u/rand0mradness

I found this sub group to ask the question, as looking at the name - people probably know the topic here!

So here it is - it has happenned.

My gf (30) out of the blue just dropped a bombshell of a statement - that she wants to peg me and dominate me.

I do recall her mentioning a long time ago (i dismissed) and honestly i even forgot about it.

Now she got in a bit of a sex- positive mood lately, and rather than doing stuff as normal, she claims to be wanting to spice things up a little, and that apparently includes my ass, of all things.

I am not certain how to feel about it exactly tbh, as I will admit that statwment low-key shocked me, and I can't tell wether I should feel worried, terrified or glad. 😂

At the same time, we've been together for over 10 years and gone up and down sexually with periods of goods and bads.

I'm a fairly kinky and openminded person, so perhaps I should just let it happen?

Tips, observations and expectations are welcome! Filter-free please. 😁

Hi there!

I just want to ask for some tips on the "rather obvious" but not quite!

Me and my partner are sort of entering the kinky world; meaning we've done some things, but it's still a bit missing, poorly executed beyond "vanilla" stuff and/or not as open as it could or even should.

Now i am very open and straightforward - i say and I do. It's regarding HER that i'm not too sure how to effectively approach things properly.

She can and want's to be submissive, and likes being dominated when in the riggt headspace. Its getting there where i struggle!

I try to suggest and offer to try stuff, and she is usually MOSTLY into it - she agrees at about 70% interest and/orenthusiasm, but seldomly "lets go", more like for later or next time. But when later comes, she's either not in a mood or it's too spontaneous, or she's not eased into it. Now she get's turned on NOT by sexual things!

I know that she has a reactive rather than proactive personality as a fact, so she'd be down to try stuff more, but i struggle getting her into that headspace!

I would like to hear your expertise how Do I approach and "train" her to be more receptive/submissive, and what would be rights the steps.

(Additional info; i'm referring her, but I understand that that's mostly my issue, being unable to turn her into that submissive slutty lass that she can and wants to be. So the tips would probably be aimed tomwards me, sort as aspiring light-dom)

As a bonus, both of us would like to go to an event of sorts (munches maybe?) as a couple; both 1st timers, early 30's. She said she'd like to, but doesn't want to deal with "perverts and nasty stuff" (i know it's seldomly the case with the right events from what i've read) but that's her outlook on it.

How would I approach this in order to make a nice memorable experience for both of us, and where would I be looking for these events in Europe?

The goal would be to hopefully meet new people and sort of ease in the lifestyle, hopefully!

Thanks!