u/justacutipatooti

Sir and I have a strict no secrets policy. He has two other subs, so transparency is absolutely crucial for our dynamic. Well, he thinks I broke that rule, and I guess he's technically right, but also I don't think so 😂 Let me explain:

I love writing eroticas just for myself, which he knows and he chooses not to read them out of respect for my preferences. But this morning I was talking on the phone with my sister and I mentioned that the erotica that I'm writing right now is low-key a fantasy of mine that I'd love to live out but know I never will (I didn't say what the fantasy was btw). Sir was in the room when I shared this and afterwards asked me about the fantasy, because he wanted to help me live it out if that was possible. I told him I didn't actually want to experience this fantasy and that it's just that, a fantasy. But now his curiosity was triggered and he wanted to know what the erotica was about, and I told him I wanted to keep it to myself.

He pointed out that that's blatantly against our no secrets rule. He said that since I was refusing to tell him, we had gone from him respecting my privacy preferences to me now keeping secrets. He said this matter-of-factly, as in he didn't mean to use this as a threat or anything like that to force me to tell him, but he did say he felt like a punishment was now necessary.

And yeah, technically he's right: we have a no secrets rule and I'm keeping a secret, so by our own standards I'm supposed to be punished. But I just don't think this warrants a punishment and that it isn't that big of a deal. He wouldn't even care about this erotica thing if I hadn't mentioned it in the first place.

I'm currently scheduled to be punished tomorrow afternoon, so it's not too late for me to appeal and convince him not to punish me, which has happened a few times before. I just don't know what my case would be other than "I don't want to be punished." Like, of course not, that's what makes it a punishment 😂

I could also safe word I suppose, but I'd rather just take the punishment than do that.

Idk, if anyone has any ideas, let me know. Should I be punished? Should I try to talk Sir out of it? What do y'all think?

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I'm wondering what other subs are regularly punished for? For me, it's talking back to Sir and being forgetful (like forgetting to text Sir or forgetting where I left his car keys). I'm feeling a bit insecure right now and feeling like I'm not a very good sub since I'm constantly being punished, so Sir recommended I get on here and hear what rules other subs struggle with.

Sir has two other subs, one of whom is a slave like I am. We've all been working towards a point where we can all do this together, if that makes sense; instead of Sir having three separate relationships, we want to all submit to him together. So the three of us have been getting to know each other, and a few days ago us two slaves had a bit of a threesome with Sir. There were some moments of jealousy and insecurity in that scene, but nothing I'd say unhealthy or unexpected.

But last night, Sir had me watch while he and his service sub had sex. From what I understand, it's pretty rare for the two of them to have sex. Normally she just does chores for him and he kind of ridiculous her work and slaps her around a bit to satisfy her degradation and humiliation kinks. But every once and a while they have sex, like last night.

Sir had me watch from my cage, where I'm currently spending the night while they sleep in the bed. And I just feel really yucky and angry. He was so sweet to her, which is just not how I imagined their relationship. And while they were having sex she kept smiling at me and I'm not sure what that was about. When they were done Sir did check in with me and I told him I was okay, but I'm realizing I'm not.

And I just feel awful because I'm going to ruin everything 😭 We've all been working hard to make this work and I don't want to be the one to create a problem.

What's a BDSM or BDSM-adjacent thing or activity you wish you could do in public? For me, I really wish Sir and I could walk around with him holding my leash, or be tied up/handcuffed while going about daily life with other people. Being bound and/or being leashed just gives me so much security and purpose, but there's just no way we could ever get away with doing it

What's a BDSM or BDSM-adjacent thing or activity you wish you could do in public? For me, I really wish Sir and I could walk around with him holding my leash, or be tied up/handcuffed while going about daily life with other people. Being bound and/or being leashed just gives me so much security and purpose, but there's just no way we could ever get away with doing it

Okay, there may not actually be a threesome, cuz I don't actually know what we're doing tonight 😂 but Sir's other slave and I have been getting to know each other for the past two or three weeks, and we've both agreed that we're at a point where we can try a scene together. So tonight we'll both be staying at Sir's place, and he's confirmed that we're all going to have a scene together. I've never had a scene with a third person or done anything with another woman, so I'd love to hear any tips or thoughts from anyone 😊❤️ thanks!

Okay, there may not actually be a threesome, cuz I don't actually know what we're doing tonight 😂 but Sir's other slave and I have been getting to know each other for the past two or three weeks, and we've both agreed that we're at a point where we can try a scene together. So tonight we'll both be staying at Sir's place, and he's confirmed that we're all going to have a scene together. I've never had a scene with a third person or done anything with another woman, so I'd love to hear any tips or thoughts from anyone 😊❤️ thanks!

This is kind of an update on my post from yesterday, and I'll share the link to that if anyone wants the full story. But the short version is that yesterday Sir and I were both in a bad head space during a punishment that I really needed, and we ended up basically canceling the punishment abruptly. It left us both feeling icky and guilty all day, and it left me awake for most of the night.

So this morning we both apologized for our mistakes, but I was still feeling upset about the whole thing. His apology felt 100% genuine, but I didn't feel any closure about it. I told him I felt I still needed to be punished, even though that wasn't what I wanted; I felt like I was obligated to be put back in my place. So he scheduled for me to be punished via spanking and/or face-slapping this evening.

Well, it really sucked. Sir never tells me how many times I'm going to be struck, he just feels it out as the scene goes on and we communicate as needed, but I'm expected to trust him to do what's best for me. Under the circumstances I assumed he'd go easy on me, so that's what I came in expecting. Instead, he decided to really let me have it.

I'm not sure how detailed I really need to be, but it was really brutal and intimate. Face-slapping is just next level of pain and fear in my opinion, and there was a lot of that. I was absolutely sobbing for a lot of it. He did a great job of making sure I had what I needed, and we took several breaks so I could get some water, but it was just awful.

But the aftercare! Sir had me melting. He dried my tears and wrapped me up in a cocoon with warm blankets, and stroked my hair while he sang to me. I can't even tell you how sweet he is. He gave me some gentle forehead kisses and told me how great I did and how much he loved me.

Even if all of yesterday sucked and the punishment was brutal, it was all worth it just to be wrapped in his arms and getting to feel like his precious princess ❤️ I absolutely love belonging to this man and I'm the happiest woman alive right now 😊

Previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/SubSanctuary/s/FLAmYR8Mj6

The other day I was rude to Sir, so he scheduled for me to be punished today at 7:15. I knew I deserved it because being disrespectful to Sir is against our rules, but I was in a bad mood and pretty upset about being punished. So when the first paddle hit me, I snapped and shouted at him "Geez that hurt!" He responded with "It's supposed to hurt, dumass."

Now, Sir has always hated swearing with a passion. I'm not entirely sure why, but he's always found it to be cringe and annoying, so I'm not allowed to swear at all. I don't think I've ever heard him swear before. So this was so out of nowhere from him that I just burst out laughing. And I could tell he was really embarrassed by it too, cuz I think it just came out before he could stop himself.

So he kinda just stopped the punishment then and there. He said he felt hypocritical punishing me for breaking the rules when he just broke one of them himself. At the moment I was all for ending the punishment because, again, I was in a bad mood about being punished in the first place.

But now I just feel guilty. There have been times in the past when he's let me off the hook because he knew I felt bad about breaking the rules and I was doing my best, but this time was different. I definitely deserved the punishment and I feel bad that he wasn't able to give it to me. I also feel bad for him cuz I think he's feeling a little guilty about it to.

So yeah, it's kinda an awkward evening for us both. I just wanted to talk to someone about it and this subreddit came to mind, so thanks to this place for existing 😂❤️

This subreddit has a no doms rule, right? I'm sure I'm not the only person who gets DMs from doms as a result of sharing on here. Is there a place to report them or something?

When you're standing in the corner, or locked in a cage, or tied up and left alone, what do you think about?

This question is for both subs and Doms. Subs, when you're standing in the corner, or locked in a cage, or tied up and left alone, what do you think about? And Doms, when you tell your sub to stand in the corner, or lock them in a cage, or leave them tied up for awhile, what are you thinking about while they're there?

Sir has two other subs, one of whom is a slave like I am, and we all kind of know each other but not really. So the other day we decided to hangout and talk and get to know each other. It was so much fun, these two women are incredible, and there's one conversation that really made me laugh and I think reveals what a true Dom should be.

We were all talking about punishments and writing lines came up for both of us who are slaves, and I realized Sir has radically different uses for lines with each of us. I'm a bit of a stubborn problem child, and Sir really has to work to keep me in line. So when I write lines, it's usually something like "it will obey it's Master, and it will not disrespect its Master again." You know, something to remind me to submit and obey.

Meanwhile, Sir's other slave struggles with low self-esteem and has suffered from very abusive relationships in the past. So when she writes lines, it's usually something like "I am loved and cherished, and beautiful in Master's eyes." Usually Sir has her do this after she's been harsh on herself for no reason or something like that.

At one point during the hangout I was saying something like "Ugh, lines are the worst" and she was like "tell me about it," so we assumed we were on the same page until we got into the details. This was absolutely hilarious to me, but someone on another subreddit where I shared this story pointed something out, and I think it deserves to be shared again.

Sir cares deeply about each of us, and is customizing rules and punishments to help us as individuals. He's not in it for his kinks or for the sex or the erotic games, he's in it because he loves his subs. I always assumed he just enjoyed being strict and giving harsh punishments (which he does, btw), but he only does that to me because that's what I need to grow and be a better version of himself. Meanwhile his other slave needs to be nurtured and picked up off the ground gently so she can keep going on with life, and so he does that not because he enjoys it (although he does enjoy it) but because he's willing to sacrifice his time and energy to help this person out. And I think that's so sweet and makes him an absolute role model and a quintessential Dom!

Anyway, I just fell in love with Sir a bit more and thought it was worth sharing. Hopefully that didn't come across as preachy. Everyone have a wonderful day <3

I shared a post earlier today where I got to hangout with Sir's other two subs, one of whom is a slave like I am. We were all talking about punishments and writing lines came up for both of us, and I realized Sir has radically different uses for lines with each of us 😂

I'm a bit of a stubborn, problem child, and Sir really has to work to keep me in line. So when I write lines, it's usually something like "it will obey it's Master, and it will not disrespect its Master again." You know, something to remind me to submit and obey.

Meanwhile, Sir's other slave struggles with self-esteem and has suffered from very abusive relationships in the past. So when she writes lines, it's usually something like "I am loved and cherished, and beautiful in Master's eyes." Usually this happens after she's being harsh on herself for no reason or something.

I just thought it was hilarious how different our lines are 😂 I was saying something like "Ugh, lines are the worst" and she was like "tell me about it," so we assumed we were on the same page until we got into the details.

Anyway, this was funny to me and I had to share it, so thanks for listening ❤️

My Sir has three subs, two of whom are slaves, and we all kind of know each other but not really, so we wanted to have an evening of hanging out, making memories together, and get to know one another. We were supposed to go line dancing last night, but then I disobeyed Sir's rules and he scheduled a punishment for me which had me in handcuffs for most of the day. We talked about rescheduling either the punishment or the hangout, but decided instead that the three of us would just stay at one of ours apartment and just do stuff there.

This was actually a ton of fun and even better than line dancing, cuz we got to spend the entire evening just talking and getting to know each other. It was also weirdly fun to be handcuffed in front of someone who isn't Sir, like I got to share this part of me that normally is taboo to bring up.

I got to learn so much about these two incredible women, and even learn some things about Sir! Apparently he's helped one of them heal and recover from past abusive relationships, and I never would have known about this without talking to her because Sir tries not to talk about us with each other. So that was so fun to hear that my Master is making the world a better place!

Anyway, last night was such a good time and I needed to tell someone, so thanks for listening! ❤️

Edit: I actually make a reddit account specifically because I wanted to share this and didn't know where else to do it cuz I can't mention stuff like this on Instagram or Facebook without my family finding out 😂