participation! do you have any questions, need for pointers/advice, or seek an opinion?
write in to me in my DMs (if you want to be anonymous) or down in the comments. these can be about findom or truly just anything you want me to respond to!

i will compile all of these and release them somewhere free and accessible!

why bother? because its fun, duhhh
my qualifications: fin/femdomme of 3 years, educational background on human nature and psychological profiling, is a beautiful goth woman on the internet, yapper.

thankssss <333 i hope i can provide genuine insight and fun for this community

Hey, wandering subs seeking a Domme, let’s talk about approaching ✨

I created a short helpful guide for if you actually want your prospective Domme to answer your chat request.
I’ve been getting a lot of eye-rolling, low-effort approaches lately. Do I answer them?

Never.

For the sake of this post, let’s say you’re interested in becoming my plaything. I won’t assume to know what other Dommes want, but if you want to find your way into my lap, your first few messages don’t need to be complicated. They should show some thought.

DO:

✨ Read my profile and pinned posts first
✨ Be prepared to offer age verification via Yoti
✨ Introduce yourself and tell me what specifically caught your attention
✨ Ask thoughtful questions
✨ Be clear about what you’re looking for
✨ Be respectful of my time and boundaries
✨ Understand that you’re going to have to earn my trust

ABSOLUTELY DO NOT:

✨ Just send “Hey” or “Hi”
✨ Immediately demand a task
✨ Lead with your fantasies, a list of kinks, or with your submissive resume
✨ Assume a title or level of familiarity I haven’t invited
✨ Send photos
✨ Keep messaging when I haven’t responded
✨ Reach out while your dick is in your hand ready to pop 😒
✨ Have your post or comment history hidden

And remember:
You’re approaching a person for a conversation, not applying for a position as my submissive.
You haven’t earned the title, the attention, or the dynamic yet.
Your first message is your opportunity to give me a reason to want to know more about you, so make it worth answering.

Good luck, be sharp 🖤✨

true finsubs have absolutely no problem obeying rule #1 and demonstrating their respect for the power dynamic from the start. ignore those dms without sends. save your energy for the real ones 🫶🏼

I’m a 24 year old weak loser desperate to bow down and serve a controlling dominant goddess.