r/BareMenPositivity

Sorry to be a downer guys. I've got some serious depression issues resulting from an epileptic seizure I had 18 years ago. As a result I've sustained some brain damage which means I can't feel positive emotions anymore and it's a constant struggle not to slide into despair. The best I can feel is completely numb emotionally with positive physical sensations. As a result I ended up becoming very reliant on wanking to get me through the dark periods but also in the numb periods as it was the closest I could get to feeling happy again (I know, literally trying to wank myself happy for years, so tragic). At some point in this 18 year period I had a seizure at night while I had a nocturnal erection and managed to kind of snap my penis. The internal scar tissue has tightened giving me an hourglass deformity when soft where the middle of my shaft is tighter and narrower than the base and tip of my penis which looks horrible. When erect I have a 45 degree bend to the left. Most annoyingly though the inside of the bend mid shaft also has a weak point which hinges or kinks during sex or during nocturnal erections and it's really painful. Just getting really hard also hurts because it feels like someone is trying to bend my cock straight. I'm booked in for surgery to correct the curve hopefully this year but they'll as a result I'll be losing about an inch of length and I won't be able to wank at all during recovery which is at least 6 weeks. I'm big time struggling to stay positive. Can any of you guys relate? Or does anyone else wank as a coping mechanism? I'm feeling super alone in it at the moment 😔 also please feel free to ask me anything. Talking about it helps, reminds me people care.

Went for a walk the other day and found a nice patch to just rest and reflect.

Love to walk the yard with my coffee early in the mornings. I’m pretty sure no one can see me, but the older I get the more I just enjoy my true self and hope others do to!

Hi, nice to meet you all, I was invited here and I've been really hesitant to post because I really am still very insecure about my small penis. It wasn't really something I was aware of for a long time. I became a naturist but the more I've seen other men the more I've begun to realise mine is really tiny. I was in denial about it for a really long time and I still am a bit of I'm completely honest. I've come to notice though In changing rooms etc how all the other men's will kind of hang and mine doesn't and I just feel less of a man, embarrassed and ashamed and I don't want to feel like this anymore. I want to end the denial and and get overcome this feeling of shame. I did manage to pluck up the courage to tell a friend and he actually suggested I post on Reddit as it might help so here I am. Also my English isn't great so I did get a refit friend to help me write this out so if my response in the comments don't have good English I apologise. Please be kind, all advice and wisdom is greatly appreciated and please ask me anything 🙏🏾

for the longest time i was so insecure about my body & dick . been losing weight and my confidence has sky rocketed . i will continue to keep loving myself

The nudist community is so very excepting of all body types. There is nothing better than spending a day nude to boost your body confidence. My first nude experience was on a clothing optional beach and it took a while to build up the courage to go, but it changed my outlook on how I thought people would look at me.
I don’t let having an ostomy control my life, it gave me the opportunity to enjoy my life! This wasn’t always the case but getting naked on that beach totally changed my outlook on life.

I still struggle to see myself as a bear, even though I want to and even though I get called one on a daily basis.

I have always been over weight and never really happy with my body. Yo-yo dieting, exercising, crazy eating habits that are unsustainable. I will lose the weight and then put it back on when I loose motivation. I’m an emotional eater, suffering anxiety and depression, a symptom of my combined autism and ADHD (AuDHD).
I am finally coming to terms with how I am and what my boundaries are and limitations. I am an over achiever and can expect others to achieve with me at work, but feel like I am an impostor, that I don’t deserve my reputation.
I have just turned 50 last week and spending the emotional energy to get my self in a better place, accepting my body and my brain for what it is and being happy and proud with who I am, a work in progress but aren’t we all