r/BDSMpersonalsEU

Are you a confident, self-assured, accomplished man who seeks guidance and leadership from a dominant woman?

To you, is submission not a weakness or shame, but a sign of strength — an honest recognition of who you are? If so, we may connect well. I want to explore and express my dominant nature not as an experiment, but as an authentic part of who I am. Connection matters deeply to me; before I can fully step into my role as a Dom, I need to feel a genuine bond with the man I’m engaging with. There’s no rush — the discovery itself is part of the experience, and it can start through honest online exchange.

Approach me sincerely, openly, and truthfully. I value honesty and the courage to show up as you are. I aim to create a space where both of us can safely explore our roles — as much about insight and trust as it is about power and surrender.

I’m 32, professional, committed to self-care and growth. I’m introverted but socially aware; serious-minded yet playful, valuing humor and thoughtful conversation.

I’m drawn to a man who presents as confident and masculine to the world but shows his soft, obedient side to me. A man who communicates clearly, pays attention to detail, and acts with kindness and respect — not just in submission, but because it’s in his nature. I’m particularly interested in men my age or older, though younger men who are mature and self-assured also appeal.

From the start, I look for: a submissive yet masculine energy; a man who takes pleasure in prioritizing his Dom’s satisfaction; someone eager to follow orders and complete assigned tasks — even when they challenge him. Effort matters more than perfection. I value growth through trust, leading to deeper, more authentic submission.

In time, I’d like to explore elements such as bondage and rope play (to the extent possible online), boundary-pushing through tasks, controlled humiliation, and mental or physical restriction — forms of intensity that arise from trust, not force.

I don’t engage in games, casual JO sessions, or anything dishonest, dangerous, or illegal.

As a test: I have a switch bf. If i let you two alone in a room, would you Dom him or submit to him? Let me know your answer and motivation

Geschlecht ist mir dabei absolut egal, ich möchte einfach beherrscht werden und befehlen gehorchen. Natürlich wäre es durch ein Treffen in Halle, Leipzig, wenn nicht sogar Berlin am besten. Aber auch Online lass ich mich nur zu gern Dominieren!

I’m a 32-year-old Dutch professional with a passion for leadership, strategy, and building genuine connections. My background is in HR and business consulting-fields where trust, structure, and growth are essential. I run my own consulting firm and work as a freelancer, but outside of work, you’ll often find me in the gym, experimenting in the kitchen, or spending time with friends and family. At 189 cm tall with a strong, athletic build, I bring that same energy and discipline into every aspect of my life-including my personal relationships.

As a natural dominant, I thrive on taking charge, both mentally and physically. I believe in structure, clear communication, and slowly developing a dynamic based on obedience, chemistry, and mutual respect. For me, D/s isn’t just about a quick scene or a fleeting thrill-it’s about creating something real, honest, and lasting, even if it starts online.

My interests revolve around giving rules, training, and creating routines. I enjoy exploring control-think chastity, obedience, petplay, houseslave dynamics, electro, humiliation, and degradation (always within clear, consensual boundaries). I love developing rituals and habits together that deepen our connection and make the power exchange truly meaningful.

My limits are clear: no blood, needles, children, anything illegal, or anything non-consensual.

I’m looking for a genuinely submissive guy who craves guidance and thrives under. Someone who finds it exciting to give up control-over their pleasure, their routine, maybe even their daily habits-and who is open to building trust and friendship alongside our dynamic. Honesty, reliability, and communication are essential to me; I want someone who enjoys deep conversations but also knows how to have fun and share a laugh.

This isn’t about being a robot or living in a 24/7 role. I want to get to know you for who you are, to grow together, joke around, and explore the depths of power and obedience along the way.

If this speaks to you, send me a message with a star emoji, your name and age, where you’re from, a bit about your experience or curiosity, your kinks and limits, and what draws you to submission.

Hii there! Nicole here, I am a 21 years old girl from Romania and as the title says looking for a dom. I don t have that much experience in this field yet but i am looking forward to meeting new people and gaining more information. Pls don t mesaage me if you re over 30, i want someone who is close to my age because not only i want the sexual connection but for me to submit i want to have somebody who shares the same interests and subjects. I would like for us to get to know eachother before we meet irl, i have posibilities to travel as well.

If i got you intrested i am waiting for your mesage! 😊

message me pls

let me degrade you and tell you what a piece of shit you are. message or comment if you’re interested. i’m hot and pretty as welll if that makes you losers more interested. especially interested if you’re a loser eg drug addict, gets no bitches, video game nerd

Hey! Im from Germany and speak fluent German. Hoping to find people from here.

I’d describe myself as a huge nerd with a soft spot for real connection. Gaming has been part of my life since childhood. Mostly competitive (League, Valorant, etc.), but I also love co-op games like It Takes Two or Overcooked. Would love to game together! :3

Streaming for each other, showing each other memes... I love it.

Outside of that, I enjoy drawing, going to the gym, and getting lost in dark romance novels. I’m sarcastic, a bit chaotic, and love humor especially if you can match it. I love anime also.

What I’m really looking for:

A genuine relationship. Something real, long-term, and meaningful. I’m not here just for a dynamic or casual kink. I want a partner to date, connect with, and build something lasting together.

I’m looking for “my person.” Someone emotionally intelligent, honest, and actually interested in who I am beyond surface level. Someone who can challenge me, stand their ground, and be authentic. (And funny hihi)

Important:

The dynamic is something that grows within a relationship, not the other way around. If you're only looking for something purely kink-focused, we probably won’t be the right match.

About the dynamic (because it still matters):

I’m a subby brat who enjoys a partner that can handle that energy someone dominant, confident, and mentally strong. I like being challenged, guided, and sometimes put in my place, but always with care, respect, and genuine affection. I really like brainwashing and mental dominance.

For me, this only works with trust, communication, and a real emotional bond. I’m not looking for just any Dom! I’m looking for my Dom as part of a committed relationship.

I’m monogamous, connection-driven, and attraction grows for me through emotional closeness.

If you’re also looking for something real, can make me laugh, and aren’t afraid of depth we’ll probably get along really well.

Feel free to message me. 🖤

I'm looking for a first timer or a novice sub and open to online as well if we vibe. I've been into lifestyle for 8 years and have explored a lot of different kinks and fetishes with people in the community but I've finally settled with gentle TS dom and my kinks below as they give me the most pleasure - and I seek someone who is open minded and willing to explore, especially fully able to cater to my needs and wants (preferably age 20 above).

Disclaimer: I want to start off and say I'm not into anal play as much as everyone else. Open to pegging and anal here and there but not a big kink of mine. Into anything but not into girls in general either as I seek a masculine and confident man who is well respected by his peers but behind closed doors loves being a golden retriever who likes being called a good boy.

My kinks are mainly: orgasm control, edging, bondage, facesitting, cbt, exhibitionism, public play, and him being heteroflexible and willing to explore his sexuality (but him being the top rather than the bottom). Anyone who can fulfill all of these will 100% have my attention.

I also enjoy micromanagement but only to an extent as I don't want someone fully depending on my commands and only moves when told to.

Physical attraction is very important to me so I want to get this out of the way as well: Ideally I'm more attracted to short hair, clean shaven/smooth face and body, muscular and athletic.

As a Trans Goddess, I still hope to find a partner who is proactive, communicative, and keeps my interests and likes/dislikes embedded into his brain that I don't need to overcommunicate and repeat myself over and over. Just because I'm into submissive men doesn't mean I want someone who is mentally weak and dependent. I would love a man who has set his goals, takes care of his fitness, hygiene, and mental health. His submissive side is only something only shown to me and me only.

Huge plus if he's into anime and videogames. I don't want the relationship only driven by the TS dom side of things but also having shared hobbies and interests. If you think you're the right match, feel free to provide an introduction and let me know why you think we match.

Love

TS Amber ❤️

I’m a total airhead looking to serve and worship bulls and be there jerk off material
I love when men find me hot and sexy and would love to be the prettiest sexiest bimbo there is that makes cocks super hard and horny and jerk to me
Would love to be in a group of bulls so horny and making them cum all 4 me
Willing to relocate and be the perfect bimbo to mould for men

I’d love to be a porn doll hypnotised by men 2 be sexy 4 a group of men in chats and in person and made to be so sexy and look cute
Would luv to be your sexy fuckdoll

I am David, 29 years old and from Germany. I am looking for an online Dom. I already have experience with BDSM, CBT, anal, and bondage. The topic of slavery is still new to me, but I am interested in it. My taboos are excessive public display, permanent damage, and the face. Beyond that, I would like to try new things and test my limits.

Since I am still in a relationship myself, I unfortunately don't have time 24/7 and can't fulfill all tasks immediately. Nevertheless, I would fulfill the daily tasks as best I can and serve my master.

Contact me via DM

I'm seeking a submissive who is eager to be challenged, pushed beyond comfort and shaped into the strongest version of themselves mentally, emotionally and within the dynamic we build together. Growth matters to me. Loyalty matters to me. Efforts matters to me. I value obedience that is given with intention, communication that is honest, and devotion that is earned through consistency and trust. If you are serious, self aware, and prepared to explore the depth of submission under a strong, confident dominatrix who knows exactly what she wants, then you maybe worth my attention.

Hi!

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I’m a sub and I’ve tried to search on here before but didn’t find a good match unfortunately.
learning French atm and I thought it would be fun if my dom can punish my mistakes 🩵 and also simultaneously help me practice

You can pick out my outfits too! I love to show the cute things I’ve got and I love to dress up and take videos or even open cam I don’t mind as long as I know you well enough.

I’m into other kinks but I’d like to discuss them in DMs

Lookwise I’m thin, small waist and a nice butt so basically a pear shape if you’re into that ૮꒰˶ᵔ ᵕ ᵔ˶꒱ა

I’m looking for someone around my age or older and living in France ideally cus I do wanna meet if things go well (plus planning on making a big move there next year)

If you do decide to reach out please have your age and location in the message and tell me a bit about yourself

Au revoir

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I’m a total airhead looking to serve and worship bulls and be there jerk off material
I love when men find me hot and sexy and would love to be the prettiest sexiest bimbo there is that makes cocks super hard and horny and jerk to me
Would love to be in a group of bulls so horny and making them cum all 4 me
Willing to relocate and be the perfect bimbo to mould for men

Hi! Thanks for taking time out of your day to read my post.

I am a submissive from Odense, looking for someone local to form a d/s dynamic with.

I value chemistry, laughter and communication very highly.

I am looking for an experienced dom, who is kind, soft but also stern and authoritative. I’m looking for the kind of person who will catch me, train me, mold and shape me into the perfect submissive.

I have a few limitations, I for example have a hard time relaxing during sex, and I have a hard time receiving pleasure. With time, I would like to grow and become a better, more self assured version of myself under your guidance. For that reason, I am looking for a patient dom, someone with a lot of respect for limits.

Anyways, serious part out of the way. Here are a few keywords about me:
I’m a student, I enjoy videogames, nature and spending time with my friends.
I’ve been a sub since I can remember, but I haven’t had the right conditions to really grow as a sub. Hoping this changes now (:

I like a wide variety of kinks! And there is still a lot to explore. I like pleasing, being good for my partner. I am obsessed with buttholes, and am also anal/oral only myself (please only message if that’s something you can see yourself in) I like mixes of sweetness, praise, degradation, humiliation, pain. I’ve actually been wanting to explore my pain thresholds more, so if you enjoy inflicting pain please message (:
I’d also love to explore more within non sexual dominance. I’ve got heck of a lot more turn ons, some of which are more taboo.

But overall: if you like to be controlling and nurturing, are anal obsessed, have sweet but also darker sides to you then don’t be shy and send me a message! (:

Ps. I am Danish, I speak Danish. I am also monogamous and clingy, so please don’t be in a relationship already.

Hoping my post was thorough enough! Have a great day <3