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Some time ago, we added a rule that more tightly focused this subreddit on asking questions or providing insight and we referred journal-style posts or status updates to r/chastityjourney.

In enforcing this rule consistently and even-handedly, we now feel it actually handicaps this subreddit's ability to help people make chastity work in their lives — a lot of insight can be gained from a journal-style post on someone else's relationship with chastity and how it is working for them.

We are relaxing the rule #2 to allow posts that deliver value to those that are reading them, posts where someone might gain insight into how chastity works in others' lives. Simple status updates such as, "just got my new cage, locked for three days" don't do that. But something with depth might. It's a fuzzier line that the prior version of rule 2 so please understand that we mods try our best to enforce it in the most consistent way we can.

Rule 2: We are here to discuss making chastity work; not to masturbate about it or RP or blog about it.

Our former 500-character-limited description:

>Stay on topic. There are other places to write erotica, discuss how horny you get or roleplay. Things that just read too porny or detail orgasms will be removed. Also, we're not looking for blog posts, use r/chastityjourney. But you are free to link to posts you've made elsewhere. Status updates with low effort questions tacked on the end will also get locked. Finally, don't involve us in your dynamic and don't insert yourself into someone else's.

The updated version:

>Stay on topic. There are other places to write erotica, discuss how horny you get or roleplay. Things that just read too porny or detail orgasms will be removed. Journal-style posts need to include some insight useful to others. Status updates with low effort questions tacked on the end will be removed. Finally, don't involve us in your dynamic and don't insert yourself into someone else's.

As always, if we remove your post, it isn't intended as a judgment of you or your experience — only our attempt to apply the rule consistently

This subreddit has always been about asking questions, getting answers, and sharing insights but we recognize that people also want to form a connection. So that's what this thread is about. In this thread, we are suspending one aspect of rule 7 — you can make "chat friends". Feel free to post discord servers or the like or solicit for other chastity users to DM you. This is not a place to find keyholders, solicit for subs, or share chaster links and all other rules remain in force.

From a quick search, a few horror stories I found that I thought would be useful to share.

>Did some catheter play a few years ago and wound up in the hospital for several days with sepsis…. and yes I was being careful and as sterile as I could be. Something went wrong though, and it could have killed me. I was very sick.

>This same thing happened to me [UTI → sepsis] I was in the hospital for a week and to go through all kinds of tests it was very hard on my body

>I inserted it and the next day I had an awful pinching like getting stung internally. I got out of bed and I was swollen n in my cage. Luckily it was plastic so I put my crotch in freezing water and carefully broke the cage and removed the catheter. I had 8 cuts in total and a uti coplete with swelling, pain, and peeing blood clots for 2 weeks. Ended up in the hospital twice with a near life threatening fear and complications in breathing. I will never catheter again.

>The last time I used my inverted cage, the silicone tube came off and was stuck inside my urethra of my penis. Luckily, I had to pee within minutes, and the pee pushed the silicone tube out of my penis. I have not used that cage since. The thought of having thousands of dollars in medical bills for a temporary kink just doesn't seem worth it to me.

As an aside, I find it horribly negligent that this is all Ternence has to say about their cages with silicone catheters:

>Cleaning: Use a mild soap or body wash and clean it with a soft towel or brush (toothbrush).

I've been on a ball-trap / tetherspout kick for a while now but decided to switch back to shaft-only for a bit so pulled out my custom nylon Grip that I hadn't tried on yet. My last one, the alpha print caused a hot spot on the top of my corona. This one uses the wide band without the wings. I used the 31 mm as that's what I had in my alpha print. It seemed solid but it came off overnight (the penis does weird things at night). I switched to a 29 mm one and while it's certainly snug, it doesn't seem to be giving me any comfort issues and it stayed on over night.

Anyway, fun to be back in a shaft-only device.

Now I just need to add a titanium version to my collection. You hear that u/notuntil ;)

This subreddit has always been about asking questions, getting answers, and sharing insights but we recognize that people also want to form a connection. So that's what this thread is about. In this thread, we are suspending one aspect of rule 7 — you can make "chat friends". Feel free to post discord servers or the like or solicit for other chastity users to DM you. This is not a place to find keyholders, solicit for subs, or share chaster links and all other rules remain in force.

I've sent multiple messages to chastity-shop about a custom key for a security screw and I've never gotten a response. Right now, I'm just looking for a decorative key for a Burg Wächter ME/2 but my wife is looking for something more art deco than he seems to have — and I've already learned he has limited ability to respond to a customer inquiry.

So, anyone with jewelry making experience that could tell me what options there are for making a custom decorative key for a ME/2 lock? Like what would I look for in a jeweler or what premium should I be expected to pay over a premade piece of similar weight and finally, what metals should I consider for a functional key?

Or could I just CAD the key (yes, that's perfectly doable) and send it to someone who does casting?

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I don't know, maybe it's just me paying attention but there seems to be a higher density of "I just got my first spout in" posts than usual.

And I just want to say congrats and welcome to the club.

And now I want to recruit you all into my evil cabal of men with tubes magically stuck in their penises. If you're the kind of person that likes showing off photos, please go forth and spread the good word. The tetherspout's biggest disadvantage (and in my mind, only disadvantage) to a PA is proper cage support — there just aren't enough cages that have first-class spout support. So, the more people out there showing photos in r/chastity or with their Cobras in r/kink3d, the more likely people like u/kink3d, u/roosterCage3D, and u/josielynnCD will notice and we'll have other options apart from BAWR and u/evotionChastity (not that there's anything wrong with either of those options, they are just outside of many of our budgets).

For the rest of us, I guess we're stuck with text posts... or CAD renders including things that vaguely look like penises — and are a bit creepy.

Almost all websites selling chastity cages are selling commodity Chinese cages at a significant markup from what you can find on the large marketplaces like AliEx, Temu, eBay, or Amazon. If you see a cage on one of those sites that you like, try a reverse image search and you're very likely to see the exact device for far less.

These cages are generally rather low quality compared to business who are selling their own designs directly to customers.

And do note that the terms Cobra, Viper, and Holy Trainer (aka HTv5) are all trademarked. The only sites selling the authentic devices of those names are https://kink3d.com and https://www.holytrainer.com/. Everyone else is blatantly abusing their trademarks to fool unsuspecting people.

For a fairly comprehensive list of businesses selling their own designs, please see our wiki.

Jenn has never been one for vibrators or simple dildos. Honestly, it’s probably only perimenopause that led to my longer lockups in the first place — and anyone in their 50s probably understands what that can do to a woman’s sex drive.

But I think we may have finally found a way for me to genuinely enjoy her pleasure without worrying about my own climax.

Ironically, it’s something we talked about years ago, long before chastity and she being my Domina, but back then $500 for a sex toy sounded insane. These days we’re fortunate enough that it no longer feels like a major decision.

So what does $500 get you?

Apparently, it gets me cucked by The Terminator.

We purchased a Hismith Premium 3.5 — a full-on fuck machine. It took a few tries to get the positioning right, but once dialed in… well... It will not stop. It will not tire. It will not negotiate. It just keeps thrusting until she comes.

And not to brag — too much — my ego did quite well with the experience: the included dildo is actually smaller than me not to mention floppier (hey, I'm 51, give me my small wins). Since she’s decided she likes the machine, we’ll probably be upgrading that part soon enough.

I know most women seem perfectly happy with vibrators or the classic “neck massager,” but if your wife really wants hard, consistent thrusting that only you seemed capable of providing there’s always The Terminator.

Jenn has never been one for vibrators or simple dildos. Honestly, it’s probably only perimenopause that led to my longer lockups in the first place — and anyone in their 50s probably understands what that can do to a woman’s sex drive.

But I think we may have finally found a way for me to genuinely enjoy her pleasure without worrying about my own climax.

Ironically, it’s something we talked about years ago, long before chastity, but back then $500 for a sex toy sounded insane. These days we’re fortunate enough that it no longer feels like a major decision.

So what does $500 get you?

Well, it gets me cucked by The Terminator.

We purchased a Hismith Premium 3.5 — a full-on fuck machine. It took a few tries to get the positioning right, but once dialed in… well... It will not stop. It will not tire. It will not negotiate. It just keeps thrusting until she comes.

And not to brag — too much — my ego did quite well with the experience: the included dildo is actually smaller than me not to mention floppier (hey, I'm 51, give me my small wins). Since she’s decided she likes the machine, we’ll probably be upgrading that part soon enough.

I know most women seem perfectly happy with vibrators or the classic “neck massager,” but if your wife really wants hard, consistent thrusting that only you seemed capable of providing there’s always The Terminator.