r/ChastityPsychology

Just curious what everyone thinks. A hypersexual then GF had me wear a chastity cage a few times and I feel like the experience totally changed the way she viewed me.

She was more up front about wanting to cuck me with her ex fuck buddy. She was less interested in sex with me. She seemed to get a little more sexually frustrated and also seemed to get sexual with me as an occasional reward for me instead of out of her own desires. I overheard her talking about me in degrading terms to her ex fuck buddy.

Do you think this was all inevitable? Or was caused or accelerated by us both experiencing me in chastity?

I dabbled in being caged a few years back and it didn’t work great. Plastic cage was too big so I ultimately could “fuck it” and cum.

Was put in a position where I needed to not cum for days which has always been a challenge for me. I’m incredibly horny and sexual. Having a night without my partner meant free time and I worried I’d put myself in a position to cum. So, not trusting delivery times, I went to a local fetish store for a cage.

I was fitted by the clerk well enough in a metal piece. I instantly realized 2 things 1. It was so heavy I needed a support band/string 2. I loved it.

It had the opposite effect I thought it would. I felt manlier. I’m not exceptionally well endowed and the weight and added bulge was highly erotic. I felt instant calm; all of a sudden I was at peace with my cock and sex drive. It gave me this sense of control because the cage meant cumming was not a priority.

I got home and just watched some caged porn rubbing my nipples. I felt so one with my penis and my senses everywhere else heightened. I wasn’t getting hard and struggling either. I was just there, feeling in control. As someone who is a bit compulsively reliant on pornography, it was quite cathartic to just “turn it off” without cumming.

I want to explore this more. Lighter cages are in my future (the impracticality of metal is just obvious). V curious if others can relate here. Thanks!

Hello everyone, I’ve recently acquired a cheap Amazon shaft only cage and you may have seen my post about glans ring sizing help. Well I finally found the right size and have been wearing the new cage for a couple days now. Something happened last night that kinda blew my mind a bit and I’m compelled to give you all my thoughts.

First some context: I’ve been married coming up on 3 years now and the wife and I got into chastity about 4.5-5 years ago. I had known about it for a number of years before I met her but never had the courage to buy one. After her and I moved in together we began discussing our sex life here and there. I opened the topic of chastity since she had no clue what it was (she’s from a very sheltered Mormon family) anyways one thing leads to another I get a cheap cage we fool around a bit, time passes chastity is here and there bla bla bla. Eventually I get a real kink3d cage and start doing more long term stuff bla bla bla she starts wearing my key around her neck the whole nine yards. We had fun with it. Even walked the Vegas strip with my key on full display between her breasts in a very low cut top which was incredibly exciting. Thought it all though I had constant struggles with all the ball trap cages I tried. Chaffing, irritation, inability to pee conveniently, etc. and the lockups started to get more distant especially with me unable to wear the cage at work because I require the ability to pee outside sometimes at work and I have never found a ball trap cage that lets me do anything but sit to pee as not to make a mess. Eventually my wife gets pregnant and the cage fades away. Fast forward to present day and my son is 1 year old and things are sorta finding a new rhythm for us again. I began to get interested in digging up the old cage again and getting back into it. However instantly I was reminded of the old hassles and pains that came with it. So with a heavy heart I resigned myself to the thought of never caging seriously again. That’s when I stumbled upon a picture of a strange looking device. It turned out to be a craverise shaft only cage. This peaked my interest and I began to research which led me to this page and all of you fine people.

Main discussion:
Ok so last night I had work my new Amazon shaft only cage all the live long day and it was now bed time. The wife had fallen asleep but I was restless and decided to hop on Reddit and do some good old fashioned gooning for a while. Well after a bit I start to get erect so I lower my underwear to kinda check things out you know for curiosity sake lol. And as I’m laying there gooning on Reddit with an erection now free from the confines of my underwear I instinctively reach down to tease myself like normal as if I didn’t have any cage on. When my hand met the covered head of my member and I didn’t feel that familiar sensation of skin on skin and the pleasures that come with that boy oh boy did I feel something new. My heart began to race as I frantically tried to pleasure myself to no avail. I couldn’t stroke, I couldn’t rub the head, I couldn’t feel anything but what in my eyes chastity is supposed to make you feel. True denial. Now I thought a ball trap cage was the way to go for this feeling but turns out for me, I didn’t know what I was missing until that moment laying in my bed unable to feel any sort of pleasurable feeling from my hand. I could move my shaft. I could touch the base but the important bits, the bits that matter… nothing. Just plastic. And this inability to do anything WHILE I WAS HARD made it wayyyy better (or worse depending on how you look at it) than any ball trap design I’ve ever had. The fact that I COULD get hard but couldn’t actually do anything about it made it all the more gloriously frustrating. And the more I lay there gooning the more my member throbbed and the more frustrated I got at not being able to chase that pleasure I was used to. Never in all my time with ball trap devices had I ever been this frustrated and happy. Eventually I was forced by this new cage to accept surrender, put my phone away, and agonizingly wait for my heart to slow and my shaft to soften before I could finally go to sleep. And in the morning? Well I was able to get right up and go stand over my toilet to release some fluids. STAND. I was able to stand! No mess! No inadvertent splashes. No pee hole being misaligned with the opening. No struggle to actually get flow because it’s a bit too tight in the small cage with some morning wood. I just… WENT! It was incredible! I took it off today to go to physical therapy as well as to clean the thing, but the fact of the matter is, I could actually easily wear this thing anywhere! I might finally have a shot at long term lockup! Real long term! I could actually get to do what my wife and I set out to do in the first place. Hand her the key and she gets to unlock me when she wants! Not because I have to work. Not because the bad ring is rubbing me raw. Not because I need to use a urinal wherever I am headed. No no no with this shaft only design she can do what we originally discussed. Only unlocking to make beautiful love to my wife. That’s a possibility now and I couldn’t be happier! I’ve ordered me a cravrise shaft only cage now (I want a HZD cage but sadly money is a bit tight right now) and I’m so excited to go to my wife and let her know what I’ve discovered. Is there a trade off? Sure in the other cages I couldn’t get hard which was nice I did enjoy that. But being able to have so much comfort and freedom plus the new frustration and denial I’m feeling from this design the trade off is absolutely worth it! Anyways I hope all of you enjoy reading my thoughts if you choose to and I hope it brings some friendly discussion in the comments. Thanks!

I'm a little over two weeks into a lockup with my husband (he's my keyholder), and I've noticed that I seem to be swinging back and forth between two states of mine, one where I feel super masculine (I'm now exersizing more, eating better, and just generally feeling really good alongside more manly), but also more feminime (especially when I see his penis/erection compared to my cage and I'm reminded that compared to him, I'm not nearly as 'complete' of a man when I'm like this, I have a deep need to 'take care of him' both sexually and just in general). I feel almost like I'm two different people driving the same body, weirdly enough.

This isn't meant to be a post where I complain about the dynamic, far from it. I find it fascinating that I'm almost pendulumning between two different states of mind, both of which center around the idea of being locked away and needing an outlet for my pent-up horniness. One that focuses on improving myself and my life in meaningful ways, and the other which is focused on making my husband feel good when he's home (I'm more touchy and willing to have deeper conversations about topic I know nothing about), either by taking on more chores or being more receptive to our conversations.

For the record, I may not be labelling these mental states correctly, with my current language and vocabularly the closes approximation that I can think of one side being masculine and the other more feminine. I do not mean to be reductive in this sense, please let me know if there is better terminology I could use to describe this!

I'm a male that has been enjoying chastity for a few months and my gf supports it and for a while she was my kh but she didn't have a lot of fun with it. Recently I got her into female chastity and I act as both of our keyholders and we've now been having fun with that, seeing how much we can tease and torture each other.

We've started chatting about how fun it would be for both of us to be locked and have a 3rd party be they holder of both keys. It borders on maybe the cuck kink, but something about having another dominant male control our locks that sounds exciting to us.

Is there any other couples playing with chastity where you goth a 3rd party involved as a keyholder? If anyone has any thoughts or advice on why it would be good or bad, let me know.

I mainly self lock but want a key holder. I have 2 very open minded kink friendly friends that I’ve thought about approaching to see if either would hold my keys . These friends don’t know each other and both are currently dating other people. Neither know I’m more kinky than they probably think. Both are kind of “main stream” kinky. What should I do ?

There is nothing more that I love in this world than being feminine! I have done it all except getting a chastity cage! I have trained myself pretty well to stay limp but I thought of wearing one to totally make my clitty worthless. I love cumming from anal! It’s the only way I have cum in the last 3 years. I’m pretty small. I’m just seeking advice on a good beginner cage and what to expect? Any advice would surely be appreciated ❤️

I surprised myself training to suck on dildos.
I also sometimes feel or think as a girl.
This is crazy.

Me and the wifey keep my chastity cage and our intimate life private. But recently I just can't shake the feeling of how I wish it was more open knowledge. I know it's generally a kink and absolutely not a fix all for couples. But the potential benefits are really there. Yes there's a lot of femdom fantasy and kinks where all men are to be caged. Beyond the sexual aspects, I wonder if encouraging men to cage should be more normalized. So many men are gooning their brains out and clearly there is no "quenching the flesh". Paradoxically engaging in restraint can be much more liberating.

Do you think if the kink aspect were to be more muted chastity cages could be more normalized?