r/MeninFLR

Let me start by simply quoting what this piece of the Internet is all about:
This is a community for men serving their wifes in a female led relationship. Here we can share ideas, experience and new ways to empress and make our goddess’ proud

I think it's interesting that so much of what has been contributed so far is about, well, different things. Like 'how can I get her to do things to me that I've been dreaming about but she thinks are gross'. Or 'look how my wife is growing to be how I want her to be'. Or 'Let's have a male contest about who has the most dominant wife'.

And it's not only about what's happening here, of course.
I feel the porn universe has mixed up hot horny naughty boy stuff with the thing FLR is really about: on the one hand a man's deep urge to serve his woman, and on the other hand the woman's deep joy in being uplifted by the protection, care and service of her man. You might even call it worshiping.
Not everyone feels this urge, not everyone feels it with the same intensity, it may even pick up or subside as life progresses.

What FLR is definitely not about is pushing or manipulating your woman into a mold of your own kinkiness.

Let me make very clear that I am not against hot steamy kinky horny sexy porny things. And if your wife expresses her urge to ram fat dildos up your tiny ass: have fun (please do exercise a bit beforehand...). If she gladly accepts your invitation to offer you a champagne glass of her morning pee: enjoy. Drink to my health.
In that case you'll find yourself on the crossroads of kink and FLR, and nice things can happen there.

But please, please do not confuse kinky cravings with FLR, devotion with manipulation, serving with pushing.

I have been wanting to try pegging for a long time. My girlfriend brought it up to me once before and she said that she would never do that, and that she found it weird.
So I was hoping to hear if your SO said something similar and ended up enjoying it in the future?

Please let me introduce myself briefly.

About six months ago I surprised my Wife with the announcement that I locked myself in a chastity cage and wanted Her to have the key. Not for kink, but as an investment into our relationship. She accepted complete control over my sexuality there and then.

Since then, the chastity thing has developed into an slowly growing FLR. I've dedicated myself to my Wife, offering Her all the control She feels ready to take. She is not very interested in being a Dom, but/and I make it clear that I don't ask very much but I am quite devoted to make Her happy (happier than She already is).
I do need Her attention, when She sees fit to give it, and appreciate a little tease-and-denial every now and again. Never as a reward, just as a reminder of Her power. I love Her very much and long for Her constantly.

In my experience, chastity plays a central role. My Wife thinks so too.
Yet submission and devotion is the bedrock beneath it all.

A little update

Me (35m) and the wife (34f) have been in a level 3 flr for 4 years. We are growing more and more into our lifestyle every day. This morning officially ended our longest chastity run of 41 days without unlocking or an orgasm by me. Plenty for her of course.
My sleeping arrangements during the week was the floor right next to her in the bed. I was allowed in her bed only on the weekends.

She was hesitant about unlocking me because life has been so good for us but in her words she is still my wife and she still wants to have that connection. Which she’s the boss so I don’t put up a fight.

She unlocked me and told me to get into the shower and clean up. Once I got out of the shower she pulled her pants down and bent over her makeup table and demanded me inside of her. I wasn’t pounding away and could feel an orgasm starting to building and she stood up and pushed me away and said that was enough.

She joked that I should be back in the cage but said she was kidding. But in reality I believe she actually wants me back in it this is still part of her taking control of her dominance and sexual confidence she is working on

Is anyone else here not allowed to cum without permission?
My wife forbids me from touching myself and only allows me to cum during sex. That said, I’m not even allowed to cum every time we have sex. Sometimes once she orgasms a sufficient number of times, she simply says good night and goes to sleep. It leaves me feeling frustrated, but also very excited? I love that she gets off. That’s my main priority. But it feels like making me wait just extends my own pleasure. Eventually she will let me cum and it will feel amazing.

The reason I say honor system is that she doesn’t make me wear a cage. She likes to be able to grab my hard dick through my pants whenever she wants.

What are some ways that she took charge before you officially settled into your role below her?
For example: even when we were dating, my wife always drove the car. She said she gets carsick if she isn’t driving, but I think she just likes being more in control.

This is a safe space, where everyone is serving their wifes.
Here we can help each other, to do more and do even better for the goddess in their life.
Please don’t hesitate to post and ask questions😍