My experience in University dorms
Hey so I just found this sub and thought I might as well put my experience in here lol.
I was randomly assigned a dorm that was mostly women and the walls were very thin... so you could hear pretty much everything. One of the women there that I found so attractive was like the only one that would talk to me, she was so beautiful, way out of my league. We would talk almost daily about random things whenever we saw eachother. And then all of that stopped when she invited her boyfriend over one day... Day after day he would show up and then eventually he just start permanently living with us for free. He was always idling around in living room and the kitchen like he owned the place and being loud as ever to make it known that he's there. When I first spoke to him he was so extremely cocky with a smug smile on his face, I kind of hated it, but I would be smiling like that too if I was him. He was very tall and muscular but not too muscular. We would bond over gym talk since that's the only thing we had in common and I was surprised that he could bench almost twice as much as I could, I couldn't even compete in any category. But he always had this attitude where "hes already won", and I felt like he was always talking down at me in a subtle way, not to mention getting touchy with his gf while he's talking to me.
Walking in the shared kitchen always felt so awkward because they would be all over eachother and sort of "code switch" while I'm in the room making coffee or something. I'd see how they would small talk with me while having the biggest smiles for eachother, like they wanted me to envy them. And whenever I had left the room I could hear them "go back to normal" laughing out loud and being themselves. The nights were the worst, I'm completely sure every night they would start getting louder and louder than the last, making sure I hear the bed creaking as much as possible and him grunting even more than usual. The jealousy every night just felt like torture. Also to make it worse, their room was literally to my very right. So out of everyone in the dorms I was hearing all their moans and screams the most. It started becoming a pattern where I'd just sit there alone getting ready to listen to them having the night of their lives, every single night.
Then their behavior started changing even more. It went from them being super friendly to me(even with the smugness) to being more demanding. She would suddenly start telling me what to do, like take the bins out, do the dishes, clean the worktop. And then it would increase to things like clean their mess(drinks all over the table from drinking), check on their laundry etc. Not all at once but she would gradually ask more and more. All of a sudden he would start doing the same thing, basically telling me to do all the things she originally did. I'm 100% sure they had a conversation in private where they planned all of this in advance. The worst part is he doesn't even pay to live there, hes just sharing a room and yet he's telling me what to do everyday, and still I listened and didnt argue with him... It turned into a pattern where I'd avoid walking out my room because I'd know they'd have something for me to do, so I just stayed like a hermit in my room when I got back from lectures thinking that would solve it. They would party late almost every night at this point(and I was obviously not invited, they would make it clear I'm not supposed to be there) and after they were all done, I heard a knock on my door, it was both of them telling me that I had to clean up all their mess at like 2 am in the morning... They were making it clear to me that there's no avoiding my role and I'm just their cleaner from now on.
At this point I was upset because I missed having that one to one connection before he came along, and I didnt really talk to anybody else in the dorms. Whenever I did try to make conversation with her directly, she would somehow always make it about her bf, every conversation would lead back to him in a calculated way like "oh he does that too" "he told me..." "He doesn't like".
There was one time I was talking about something that wasn't related to him at all and she would just completely change the topic to "oh btw do you need your laptop, he left his at home". I tried to argue and push back because I really needed it for my labwork. But she persisted that I could just use the ones at the computer lab instead and that I didnt really need mine. She kept insisting and it was impossible for me to say no. He ended up having my personal laptop for the entire semester and would flaunt and use it right in front of me everyday until it just became his. I'd even see them both watching movies on the couch together laughing.
It didn't go much beyond this, but this is how it went on for months and months for the entire semester, and was pretty much the closest I'd ever experienced to being in the friendzone in real life. There's more that happened but I didn't want to make this post too long, feel free to ask more questions lol.
Edit: added some extra details