u/rosemarynewmar

My HusDom and I recently made our dynamic official after years of kinky play. It's been great overall, but there have also been some lessons learned -- as well as some fun surprises. Here are the highlights, from my perspective:

Lessons

• I can't stand my husband being "mean" (degrading, witholding) to me in any way, but calling me a slut is totally fine (great, actually!) for some reason 🤷‍♀️
• I mentioned this in the aftercare discussion earlier today, but I've learned that I really do need cuddling after scenes, even if it's delayed while my husband cools down from the exertion (he runs very hot!)

Surprise

• I can squirt! We weren't trying to achieve this, but it happened during intercourse toward the end of a really good scene. We were both really excited about it, and hope to achieve it again at some point

How about you? What did you learn in the early days of your dynamic? Did anything surprise you?

If you've seen any of my recent posts, you know my husband and I have been exploring kinky play more and more. Recently, things have accelerated to the point that I'm wondering if we should formalize things as dom (him) and sub (me).

Obviously this type of arrangement will vary for everyone, but as I'm thinking about this, I wanted to get some thoughts from this community. What makes your dynamic a dynamic and not just a couple who enjoys kink?​

My husband I once roleplayed that he was a old timey pirate captain and I was a stowaway on his ship. He "discovered" me and I offered my body as payment for not being thrown overboard. It was extremely silly, but we had a good time 😄

How about you?

Hi there, I'm looking for a wearable vibrator that will actually deliver orgasms and not just tease. Admittedly, I have limited experience with this type of vibe, but I'm not super impressed with the one I have (Dame Eva).

For reference, my go-to non-wearable vibes are the Original Magic Wand and the Womanizer. I'm looking to wear this while performing oral sex on my partner​.

What I'm looking for:

• Designed for clit and/or gspot
• Can be worn with no support (no hands, panties, strap)
• Can stay on through some movement (I'm not gonna run marathons in this thing, but I'd like to be able to shift into different positions during sex)
• Strong vibrations

What I'm not looking for:

• Something discreet to wear in public. This is for home use, so no discretion needed

What is negotiable:

• App control. Could be fun, but not required
• Wearable during penetrative sex. Could be fun, but not required

...and why I need it 😅

I see it recommended a lot in various subs, and I'm curious what makes it so special. How do you use it in your activities?

Based on the conversations in this sub, it seems the women here are enjoying a variety of vibrators, dildos, and plugs. But men, what do you enjoy for yourself or non-men, what do you like to use on your male partners?

(I'm wondering about penis-havers primarily here, but open to any responses)

Hi everyone, no official dynamic in our home, but I'm (F) naturally a sub and my husband (M) is a dom-leaning switch. I am happy to be soft domme when he's in the mood for that, although it doesn't come super naturally.

ANYWAY, with all that in mind, my husband asked me to overstim him until he safewords. We've done some of this before by having me continue to stimulate him with my mouth or hands after he's already come. This is fun but I was wondering if more experienced folks might have some suggestions for other ways to overstim someone with a penis. The lack of multiple orgasms as an option is stumping me a little bit 🤔

Other than the classic collar, do you or your partner like to wear anything for your scenes and intimate moments?

I'm always on the hunt for lingerie that leaves my erogenous zones available so I can actually keep it on for the main event rather than pose for a few moments and then take them off. My favorites are stockings and garters. I also recently ordered a pair of crotchless pantyhose that has "Good Girl" stitched across the thighs that I'm very excited about 🤭

What about you? Harnesses, jewelry, perhaps a jaunty cap? Maybe someone actually wears "dom jeans" like the guy in Fifty Shades of Grey? (seems unlikely but I'd love to hear about it if so lol)