u/letsbekids

I’m looking for just the right burger. I’ll explain later. But for now, strap in, I’m writing a novel.

I’m a 38 year-old living in Philadelphia. I am a man. I am also non-binary. That duality doesn’t have to necessarily make sense to you, but you do need to respect it in order to love me. Not one of us should change ourselves to please another. I want the real you too.

I moved all over as a kid and came to the city as a wide eyed, dreams in the sky 18-year-old. I completely expected to make it big as a songwriter and that hasn’t happened yet. What I have done is built quite a nice life for myself here. I have a great job running a bar and booking shows. I play in a few bands with dear friends. I’m blessed enough to have my very own row home and two very cute and kooky cats. Life here in the USA just seems to be getting tougher and tougher. So I consider myself extremely lucky to have such a safe and stable life. But it’s missing something…

Truth be told I haven’t done much dating this last decade. I found myself at the end of a disappointing marriage and realized there was so much I needed to heal within myself. And that’s been my focus for a while now.

I don’t know much about you. You are feminine, but maybe you’re a bit queer too. You must be kind. You must be loving. You must crave exploration. But I’m not sure you must be much else. I would prefer to be partnered with someone active and healthy. I would greatly prefer it if you were in your 30s. I guess that’s not a hard rule. If all of this makes just the right kind of sense to you, I’d love to hear from you.

At my best times I would call myself delightfully eccentric. I think anyone that find themselves here isn’t one for garden variety desires. So right away we have that in common. I’ve never given myself much freedom to explore the ABDL lifestyle. It’s something I deeply crave but felt I couldn’t have because of my fairly public life. I’ll always want this and I’m ready.

I have a million kinks. But I’m slow to open my sexuality to others. I am demisexual. I want to date. I want to fall in love. And then I want to build a life together. I’ve always been drawn to a caregiver role. I do explore little and middle space activities on my own. Ideally I would find a partner that would occasionally welcome fluidity in our dynamic.

So, let me tell you about the burger.

Recently, I’ve switched back to a flip phone. I still have other devices but I greatly limit their use. I feel like they distract me from the business of really living. I feel that our desires are meant to be calls to action, not an itch to be scratched so easily with the flick of a finger. It takes presence, being in the moment, to really get at what we’re after. The other day I woke with a deep craving, I imagined the world‘s greatest smash burger. I could almost taste it. I didn’t know when or where I would find it, but I knew it was out there. I found myself wandering the city. Many burgers came along my path, but some instinct pushed me forward. Hours later I found myself in a small park and there it was, a single lunch truck emblazoned with the words smash burgers. Something clicked. I knew it was the one. I had waited all day. My hunger was an intense physical sensation. And that burger was perfect. The best I ever had. It was just the right burger. And I suppose that’s what I’m looking for. I know it’s out there and worth waiting for.

I’ve never used it before but I read that there is a healthy community there. How does one get invited to ageplay or ABDL themed groups?