I'm kind of in a weird predicament, wife that loves anal, but at the same time does not like the word anal.
Wife works in Pharmaceutical, so she associates the word with that. I didn't know and have been saying it, but she just told me this.
Any thoughts?
Just a few months ago, I went on a new journey with my wife into a cuckold marriage, this was her idea, while I did have some reservations about it at the begining, I like it.
This is evolving as we speak, my wife has been regularly seeing 2 men, and it looks like it will soon be 3, she isn't hooking up with anyone random, she is finding these men and making these long term.
One of these gentleman has brought up numerous times how I should be "feminized", and my limits along with things he thinks I should do, and my wife is turned on with the idea, however he does want to do it himself, so the suggestion is that maybe I find a boyfriend who will.
I am openly bisexual, this isn't a secret, none of the things I have been asked to do are new to me, on the contrary, I was asked about my previous experience's, and they have picked the scenario I am about to share.
The level of feminization isn't as deep as it sounds, but what was discussed as femizing is closer to a housewife type role more than anything for a man over 65, the word lazy was mentioned since the thought is that it might work better.
Would be great if its someone we could go out to dinner with and maybe the movies sometime, or we can do that at home too if thats better, I'm good either way.
Just to give you an idea, already within my own marriage, our roles are often the opposite, I'm the one who is the better cook, I'm also the one who is cleaning after the house, I'm the organized one, the one who does the laundry, while at the same time my wife is the one who likes to lay in the couch and watch TV after work, its what works for us, and what has worked for a long time.
That being said, they seem to think that I would be a great boyfriend to someone else who might be looking for just that, someone who wants a boyfriend who's role is that of a housewife who likes to spoil him. Come home, lay down in the couch, I will clean the house, I might cook if you want, don't worry, walk away from the dinner table, I got it, its ok to tell me to get you a beer from the fridge, I got it, and if you need to get your dick sucked, just relax, I will do it slowly, no rush, watch your TV, I got it, if there is anything I could do for you so you can just relax in your couch, I got it.
Other things about me, I'm 46, I look younger because I have thick hair, almost no gray hair in my head, no facial hair, I'm naturally smooth so not much hair on my body, arms, or legs, I don't use glasses, so it makes people think I'm much younger based on that, but I am 46.
If there is any sex, anal is off limits, and it would be to satisfy your needs, wife likes the idea as long as I'm not the one being pleasured, she doesn't even want me to masturbate whole I'm arount this boyfriend, I can't cum at all.
Also, there might be other postings I have about what my wife does with other men, this is not part of this, its part of the lifestyle but not looking for someone for my wife, she has a very different type of men she is into, and it just wouldn't work out, and its not an option.
Looking only for something longterm and regular.
I crossed a line that I told my self I was not going to cross, and had to do it behind my wife's back, I'm still unsure in my mind if it was the right thing or not, but its done.
This long and often annoying search for my wife's "first" dragged on much longer than expected, and went in unexpected directions. I was really under the mindset that this was going to be easy, that my wife was going to have a line of great men that met all her (sometime unreasonable) list of "must have". But instead, my wife's chats name are grouped as "DTWPB" Insider joke with my wife, its for "Dumpsterdiving through West Palm Beach).
I know there is different dynamics, I am not sure how much are husbands involved with their wife's searches, I still don't know how this works, this is still a new experience to me, but I have been giving them space, its not that I don't interact with them, but its really rare, and its always with encouragement, even when I didn't fully agree with it.
I am aware of (I believe) all text's my wife has with these men, I do know there is phone calls, but at least from texts, my wife has created a group chat and included me in it.
My wife has had this on/off conversation with this 54M guy for I say 5 months now, and this guy was far from my wife's original ask, and there has been so many "almost", or "I'll do it next week" things this guy keeps saying but never actually doing it, and then on the other side, the same guy has been asking for special priviliges "oh, thats important to me" and has gotten my wife to agree to bend some of her rules just for this guy, other guys have asked the same, and she has been a hard no, but what ever the fuck this guy says, my wife is like "yes sir", even when he isn't keeping his side of the bargain.
So about a month and a half ago, she did meet with this other 2 guys (27M/26M), she only spoke to them (They met her together) for less than 2 months, she meets them, she didn't like them as she thought but she has continued to see them regularly since then.
For a while, I thought "Great", the 54M is about to drop off and don't have to deal with him anymore, but nope, wife is STILL talking to him, and still the same shit.
They have met twice for dinner, nothing happened (Not for the lack of trying), but he has been holding back on getting an STD test, pushing it over, and over again, week by week, and this was it, he has been dragging this thing for months, yea its obvious he is trying to get her to agree to meet him without having that done first, thankfully my wife has not budged.
It took a lot of will power to stop me, but fuck, I was so angry that this guy keeps doing this, I already have issues with this guy and haven't even meet him, but WTF. I was going to bring this up to my wife first, but I decided instead to reach out to this guy directly first and just "dude, WTF, get the test or STFU and go away" in the most polite way I could think off.
This was Tuesday morning, and happened, he went the same godamn day and got it, like WTF, should have done this long time ago, and today he told my wife he got them this morning, and I'm skeptical, I'm going to meet him later today and he is going to give me the physical original report, my wife knows I'm going to get them.
I'm not going to tell my wife that I had to reach out to him, I am letting her feel the "win", that its done, and she can finally moved on from this shit, but as the husband, I'm already going into this with someone who I already don't like, maybe I will feel different later, but dear Bulls, this is a fucked up way to get introduced into a marriage, please don't do this.
I mean, my wife already bend over (on the rules only so far) for this guy.
This is the downside of the lifestyle, not the first asshole to contact my wife, not the worst (Surprisingly), but the longest.
FYI, I have a few subtle ideas I am putting on a list for my wife, trying to make them sound like fun ideas, but in another way a "fuck you" from dear husband for being an asshole.
I'm pissed off at this bullshit right now, needed to vent, sorry.
I know I'm new at this lifestyle, but do hotwife just seem to attract the dumbest men in the planet?
This is new to us, I am being very cautious to just encourage my wife, I have said nothing to discourage her.
But over the past 6 months that my wife has been searching, I keep seeing how she is giving a chance to some of the dumbest men in the planet, like dude, she is ready to go, she has said yes to basically everything, and you are still going to do some dumb shit and ruin it.
Its been a very long time since I tried dating, been married 21 years, and I don't remember ever seeing this level of incompetence when it comes to dating. She has made it super easy, she has been patient, she has said yes to everything, ball is in your court, do your part.
Its not the first time, or second, or third, or fourth, its happened many times.
The one thing about this that I love is how my wife's self esteem has gotten a big boost, when she has men who are actually trying, making her feel desired and sexy, but then these "other" men just do the complete opposite.
This has not happened, not yet at least.
Wife has been talking and even meet in person (just dinner) this older (54M) man, she has been talking to him for over 4 months already.
The reason she didn't take it further is that he is married, and his wife doesn't know, this has been a no from my wife, but he keeps saying and doing things to keep my wife interested, while she has consistently said no, there has been a few times when that no was closer to a maybe.
She recently mentioned that she wanted to find someone who would go to Disney with her, Disney is not that far from us, still requires an overnight stay, something that she could do on the weekends (I don't like Disney, gives me anxiety). So i asked, I posted it online to see if someone might be interested, but as I started to see responses, it clicked that this was not something she thought off, it was something she had discussed with this man, the married man.
This has not been the only thing this man has talked with her that has kept her curious, wife has a few new fantasies based on things this man has said, its an older guy, seems to be financially stable, travels alone, is into some kinky things my wife seems very curious about.
But he is married, and his wife does not know.
This is very new to us, I have only been saying things to encourage her, not discourage her. She currently has 2 FWB's here in WPB, this would be someone as a travel partner.
I tend to overthink things a lot, maybe this is not that complicated and I'm just (as usual) overthinking it, maybe as just a travel partner would work?
This is being discussed right now, I am supporting her, not discouraging her, but again, overthinking it.
I am just a month into this, my wife has been giving me ideas here and there already, however this past Sunday was the first time she said something about meeting another man without me.
I'm not against it, on the contrary, i have suggested it in the past, but she kept repeating the same thing about only meeting other men while I'm there.
But she threw a very specific scenario, I don't like going to Disney, have more than a few reasons why I don't want to go, so her scenario was finding a Boyfriend she could go with.
How does this even work, I know I had previously suggested it to her, but now that she that she said it, my head is spinning trying to figure it out.
She currently has 2 FWB's, and she does not want to go there with them, she is talking about a new friend to go with.
She has not said overnight trip, she has not said she wants to sleep with him, but said Boyfriend.
So, anything I should know?
I tend to overthink things a lot, and I'm sure I'm doing it right now.
After 21 years of marriage, wife is exploring seeing other men, she has been putting down different ideas of what she would like to try, this is one of them.
This is probably a silly idea, but she asked, so I ask.
Wife currently has 2 (27M/26M) guys she started seeing about a month ago, pandora's box has been open about her seeing other men.
Wife loves Disney, but I (husband) am not a big fan, so she has brought up this idea of a "Disney Boyfriend", someone who would take her to Disney on multiple weekends whenever possible, spoil her, not a one time thing.
Other things wife asked for:
Preferebly 45-55
Non-smoker, no drugs
Someone fun, educated
Not into hairy guys
Must be willing to get an STD test
She does not like driving to Orlando by herself, so looking for someone who doesn't mind the driving part.