u/hornyonburneracct

I (42M) am way hornier and kinkier than my lovely wife (45F) of 16 years. The best solution I'm able to come up with, is save many of the kinkier tasks for myself. She has a tolerance for somethings, but just isn't enthusiastic, and really doesn't get chastity.

I love chastity and use it with her at times, mostly as a way to edge if I'm giving her a long sensual massage, or maybe out during a date night dinner which just keeps me laser focused on her and having a positive night because I cannot get the sex portion of the night out of my mind. It puts me in such an erotic headspace.

Otherwise, it's mostly me self-locking which makes me impossible horny.

I'd love to hear from other penis having individuals that don't have the key-holder dynamic. I want to hear what I am missing out on and what I should be doing that I'm not today. I want to do more, just need the ideas.

P.S. I'm getting a chastity belt today to keep it a little more snug, and cannot wait to take delivery and get locked.

I'm really interested in getting a penis pump, but the sole reason is recreational. I don't have ED, and understand that it doesn't lead to permanent gains (for the most part).

I'm just wondering, does it feel better during sex or masturbation? Is it more exciting to look at and touch?

I (42M) fit right into the stereotype of wanting sex more than my wife (45F). We've talked about it a ton, but finding a compromise that works for both of us has been tough. You'll just have to trust me that our marriage is really healthy. We have a great partnership and we share responsibilities evenly.

To try and find a middle ground, I spent a couple hundred bucks on Amazon for a massage table, sheets, some candles, and coconut oil.

I've done a couple of sessions now in a dark, candlelit room with a sound bath soundtrack playing. It isn't exactly roleplay, but I do my best to mimic a real massage therapist. I walk her into the room, tell her to undress to whatever level she's comfortable with, and then I step out.

When I come back in, I have a timer set on my watch. I spend about 5 minutes on each major part of her body, like her back and shoulders, left arm and hand, right arm and hand, lower back, and so on. I don't say a word except to check in on the pressure. For a full 60 minutes, I don't touch her sexually at all. Even when I'm rubbing her thighs, I might only momentarily brush her pussy, but absolutely no rubbing or fingering.

The massage part lasts a whole hour. Only when that's done and she's on her back will I spend a few minutes focusing on her breasts. After that, I finally run my hand between her legs. After 16 years of marriage, I can easily say this gets her wetter than she has ever been. She's sopping, moaning and carnal.

An hour is a long time, but for me, it's basically another version of gooning. I get to look, touch, and give myself a discreet tug here and there. My anticipation builds up right alongside hers. By the end of the hour, my boxers are soaked with pre-cum, and then we both get this amazing release.

If you're struggling to connect or have a deep, rich sexual experience with your spouse, I've found this massage routine to be a total life hack. Definitely give it a shot.