u/nunyabidness635

So I still have the tailbone/muscle pain when inserting the plug, but it goes away if I just gently push it to that threshold, hold, and then pull out, then go back to that threshold and check. It seems fine.

My issue is, I can sit down, lay down, no problem for the most part. At least for a few hours. But the moment I stand up, bottomless btw, the plug wants to partially push out. Not fall out, just no be hilted slightly.

I've tried relubing the neck, my hole, my ass, I've tried sitting on the corner of something to wedge it in more. I just... Don't know if it is actually resting properly, or if the plug might be too long?

Cuz the other issue is, I might be able to wear the plug for hours while lying down. But if I take it out, relube and try to put it back in, the tailbone area is sore again but even MORE so when I get to that threshold. Just a quick sharp pain, and then it's fine again.

Speaking of relubing, the reason I do so, is because the entrance, it just seems to hate pressure after some time, and DEVOURS the coconut oil. So I'll try to reapply, put it back in, but the same dull burning ache happens at the entrance.

Finally, the next day, my tailbone is sore if the plug is gone. And itll be sore for a day or so. But only when sitting or clenching.

I just want to know if it's girth, plug length being too much, or if the plug just isn't fully inserted when I think it is?

I use the spt egg L/XL. And I want to make sure I'm not damaging anything. I have hemorrhoids if that helps with anything.

Basically my question is, is the entire penis and scrotum supposed to fill the ring up to your public bone with no pinching? Or is it not supposed to contain that match and not sit that high? I'm asking, because I keep seeing people saying they are using 44 or 48mm rings, and I'm just like... That doesn't fit all of me though...

I have a 64mm ring and while it is too big and I can escape, I feel if it was slightly smaller, I would be able to fit comfortably? But I'm unsure.

Any and all help is appreciated because I have the Vice Mach 2, and the ring sizes left are 60, 56, 54, and 50mm. But I don't know the if 4mm is significant in size or not.

Hi, me again. I'll start by saying my rectum is very spacious. Like if I get a finger in the only skin contact I feel is around the entrance.

Anyway, I'm trying to figure out how to dilate safely. I currently have a 2.25 inch diamater dildo,(not used for plugging but for reference) and a Square Peg Toys L/XL Egg. I can get the plug in, but there's a few issues I noticed.

1. It isn't obvious at first, but my tailbone has to shift to allow the plug in. It stings a bit for a second as that threshold is reached at the widest part, but once beyond it, it settles nicely. I bring this up, because sometimes I am sore down there the next day or two. I want to make sure I'm not damaging myself so I don't know how to properly stretch my opening, so that this initial tailbone issue doesn't occur. I've tried finding dilators like the mod mentioned, but I can't really find any that come in that size. Do I just hold my plug at that point of stretch?

2. I've heard people talking about Hotspots, but I don't typically understand them. Like, I feel discomfort/pressure on one point at my opening at the top(point closest to belly) . I know it's a hemmoroid SOMETIMES. But other times I know it's not and it's just the stretch I gotta get used to for a few minutes? As I said, the rectum is spacious but the anus has issue accepting. But I've noticed the feeling of having to expel, is rather strong, compared to when I use a dildo which typically isn't the case. Why would my dildo feel better to use, than a plug?

3. Lube. I have hemmoroids that won't go away without surgery. I used sliquid soul in the past which was a coconut oil stroking assistant, (store told me they couldn't market it as lube) but I can't find it anymore. I've tried using unrefined coconut oil but feel I'm doing something wrong? Sometimes it is creamy and melts, other times it is sharp and pointy and I try to avoid those sections. Is there a special way I'm supposed to prepare this lube? It also feels like even if I cover myself both inside and out with the stuff, as well as the toy, it dries up quick.

4. Did I bite off more than I can chew? My internals feel fine, it's the opening I feel that takes on the heavy load. I mean I can stick a finger in alongside the plug and seems like it's sitting on the walls comfortably. It's just that opening that seems to bave issue. I'm scared to buy a smaller plug, because I've gotten close to having them go all the way in with zero effort.

Any and all help is appreciated. And Mod, if you read this, I'd like to thank you in advance for the sage wisdom you shall bestow upon me like you always do.