I don’t always require tribute immediately upfront. Sometimes I genuinely like to talk first and see where the conversation leads. But when y’all skip past building the connection and jump straight into play mode expecting free attention & pleasure that’s usually where you lose me. Effort, respect, and intention matter.
I see a lot of dommes constantly ranting about quitting findom because they “can’t find subs” or nobody is approaching them. A lot of y’all are stuck in the mindset that subs always have to make the first move. There’s nothing wrong with hunting for your sub yourself. Honestly, that’s worked out best for me. Sometimes the best dynamics start because the Domme knew what she wanted and went after it.
Ladies please i beg you to stop “exposing” the time-wasters in your dms. 9/10 it’s what they want. it is a form of free humiliation and you deserve to be paid for all forms of humiliation.