Nineteen Month Update: Making Her Fully Anal Dependent
Hey everyone. It's been about seven months since my one-year update, so we're just past the nineteen-month mark now.
The biggest update: she's fully anal-only now.
At the one-year mark I still said "mostly" because vaginal happened occasionally. That's over. We phased it out, I made the rule clear, and she adapted exactly the way I wanted. Her orgasms are anal now. Her training took. Her body responds to it faster, harder, and more reliably than anything else. I don't think of her as someone I'm trying to transition anymore. I think of her as transitioned.
Anal sex itself has become much easier on her too. Early on, even good sessions could leave her sore. Now, with enough lube and the daily plug routine, it's basically her normal sex. Not anatomically the same as vaginal, obviously, but in terms of how casually her body accepts it and how little recovery she needs afterward, anal has replaced what vaginal used to be.
She does still usually feel full and a little bloated afterward. Not in a bad way, more like her body's been worked and needs a minute to settle. I like plugging her right away when she's like that. It keeps the reminder in place. If she's actually sore or crampy, I leave it alone, but when it's just that post-anal fullness, plugging her afterward is one of those small rituals that makes the whole thing feel complete.
My sex drive is high. I want her at least once a day, and I still haven't gotten bored of it. That's part of what I like about fully anal-only: AO means always. There's no deciding which hole, no drifting back to vaginal because it's easier, no treating anal like a special occasion. If anal is the only hole I use, then her body, our supplies, and the house have to be set up for that reality.
I know I sound stricter about it now than I did in the earlier updates, but I can't deny how much credit she deserves. She's gone further than I expected, and the hottest part is that she's made this her own instead of just doing it for me. The stricter structure works because she responds to it and because she keeps choosing to go deeper into it.
One thing that's changed since last time: we're not quite the shut-ins I described in the one-year post. I said back then that being homebodies was what made this lifestyle possible, and I still think that's true for building it. But now that the training is settled, it holds up outside the house too, so I've been taking her out for meals and errands more often. Partly as a reward, partly because I like seeing how normal she can act while still plugged. More dinners out, more shopping, more little errands that turn into me buying her something because she handled herself the way I expected. It's not just bedroom rewards anymore. It's become a way of showing her that I notice the effort, while still reinforcing exactly what earns that treatment.
Recently I had her for a quickie before lunch, came in her ass, plugged her afterward, and then told her we were going out. No long scene, no big discussion. Just used, filled, plugged, and taken to lunch like that. She was quiet in the car, but not upset. More focused. At the restaurant she sat there dressed normally, ordering normally, knowing exactly what was being held inside her. That kind of normal public composure after being used is becoming one of my favorite parts of this.
The confidence shift is obvious now. The other day she put on a dress herself before we went out, with a g-string and a plug already in. She knows how important thongs and g-strings are to me, so that choice wasn't random. She didn't complain once.
A year ago she would've been self-conscious about that combination. Jeans felt safer because they gave compression and held everything in place. Even yoga pants used to make her nervous, which is funny because every girl in this city wears them, but at least they kept the plug pressed where it belonged. A dress with only a g-string under it was worse because there was no structure, no real support, nothing helping her hide it or hold it if the plug shifted. This time she chose it, checked herself in the mirror, and went. That told me a lot. She's not just enduring the headspace anymore. She's learning to live in it.
For those who asked about the two-week continuous wear goal from the last update: we did try it, a couple months after that post. She made it nine days. Her body wasn't the problem. The problem was that we were treating it like one long endurance stunt, the same mistake as our first 24/7 attempts. By day nine she was tired of it in a way that had nothing to do with arousal, so I called it. Not a failure, just information. That attempt is actually what shaped where we are now. Plug wear is still basically daily, and this time she's the one showing more interest in trying continuous wear again. The 24/7 idea is coming back, but with structure instead of ego.
The system we're building is simple: day plug, night plug, cleanup, switch, repeat. The night plug is smaller and more forgiving. During the day I'm moving her toward thicker-necked plugs because that's when I want her aware of it. Weight was the old lever, and the Snugs already did that work; the neck is the new one. Comfortable plugs become the baseline; thicker, more demanding plugs bring the arousal back when she starts ignoring them. The goal isn't just keeping something in her ass. The goal is controlling when she gets to forget she's plugged and when she's forced to remember.
The Snug Plugs used to be the baseline because they're reliable for long wear, but I've been slowly phasing them out as the default. Part of it is simple math: she reached the Snug 7 around the one-year mark, and there is no Snug 8. The line took her as far as it goes. So now the 7 is her day fallback when the Blunt or a thicker training plug is too much, and she sleeps with the 5. Think about that for a second: the plug that was a milestone at the six-month mark is now the one her body treats as easy enough to sleep on, weight and all.
I still trust the line, but I don't want her dependent on one comfortable brand forever. Work plug means she can function. Sleep plug means even sleep isn't a break. Training plug means she's not supposed to ignore it.
That's where the Blunt Plug comes in. We started her on the medium to learn the shape, and getting the large in was never the question. She takes bigger than that in weekend sessions. Holding it is the training. The large's neck is about as thick as the Snug 7 at its widest point, so the girth she used to pass in a second and rest behind, she now holds at the opening the whole time the plug is in.
The first day she managed about twenty minutes of that before it had to come out. Now she does most of a day. The Snugs trained the habit. The Blunt trains the neck: staying relaxed around something wide for the long haul, then still tightening back down afterward. It's not replacing the Snugs for sleep or recovery; it's what moves her beyond them during the day.
Funny side effect of the shape: her day plug now passes more girth going in than her old weekend ceiling did. And the line keeps going. The XL's neck is that old ceiling all over again, except held all day instead of passed once. No rush. But it lives in my head.
I've already taken her out with the Blunt a couple of times. At first she said the thicker neck made her feel like she needed to go more often, which makes sense given how differently it holds her open. What's interesting is that the panic of that feeling seems to be fading. She's starting to read it less as "I need the bathroom" and more as pressure, fullness, and arousal. That's exactly the kind of conditioning I wanted from the neck training.
The next experiment I keep coming back to is exercise while plugged. She walks plenty when we're out, but I mean real exercise: a short run, a proper workout, something that gets her breathing hard with the plug still in. The diet changes already made her slimmer and more toned, and she used to joke that going anal-only came with a free fitness plan. I'd like to make that literal. My guess is we'd start with the Snug 5. The girth is nothing to her anymore, but that's still 350 grams bouncing with every step, which is honestly part of the appeal. Constant motion could keep her aroused the entire time, or it could just be annoying and sweaty. Only one way to find out.
The big stretch pieces and the splitter are doing what they've always done: weekend sessions. Those were never wear toys. The one that actually changed lanes is the Egg Plug XL. At the one-year mark she was wearing it around the house all the time, but it doesn't work the neck the way the Blunt does, so it lost its wear slot and lives with the session toys now. That plug really stretched her back then. Now it's just a normal training day. The split is simple: plugs are for wear and neck training, the big toys are for size, and the splitter is still the width specialist.
And yes, the "even larger toys" we were eyeing in the last update: we went further up the Egg line. Skipped the 2XL completely, it would've been redundant at her level, and went straight to the 3XL and the one they literally call the Monster. Both are bigger around than the old champion of our collection, the piece she held for an hour as an achievement back around the one-year mark. That toy was her ceiling. Now it's the warm-up.
She's gotten the 3XL fully seated a couple of times now. The Monster she can take right up to the widest point, but her body won't close over it yet. Watching her work at that wall is honestly half the fun. I'll report back when she gets there.
Laser hair removal is basically finished now too. By the eighteen-month mark she was fully bare. Realistically, I'll still take her in for touch-ups as maintenance, but the main work is done. My only regret is that we didn't start the sessions on day one instead of half a year in. For this lifestyle, bare should be the default from the beginning. Cleanup is easier, the bidet works better, and visually there's nothing in the way. There's nothing better than bare holes, especially her asshole. With thongs, plugs, and the physical changes from training, being fully bare makes everything look more exposed and more deliberate.
Since I asked about it in the last post: the appointment worry turned out to be a non-issue. We took the advice to book morning sessions and keep her unplugged the night before so things had time to settle. And honestly, the tech spends a few minutes down there and has seen everything. Nobody ever said a word. If your girl is nervous about it, the unplugged-night-before routine is enough.
Enemas are new since the last update. We hadn't really made them part of the routine before, but she brought them up herself. That mattered to me. It was her recognizing what being fully anal-only actually means and wanting to be prepared for it. That's the kind of initiative I never have to ask for anymore. Now light prep is part of certain days, especially if I've told her ahead of time that she's going to be used harder or plugged longer.
The visual changes are still there. Her ass still looks changed. The opening stays slightly open when she's relaxed, and the skin around it looks smoother, more stretched, less tight and wrinkled than it used to. The whole area looks more relaxed and used. That's part of the appeal for me. I know some people hear "gape" and think fiction or porn exaggeration, but I'm not talking about her being helpless or leaking everywhere. I'm talking about the visible result of constant anal use, plug wear, and large toys. It looks trained. It looks used. It looks like her ass has become what we made it.
Functionally, she's still managing herself. No real fecal leakage, no public accidents, nothing like that. The psyllium and diet still help keep things predictable. Occasionally after long plug wear there can be a little mucus, and gas control isn't quite what it used to be, especially after larger or thicker-necked plugs. Privately, I find that hot. I know not everyone will get that, but for me it's another reminder of how trained her ass is now and how much the lifestyle has changed her body.
One piece of advice from the last update that we took seriously was about control. In the one-year post I wrote that her sphincter tone probably wasn't coming back and that she was at peace with that. A few people pushed back on that framing, and they were right: trained doesn't have to mean uncontrolled. An anal-heavy life doesn't mean letting her lose the ability to close properly. The goal isn't leakage or real damage. The goal is range: open when I want her open, controlled when she needs to be controlled. She researched pelvic floor and sphincter-control exercises herself and has been doing them for that reason. Not to undo the training, but to keep her body responsive and functional.
The practical stuff still matters. The bidet remains one of the best decisions. Good lube, towels, wipes, spare underwear, enemas when the day calls for it, and keeping supplies where they're actually used makes the whole lifestyle easier. If you want anal-only to be real and not just fantasy talk, you have to manage the logistics.
We're also considering labia piercings as a way to reinforce the anal-only identity. Nothing rushed, but the idea has been coming up more often. I read a comment from someone who had oversized, slightly offset labia rings that could be pinned closed temporarily, basically making vaginal access unavailable for a scene or a date night. Not long-term, because bathroom logistics make that unrealistic, but symbolically it hit exactly the right nerve for me.
Her main concern is thong wear. Since thongs and g-strings are still the default, she's worried about healing, rubbing, snagging, and whether jewelry would make daily wear annoying or impractical. That's the part we need more real-world information on before doing anything.
Emotionally, I feel more settled than I did at the one-year point. I used to have guilt mixed in with the arousal because her body and sexuality had changed so much. I still feel responsible for the changes, but I don't sit in guilt the same way anymore. We've talked about it a lot. She's been direct that she doesn't want me treating her like I damaged her. She wants me dominant, not apologetic, and that's what she gets.
So that's where we are: fully anal-only, sex at least daily, laser mostly finished except maintenance touch-ups, enemas now part of preparation, plug training moving back toward 24/7 structure, Blunt neck training underway, the bigger toys in progress, and labia piercings under discussion as the next symbolic step.
For those of you further along with real 24/7 wear: how did you structure the plug rotation once the comfortable plugs became routine? Did you move to thicker-necked or otherwise more demanding plugs during the day to bring the arousal back, or save stretching for separate sessions? And if anyone has taken their girl up the Blunt line past the large, or found other plugs with a serious neck that work for all-day training, I want to hear how far that track realistically goes.
Related: has anyone actually had their girl exercise while plugged? Running, lifting, yoga, anything with real movement. What size worked, did it stay put, and did it add to the conditioning or just get in the way?
She's also agreed that if people have questions for her directly, especially about daily plugging, gas control, the Blunt, public outings, or what fully anal-only feels like from her side, I can show them to her and she may answer some.
Also curious if anyone has used labia piercings, temporary locking, permanent jewelry, tattoos, or other physical markers to reinforce an anal-only dynamic. If she wears thongs daily, did piercings cause friction or comfort issues after healing?