r/REALfindomsupport

I occasionally share little teasing photos here and there but don’t do nudity. Despite that, I’ve gained a few subs, one in particular who is quite loyal. I enjoy getting comments on my posts and seeing them do well by posting in different communities.

Additionally, thanks to my stickied post that says all potential subs must first send Yoti age verification and be over a certain age, the amount of ghosters and time wasters has been much cut down.

I helped a Queen sell feet content today .
I didn’t sell her a course , didn’t scam nor
Lead her on . I simply gave her motivation walked her through it and said “ Be yourself “

She just made $138 and I’m smiling like a proud mother .

I’m just so proud to see her win and although I don’t have any subs currently by choice . My goal was to help someone else because the universe knows me best . I’m happy for her and I just met her today .

There’s enough room for all of us and I want you to know you got this too ❤️❤️❤️

So I’m a new domme and I feel like a lot of twitter dommes are so mean. Don’t get me wrong I have met dommes who are very kind & give me so many helpful tips starting literally if it weren’t for them I wouldn’t know what AV was lol. 😝 I have very close bonds with them now. And I want to meet more dommes just now I feel like it’s so difficult for some reason. I love findom & it’s fun talking to subs however I want domme friends I want sexy dommes that will talk with me about the dumb shit we have our subs do like idk empowering woman is critical in my world and it feels like x twitter isn’t really for that unless you have a high following. Is there any platform that isn’t as harshhh ?? Or also if any dommes want new domme friends im here(: ⛓️🎀✨

I need some support 🥺

I’m going through dom drop after an intense scene. Where we went deep. I held it, I directed it, I took care of him through it and afterwards. And then I crashed.

On top of that, he went quiet for days now. Even though we had an explicit conversation early on where he told me he would never go silent on me even when being in a weird headspace or dealing with sub drop, that he communicates, that he’d never fade and ghost, that if he needed space he’d say so. He’s been true to that until now.

I’m watching someone I genuinely care about (way more than I intended to when this started 3 months ago) most likely going through subdrop himself without knowing it. And instead of letting me be there for him the way I know how to, he’s shut the door.

I’m sitting with drop, grief and the loneliness of being a domme who took care of everyone in the scene and is now taking care of herself alone.

Has anyone else navigated dom drop when your sub simultaneously goes through their own drop and pulls away? How did you hold yourself through it? And how did you handle the dynamic afterward when they resurfaced?

I know subs hang around here too: I’d really like to hear from your side too 🫶

A year on Reddit which also means about a year in the findom space. Happy with how much I’ve grown and all the things I’ve learned along the way. Findom has given Me more confidence and empowerment than I ever expected. It’s been quite the journey!

Cheers to more growth, great subs and new milestones to come!!💸🥂

I see a lot of dommes constantly ranting about quitting findom because they “can’t find subs” or nobody is approaching them. A lot of y’all are stuck in the mindset that subs always have to make the first move. There’s nothing wrong with hunting for your sub yourself. Honestly, that’s worked out best for me. Sometimes the best dynamics start because the Domme knew what she wanted and went after it.