u/pineappleaffair

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Thrill and desire sums up what I seek from an AP. Thrill from the naughtiness of stepping out and doing things to each other which our spouses won’t consider. Desire for each other that makes our pulse race - something based on connection and lust. I want us to be sluts for each other. Not promiscuous. Uninhibited, raw, passionate.
An little bit about me:
Physically: tall (6’8”) - if you like tall guys or have a height fetish… call me lol. Fit/active but not ripped. Working on it after some rough months earlier this year. Natural dirty Blonde hair, sexy blue eyes. Usually I keep a short beard.
Personality: Ambivert by nature, equally reserved and outgoing. Silly/absurd and dark sense of humor. Liberal politically. I have a solid career with a flexible schedule. I travel 3-10 times per year for work. I adore music, art, and books - though with two kids under 4 I haven’t had as much time to read for myself.
What I look for in an AP:
Age 25-55, married or partnered preferred, stable/professional, good with her words and feelings (mentally/emotionally stable). I don’t have a “type” per sé but I am attracted to nice smiles & eyes and I adore a nice ass & legs. I’d expect we would be able to meet for dates a few times per month at least. It’s a plus if you can travel, like to hike or camp, and if you are kinky or sexually adventurous. I’m not looking for a vanilla partner.

If you want to reach out, tell me about you and your favorite thing about yourself.

I want to be sluts for each other. I know, the term “slut” is stigmatized in many ways. Often it means promiscuity though, this is not how I mean it. What I mean this is that I want to fulfill all your fantasies, taste every inch of you, be passionate, be drenched in your scent, do things your husband (or even you) won’t even speak about, and visa versa.

I don’t have time to be a promiscuous slut. But I do have time to get to know someone, ask questions, listen, and act on the desires and filthy minded fantasies that they dream of at night. I do have time to set aside to make these realities happen. I have the drive to make an AP quiver and moan and feel things they deserve to feel.

This isn’t just about sex for me - though it does hang in its orbit. This is about freedom and evolution, a life divided, the duality of our nature and a deep exploration of another person with that tinge of excitement that comes from being an AP.

I like to be straight forward. What I expect from this relationship is just that: I expect regular meets once we get comfortable with each other. 2-3 times per month. I do not expect you to rearrange your life for me or me for you but I do expect effort and a will to show up. I expect us to message and tease and excite each other when we can’t be together. Not so much it gets in the way but enough to know there’s still something going on. Lastly, I expect that we’re as open and honest (honor among thieves) with each other as is possible. This includes other partners, sexual health, availability, emotions, etc.

About me: I’m a generous kind of guy, not exceedingly focused on fame, glory, money, status. I give each of these aspects of life their fair share of attention but I keep a small but close group of friends, I work hard - and am successful - but I don’t work so much that it affects my life, and I don’t try to be macho/popular/well-known. My physicality does that for me enough as it is. I’m a 6’8” tall and good looking man. Short beard usually, natural dirty blonde hair, blue eyes. I’ve been called the poor man’s Bradley Cooper by more than a few people. I’m constantly exploring my self and I’m curious about others. I’m kind to service professionals, kids, animals, and people I disagree with. I don’t drink or do drugs but not because I am against them so if you do, that’s ok. I’m simply at a point in my life that I don’t want or need them. Also, I take care of myself. I work out, eat better than the standard American diet, and go to therapy. The only time you’ll catch me smelly is when I get tangled in a home DIY project or after a long backpacking trip. And even then, I’ve been told my “man” smell is often intoxicating. Lastly, I’m kinky and looking to explore more with a partner. I’m not a deviant and I prioritize the person (AP) over my own pleasure but, like I said, I’d be lying if I said sex and sexual fulfillment was not part of my goals.

What I look for in an AP: Someone stable in their life and in their own sense of being. I prefer that you’re married or have kids too but it’s not a deal breaker if you’re single. Someone discreet, smart, and aware. Age isn’t a big factor but I’ve rarely been mentally attracted to anyone younger than ~25. Usually no older than ~55. Physically I don’t have a type. A pretty smile and eyes are big to me. I do tend to prefer a good ass/legs over any other feature. The important thing is that you are confident in your body and that you take care of yourself. I want someone open to exploring and being explored. Not someone overly worried about if they shaved that day or if they are sweaty from the gym. I’m very very into cunnilingus and if you’re not we cannot be compatible. Lastly, someone who can be present and enjoy the moment. Just be you and show up.

If you liked this and want to talk please differentiate yourself from bots and spammers by writing me something like a haiku or tell me about a food or experience that was transcendent for you. Tell me about your goals and desires. Small talk isn’t my forte so lay out something deep, insane, or wild and let’s go from there.

Took a break from the AP search. Looking to get back into things with someone spicy and new.

I’m a tall and good looking. I’d prefer an AP with a daddy kink and an uninhibited spirit. 21+ only

Been married 10 years and had a number of APs which I’ve always met online. Most have been decent or great experiences with a few exceptions. However, I’ve been craving something a little more organic, like meeting someone in a real life scenario. I imagine picking someone up at a bar or restaurant, at the gym, or damn - there was this cute baker I flirted with for like 15 minutes the other day. My issue is two fold, I’m a bit hesitant about coming off as a creep or getting outed. Has anyone experienced this before? Any advice on how to proceed? Or am I overthinking things? I’ve been married so long I’m almost feeling like I forgot how to pick up someone lol. Do I just need to shoot my shot and deal with it?