r/FemaleOrgasmStudy

I’m a man asking this respectfully and genuinely trying to understand women’s experiences better.
My girlfriends have become wet very quickly, and some have ejaculated during oral sex, but the orgasm or intense feeling seemed to last only a short time. I haven’t yet seen the deep, full-body or body-shaking orgasm that some women describe.
During oral, I don’t rush toward penetration. I take my time, build the arousal slowly, pay attention to her breathing and body movements, and maintain the same rhythm and pressure when she responds positively. I’m comfortable continuing for as long as she wants, changing my approach based on her feedback, and letting her guide me toward what feels best for her.
I understand that ejaculation, orgasm and body shaking are not necessarily the same thing. I also know that every woman expresses pleasure differently, and not shaking doesn’t mean she didn’t enjoy it. I don’t want anyone to feel pressured to perform a dramatic reaction.
Still, I would genuinely love to help a partner experience a deep, intense, body-shaking orgasm if that is something she wants and her body is capable of experiencing. For women who have experienced this, what helped you reach that level? Was it more about trust and mental comfort, longer buildup, a particular kind of stimulation, or something else? What should a male partner understand or do differently?

genuinely she has no idea what orgasm is

I have always been a very sex positive, open minded woman about sex and anything related to my sexuality. My boyfriend is my first "long" term partner ever, we have been together for half a year now.

Before I met him, I had slept casually with other guys, and I consider myself pretty lucky since the sex has always been really good. I have never had problems when it came to cum from oral sex or PIV sex, any position.

That same thing happened when I met my current bf: we started casually and I had no problem reaching an orgasm with PIV sex. Since then, there came a point when we got more intimate and gradually PIV orgasm became more a more harder to reach, to the point where it felt like a hard workout rather that pleasurable.

I thought nothing more of it like it was a personal thing, so I started touching myself while PIV to finish. Since then, that became the rule.

What I dont understand is that the sex Im having atm is the best sex I have ever had with anyone: we know eachother and what turns eachother on, he's a great partner and I have no personal issues with him outside the bedroom, and I dont feel any pressure to orgasm when Im with him.

Could it be that Im now having sex at a high frecuency? That the vulnerability of a relationship really got to me?

Im looking for advice for any woman who has experienced this in the past, since I miss finishing in any position.

Thank you in advance!

He was built for worship, but not the kind he was practicing.

When you carry a history of pain in your bones, you learn to read the geometry of a man to keep yourself safe.

The tension in his jaw. The rigid, beautiful curve of his spine beneath his robes.

He spends his days on his knees, bowing to an invisible power, a masterclass in perfect discipline and restraint.

But you catch the way his heavy knuckles turn white when you accidentally brush past him in the hall. The way his breathing stutters and betrays him when you linger in the doorway.

You don't want his sermons or his salvation.

You want to see the exact moment the saint finally becomes a sinner.

Forgive me, Father.

.... I mean I keep passing by this monk he is so calm I feel so turned on and then I just fantasize so much about him yk doing that and I have been writing so much... I mean idk if I should put it here but does anyone else want like a monk as yk ahem ahem they are so different from regular men... so hot

There is a specific kind of danger in a man who has sworn off touch.

You spend your whole life bracing for impact. You learn to flinch before the hand even lands, building walls out of your own trauma just to survive.

Then you meet someone whose hands are folded in prayer. A man whose very existence is a promise of the peace you never thought you deserved.

But proximity to the holy doesn't purify you - it just makes your dark parts feel louder. You start wanting to see what happens when that iron-clad devotion finally cracks.

It’s terrifying, really. Realizing you don't want him to just heal your wounds. You want to be the only devastation he allows himself to feel.

...... Idk I like to fantasize then I keep writing stuff like am I wierd is it good, this is the last place I should be putting it