Where are your favorite places to get tested, with documentation that is clear for showing providers, while being discrete enough for a range of client situations? Specifically asking from the perspective of a client but obviously happy for anyone to provide info. I assume that most places do both genital and oral (because why wouldn't they) but if you have info to the contrary that would be useful.
I think this mostly falls into the "vent" category of posts but it's a positive, rainbow, cotton candy scented kind of steam I'm blowing off. Just had my second session with a new massage therapist, and she checks all the boxes for me. She's compassionate, smart, fun to talk to, she puts me at ease, her aesthetics turn me on (body, smile, voice, the way she walks), and she's communicative and intuitive. Basic massage with HJ. Expensive for that class of services but not expensive for her particular service. The first meeting had its awkward moments which blossomed into understanding communication. And, whether intrinsic or constructed, she conveys a sincere desire to connect on a human level.
And I'm left with a huge amount of gratitude that she offers herself like this, and gives me the opportunity to experience this particular kind of singular, libidinous, and yes, for me, spiritual thing that is at the edge of the possible. And I hope that any of you SWers who are reading this might consider the extent to which it applies to you, because all I really want to do is just express that gratitude. I think what I'm feeling is just how much this person gives, how much she allows me to receive, and the fullness of it, and how fraught that all is against a backdrop of all of the difficult parts of this work.
It's funny though, I also have this little hint of a feeling of like, oh no, I need to keep my head on straight about this. Having seen other women in this context, there is something that feels self-protective when things are just good, not great. It makes it really clear where the lines are. In this case its like, "hey buddy, you got exactly what you've been looking for, and it's right against that line, and no further, hey buddy, hey can you see that line, hey, listen, buddy NO FURTHER".
Wondering if anyone has any insight for me. Maybe just venting. On the one hand, I've read posts here about how Tryst will take ages verifying a providers account or images, or pull the account over alleged breaches. And it's not cheap to keep a profile there, as far as I know.
On the other hand, there are now so many verifiably fake profiles trying to get people to click on an OF link. How verifiable? The only contact info is a link to OF, for example (where it is absolutely prohibited to discuss meeting). Or there is only an OF link and the email address bounces, and so on. And this is with providers who do not tag themselves as only offering online services.
So, to try to help keep this legitimately useful site clean of clutter, I try to flag OF spam whenever I can. But lately, many of these flags have been rejected. It seems to me like there is this perverse (not in a good way) incentive for Tryst to indulge OF spammers if they're paying to advertise. And I'm sure some legit profiles get flagged accidentally (but it's almost always so easy to tell, in my opinion).
Do any SWers here have thoughts on this? Is OF spam not a problem? Are the solutions worse than the problem? Just curious. Thanks!