r/IncestDebate

I (25M) have a very close relationship with my mom (51F). I live by myself, and she regularly comes over to visit and go clubbing/out with me.

I have a major weakness for one-piece swimsuits. I bought a sporty one for her, but it feels incredibly awkward to just hand it to her. My idea is to give it to her in my bedroom when we return to my apartment after partying.

Prior context:
- I already tried a subtle approach once: I showed it to her and lied saying, “My ex left this swimsuit behind." It backfired because she just assumed I was heartbroken over my ex, rather than taking the hint to try it on. Then we went to sleep.
- During my past relationship, I confessed to my mom that I have a weakness for swimsuits and find them attractive. She got it at the time, but now she seems hesitant to wear one for me (she usually prefers bikinis, only sometimes one-pieces).

Any advice on how I can transition into giving her this swimsuit in my bedroom after a night out without ruining the vibe?

My friend stayed over last weekend. We were chatting in bed at night. Somehow started talking about boys.

Well after a bit she said, "You know your dad is pretty attractive right?" I was like "Ew that's gross!" We. Moved on. That was it.

Well on Monday, at school she brought it up again. This time she went into detail saying she thinks he has a great body and probably you know, other good things too. I just told her she was being weird and brushed it off.

The thing is i’ve been thinking about it nonstop and Basically I've been fantasizing about my dad for a while, I remember catching him masturbating ages ago, I don't know if it's a normal reaction but I froze in that moment for a few minutes and then I left, he probably didnt saw me.

Now when I’m home I catch myself looking at him. It’s really weird. The worst part is, she’s right! If he wasn’t my dad I’d definitely think he’s attractive.. Since he is I don’t know how to deal with these feelings.

Trying to figure out why incest is globally seen as wrong or immoral. And was wondering which countries in western europe and the americas have the most common practices of incest. What makes it "normalized" where your at or why is it not scrutinize. Is it still kept secret or can we do to change the way its been ostracized/ deemed forbidden by society?

Plus, if possible I'd like to move there.

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