u/travelingteacher0

So I’ve been on seeking for a few months and I’ve recently met a potential SD who I really vibe with. Being transparent I do consider myself a bit picky, so it has been a bit of a uphill battle to find someone I connect with and am attracted to.

With that being said, how do I make sure he is looking for an arrangement and not a vanilla GF. Should I just ask him? Or do I risk losing him if he is one of men that are wary of “transactional” arrangements. We have only met once for a quick lunch and now he is back in my city this weekend. We are planning for a dinner and I’d like to see him - but I’d also like to know what he is looking for.

Sorry if this was long winded, but if anyone entered into a similar situation I’d like to hear your thoughts. Or any thoughts from anyone with more experience here than me! Thanks <3

If you are an SD that has paid for a cosmetic surgery, how long was the arrangement and who brought it up? Or if you’re an SB and feel comfortable sharing I’d love to hear about your experience.

I’m all natural and confident with myself, but would really like to get enhancing work done eventually and am wondering what the intersection this of sugaring would look like/if it’s a feasible want to have.

Additional context I don’t live in Miami, but I am in a major city where plastic surgery/enhancement procedures are super common.

I posted here a few days ago asking how to freestyle and I received some helpful advice/recommendations.

This post is more for curiosity sake, for SDs and SBs that met organically (no seeking/reddit/etc), how did it happen?

Who came up to who? Where you alone at a bar or with friends? Were you both living in the city or was one of you visiting? Was there certain language that let you know, or did it just progress into an SR over time? Was the nature of the relationship any different than other SR that were started via online platforms?

Answer as much or as little as you’d like, as an SB in NYC I’m genuinely curious how common it is to land an SD in the wild and if it’s worth the energy.

tl;dr - seeking anecdotal experiences freestyling in nyc

Really just seeking advice on what the header says!

I work in and frequent New York 3-4 times a week and am trying to scope out how I would find a POT organically.

Both SDs and SBs are invited to answer…where did you have the best of luck? Was it a particular neighborhood or during a certain time frame? I’m open to any suggestions :)

I’m on seeking and have had a M&G off of there, but it didn’t really progress beyond that. I’m naturally way more of an in-person individual and can strike up conversations with just about anyone. Additionally, I am a newbie to the sugar bowl, so I’m also seeking advice on how you would know it’s an SR and not just an age gap relationship.

I know there is no one magic answer & some of it is just right place right time, but I’d love to hear about the experiences of others.