u/kittykitty2323

We met 1 month ago. First date during week 1 was amazing, we couldn't keep our hands off eachother. Week 3 was a great second date overnight at hotel. Week 4, had our third date which was 2 nights at a hotel.

I asked him what he was looking for and he said he just wants to take it slow and see where it goes. I ended up crying because there's no certainty we can meet again after each date if there's nothing keeping us together.. If that makes sense.. I know its only been a month but he's my first date, kiss..First everything. I told him on our first date that i have no experience and I will get emotionally attached. I guess he shrugged it off..

He's a very popular and insanely charismatic man. He has so many women interested in him, I think he takes dating very casually. Like its more a fun laid back thing with absolutely no rush. Which is totally fair but I'm so anxious and emotional while he's so chill about the whole thing..

Question:

Is this just how older men above 55 are? Do you guys feel way more casual and laid back about dating? No rush for anything? How long does it take to know you are ready for a relationship.

Quick simple edit..

• I know he isn't talking to or dating anyone else. He'd tell me if he was. He's very transparent. I don't think he was really looking for dating in the first place, it just kinda happened for us unexpectedly

• I was the one who initiated sex, he didn't want to do anything until I was ready. He's very patient, caring and makes sure I'm always comfortable.

Concerns:

• All his past relationships the past decade have been women over 40.. 27 & 60 is a large age gap and probably comes with certain issues..

• He's always been the one to end relationships because he "just didn't feel anything".

• He's so talkative, charismatic, silly and classy.. Whereas I'm shy and I don't talk much.. It's taking me longer to warm up and get out of my shell.. I'm worried I'm too boring

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Im 27 dating a 60 yr old man for 3 weeks now.

We've had 2 amazing dates, second was an overnight date. He told me how much he liked me, he never met a woman like me, he said he loves everything about me, he talked about our plans together in a few months.. All the things we'll do together.

I told him in the beginning to not get my hopes up, that I don't want false promises. I told him to not hurt my feelings because it'd break my heart if i got my hopes up for nothing. He has been so amazing, we constantly held hands, kissed, hugged.. He said it felt like we knew eachother so much longer.

He knows he's my first ever date and that I warned him in the beginning that I might feel strong emotions and again, not to get my hopes up. He told me he wouldn't do that to me.

The past 3 weeks, we've been texting and calling a lot. Sending random cute messages throughout the day and flirting.

After our second date a few days ago, communication took a complete 180. I sent him a text hoping he was doing okay, he told me he's been busy. Which I know he's busy with work, I totally understand.

I sent a message yesterday and he left me on read. Usually I get a reply like "pretty or cool" but nothing. Its just so different now, its weird. I know its only been a few days so I'll be patient, maybe he really is too busy to send a text but my heart still hurts thinking it all could've been a lie and he got my hopes up for nothing..

I've been back on the dating app and noticed he comes online a couple times too..

Ugh I just dont know if this is normal in early dating?

Should I wait a couple more days and maybe ask to see where his head is at and if he still wants to continue getting to know eachother? I just wanna know how much space I should give him, i have no experience with dating and I don't want to be needy. I need some guidance on how to deal with a busy older man and respect his space