u/puppy2016

Are there actually couples where both partners are locked? Even without any D/S dynamic like mutual keyholding or when the dominant person hold both keys. I can think of a role play or denial on agreement to make the intimacy stronger.

I found only one article about it where a couple decided to be both locked for 30 days as a part of a contest. Not sure if I can link it here. The interesting part they discussed was it may lead to a frustration that they can spend the nights together, just without the intercourse. For me it is more like a dream :-)

Many people use chastity devices to achieve long term self or d/s control and denial. I am self-locking and I am actually interested in the devices itself rather than literal chastity, it is my kind of fetish. I enjoy the physical sensation of being locked in full chastity belt. I tried several cages, but it didn't bring that experience. I've never looked for a keyholder or any other d/s relationship with rewards. I am not going to break wearing duration record either.

I am single, but the most interesting aspect for me is the imagination of a sensation play that the physical restricion (I assume we both would be self-locked) during intimacy would bring a new experience, among a light bsdsm. It wouldn't be a mechanism of long-term strict control, which is otherwise widely used for.

I already asked in a different subredit how much prevalent is chastity self-locking among women and got answers that it is problematic because of the logistic. Full belt is hard to wear long-term, it limits the selection of clothes, it is expensive etc. I assume that majority of the answers were related to the common long term chastity control.

When it comes to my way of usage that it becomes just a fetish device, is that similar for women too? I mean if they can experience the same kind of physical sensation like men because of the different anatomy. It would help me to find out how many chances are there to find a partner with similar kind of fetish.

Many people use chastity devices to achieve long term self or d/s control and denial. I am self-locking and I am actually interested in the devices itself, it is my kind of fetish. I enjoy the physical sensation of being locked in full chastity belt. I tried several cages, but it didn't bring that experience. I've never looked for a keyholder or any other d/s relationship with rewards. I am not going to break wearing duration record either.

I am single, but the most interesting aspect for me is the imagination of a sensation play that the physical restricion (I assume we both would be self-locked) during intimacy would bring a new experience. It wouldn't be a mechanism of long-term strict control, which is otherwise widely used for.

I already asked in a different subredit how much prevalent is chastity self-locking among women and got answers that it is problematic because of the logistic. Full belt is hard to wear long-term, it limits the selection of clothes, it is expensive etc. I assume that majority of the answers were related to the common long term chastity control.

When it comes to my way of usage that it becomes just a fetish device, is that similar for women too? I mean if they can experience the same kind of physical sensation like men because of the different anatomy. It would help me to find out how many chances are there to find a partner with similar kind of fetish.

I am 53 and single. I discovered the pleasure of being self-locked in full chastity belt. Unlike many people, I am not looking for a female as a keyholder or any other kind of dominant-submissive reward contract like mutual locking where you can be unlocked if ... I can control myself. At the same time I simply miss the intimacy and the time spent together with someone.

I am looking for a 40+ woman who is also single and found the self-locking pleasure for a causal dating or let's say a friendship with benefits. We can do everything, cuddle, kiss, some light bdsm, except of the intercourse (including the alternative stimulation). This is where the boundary will be set by our belts. I like the feeling of the desire that isn't possible to fulfil.

I travel Europe quite often. German or surrounding countries.

I understand this is almost trying to find a unicorn, but who knows. No professionals who would play that for $.

I am male who is self-locking, it is kind of fetish for me. I am wondering why the self-locking is apparently much less prevalent among women?

Are you more shy to share the story or is it simply not interesting for you?

It was raised in discussion to my different post here Causal dating while both being permanently self-locked. I would appreciate a comment from women's perspective.

I am male and I live single. I discovered the pleasure of being occasionally self-locked. I ended up with a full metal belt, no cage ever fit well and I like the total protection. I am aware of the alternative stimulation methods :-) but I am not interested in them and it can be prevented by a slightly modified belt too.

Unlike many people, I am not looking for a female as a keyholder or any other kind of dominant-submissive reward contract like mutual locking where you can be unlocked if ... I can control myself. At the same time I simply miss the intimacy and the time spent together with someone.

My idea is to find a woman who is also single and found the self-locking pleasure for a causal dating or let's say a friendship with benefits. We could do everything, cuddle, kiss, maybe some light bdsm, except of the intercourse (and the alternative stimulation). This is where the boundary would be set by the mechanical restriction. It would make a more safety space for her too. I like the feeling of the desire that isn't possible to fulfill.

I know this may sound strange and probably nearly impossible in reality, but that's why we are humans.