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About a year ago, during one of our weekly check-ins. My wife mentioned that she thinks I spend too much time on my phone, she mentioned about changing some settings on my devices and setting some kind of parental controls. We agreed to try it out. It was hard to adjust at first but I started getting used to it. Although sometime months later I found a way to kinda bypass it and got caught.

To my surprise about a week later. I woke up as usual and noticed a MDM program that was installed on my phone. Not really knowing what it was, I tried to delete it but couldn’t. My wife was still asleep so I grabbed my laptop and there too had this profile called canopy. Doing a simple search I found it was a parental control app. Once I got my wife up and getting her ready for the day. I asked what that was about and she mentioned that she really did not like my ability to sneak around her screen times on my phone. So she installed this program on my phone and laptop. Basically with very limited time on sites, browsers and apps still with night screen times. There’s lots of filters also on it so my little escape to some porn is all gone. She mentioned wanting a program that is impossible to bypass and I must say it’s true. I secretly tried early on and couldn’t so that’s basically what led on to myself having one. I do admit that it has greatly improved myself overall and we both agree, it’s helped tremendously.

Just curious to hear from others their experience and benefits they have gained from parental controls as well as sharing our experiences.

So today is the 10th day now since my wife instituted and installed the phone monitoring app it’s certainly been a bit of an adjustment but it has really helped improve and remain focused to her.

It started during one of our recent weekly check-ins and she asked about how much time I spend looking at porn. I was honest and mentioned that I do look at least once daily even though I don’t act on self pleasure. She then asked about trying something different to help with this addiction. After agreeing, she did some research and afew days later. Asked for my phone and labtop. She settled on an app called canopy. After going over afew things with me she said it’s just a trial. Well after the 7th day during our check-in. She mentioned to me that she’s noticed a huge improvement in my overall behavior. I too must admit that because of my limitations with my devices, I have way more time for her. She stated that it’s here to stay. For shits I tried to remove it and I can’t turn off the VPN. She then got notified about me trying to reset my device.

I gotta admit it was definitely hot but also really helpful in remaining faithful to her. This paired with both caged and uncaged chastity have really helped solidify our marriage together. It’s allowed more special moments together and couldn’t be happier.

I know there are many so called cuckolds out there but for those who seriously have this dynamic established in your relationship or marriage. What makes you tick the way you do? Wives or partners, what enjoyment do you get from having your partner watch?

My wife and I have opened our marriage ethically now for a bit over three years and it’s been working wonderfully. It takes alot of work but we both thoroughly enjoyed the fruits of our hard work. 

Recently sitting in the cuck chair, a thought that’s never come up drew up. I asked myself in the heat of the moment: “why do I enjoy this so much?” My first thought was because of my submissive nature and being very compersive to my wife’s needs. It’s wonderful to see my wife getting the pleasure she deserves as unfortunately I’ve never been good at performing myself for her with traditional sex. 

Since we’ve introduced a more structured approach into our marriage. Everything has gone well. Taking a slow approach over the years. We discuss our feelings openly during our weekly check-ins. 

Recently, she brought up clothing control. While she certainly respects my opinion, we from day one agreed that as long as it’s not to harm or interfere with our emotions in a bad way. To give things a try. Well, when I recently came home from running errands. I knew she would be changing up my clothes as we’ve discussed this moving forward. I’ve started noticing clothes coming in the mail addressed to me. I knew something was in the works after we talked about it. She had all the clothes in the hamper for me to wash. After washing the laundry, I folded everything but was instructed to put the older clothes in a box that had already had all my other clothes from my dresser. I quickly realized that most of my clothes were out of the dresser. 

I noticed that my T-shirts were just white, my fun socks were now just dress socks. Most my shoes were gone. Mainly just dress shoes. Most of my Jeans replaced with various khaki pants and my rack had just mostly button downs and jackets. Now I still had afew let’s say normal comfortable clothes. It was very few and again, not everything was gone. 

She has always helped me with my confidence and generally wants me to confident which I greatly appreciate. She says that now unless it’s not warranted or under the rare circumstance I’m with my guy friends that I need to dress nicely now to help build confidence. It’s harmless and I definitely agree with her but I also never really had to dress up. She mentioned that there would be times where I would wear what she laid out the night before. I know personally it’s just an adjustment period but seeing khaki pants and dress shirts laid out really solidifies this dynamic with me as well as other deeper things that we’ve established.  

Is this something that would be too much? I’m not apprehensive or upset about. I’m just curious if this would be too controlling in an actual FLR. Again, she didn’t take everything from me nor getting rid of. But most are packed away for awhile. 

My now wife and I started our journey into a FLR dynamic about 8 years ago. From the beginning, I will admit, it started from a kinky fantasy I had sprung up and mentioned. Starting with the aid of chastity and a PIV free lifestyle.

Over the years as we’ve continued to grow and develop our relationship. The FLR dynamic has grown into our daily routine. I have always suffered from performance issues in the bedroom and it became apparent that traditional sex is just not for me. My wife though needs that release so we together went out and talked to a couples therapist about the proper way to approach ENM. There was certainly some growing pains early on but we’ve found that a combination of PIV free, chastity and established a Healthy FLR has led us to an amazing marriage. My wife has developed an amazing relationship with her partner who equally respects our marriage, he has intern relieved my stresses of the bedroom. Through this we’ve found an agreement, understanding and enjoyment in cuckolding.

Fast forward to today, the FLR dynamic has taken shape into a simpler dynamic. She has certainly expectations for me to happily follow. Some simple daily requirements boil down to coffee and breakfast in bed, daily household chores to more extreme requirements like clothing control, device monitoring controls and long duration chastity control. It’s a healthy more realistic balance that fits well into our daily routine.

I look back at the hard work we’ve all put in to make these arrangements all come together and flourish. We couldn’t be anymore happier. As the title says. What once was a fantasy has actually become reality. Through the good, bad and ugly along with time. It’s the life I dreamt and now the life WE both love.