u/magicplant024

Is this a normal kink?

About 2 years ago, I(current f25) was a sugar baby—one man had kinks I hadn’t heard of & introduced the terms 'CNC' & rape play. I was so off-put & thrown off. I thought how could someone be into this?

Well, here I am—2 years later wanting exactly that. Because of the fact I was genuinely so off put by it originally, & now, 2y later, can’t stop thinking about it.

***(Background context: I’ve been in a on/off toxic relationship since 18–there’s been cheating, lost trust, betray. When I was sugaring, my boyfriend didn’t know the full extent of what I was doing, & when he found out I “had” to stop it all. He resents me for it; while I miss that time of my life.)***

I get so horny reading CNC & rape play experiences on here. I even went behind my bfs back (he just recently chested, again :/), & reached out to the sugar daddy that introduced these terms to me, & he wrote a story I can read & fantasize about. He’s open to it, I’m just holding back because of what happened last time sugaring & my bf.

Do I really want to experience this? Or is reading & fantasizing about it enough? I feel like I need this though…& my boyfriend is not into it at all. So I’m not getting fulfilled by him, making this want even stronger.

Is this a normal kink, or does it mean somethings wrong? Clearly, there’s a lot of other people who do. But is there a deeper meaning to why this is a want or is it masking something?

I know rape is wrong. So why do I want to be fucked like I’m being raped? It worries me that if that ever did happen, i’d enjoy it…

I just want to fully submit & have no control. I want someone else to take control & overpower me & degrade me. I want someone to be merciless (My bf hold backs just being rough). I want to feel objectified, like I’m just a toy. I want to be degraded & embarrassed.

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u/magicplant024 — 9 hours ago

I (25F) want to be fully submissive, completely dominated, something like a daddy/kitten relationship? I want to be pleasure dominated, punished with too much pleasure & restrictions, lots of foreplay, & praised and rewarded pleasurably of course? But mainly that older, mentor-like, smarter than & knows more, holds power & control—I act almost childish, young, & stubborn, he acts mature, calculated, & overpowering? I’ve only had similar relationships while I was a SB, but I’m looking for this in a partner but I’m not sure how to describe this other than fully explaining.

Edit: my kinks are DDlg, bratting, funishments, cnc, & a pleasure dom/sub dynamic

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u/magicplant024 — 25 days ago