r/ProstateBuddies

Sorry about the long post, but I want to give lots of context so you all can give me the best advice possible.

Me: 32-year-old submissive bottom chub/bear gay male, usually wearing a chastity cage.  I never naturally pre-cum (seriously NEVER) but can get very slight amounts of precum using an NJOY wand to heavily stimulate the prostate (this will be relevant later in my write-up).  I use the chastity cage primarily to abstain from jerking off so that my prostate is primed and ready for play.
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Goal: The magical, mythical Super-O – the one with the leg/body shaking that many guys describe as a full body experience.
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Toys I Own: butt plugs, dildos, aneros, including a helix syn, progasm, and knock-offs similar in size and shape to the helix, and a knock-off NJOY wand that is identical to the brand-name NJOY wand.
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Past experience(s):  Been playing with my ass for about 10 years – both with real dicks and toys.  Been on the hunt for the Super-O for about five years.  Get fucked frequently.  I’ve had many hands-free orgasms from toys, but they are not super-O style orgasms, just regular orgasms brought on by prostate stimulation.  I love to have the cum fucked out of me by a top (have had this happen many times).  It feels amazing, but still not as amazing as how guys describe their super-O experiences.  I can get pleasure from my prostate (obviously, since I can cum from prostate stimulation), but I don’t think I’ve ever had true “P-waves” but not entirely sure, as the descriptions I’ve read of them vary and are sometimes kind of vague.  My aneros toys seem to do nothing for me, but maybe I’m using them wrong.  I can get some great pleasurable prostate sensations both from getting fucked and from my NJOY wand.  I’ve tried rubbing my nipples to help me get there as I see lots of guys mention this in their write-ups, but it doesn’t really do much for me.  

I ALWAYS wear my chastity cage during prostate sessions so that I don’t end up just jerking off (I’m very dedicated to my training and it’s very likely for me to get frustrated and just beat off if I’m not wearing it).  I almost always do my training lying in bed while on my back with my legs bent and knees pointed outward as this is what is most comfortable for me.

Based on some previous advice I got, recently I’ve been experimenting with a “less is more” approach recently – audio files instead of porn, no poppers, way less heavy thrusting with the njoy wand and more light movements instead.  I haven’t really gotten anywhere with this approach.

Closest I’ve Gotten: The best session I’ve ever had was recently (about a month ago).  I locked up my dick in chastity for about a month, then spent a night on the couch being a goony little fuck, HAMMERING away at my prostate with the NJOY wand with a popperbate video on (the video focused on guys wearing chastity cages getting used by huge dicks) while getting super poppered up.  Lots of great sensations in my prostate and pelvis.  Ended up having a lot of precum (a lot for me anyways, considering I almost never precum) and then had a great orgasm (but again, no leg/full body shaking, the sensation was very localized to my pelvic area/not a super O).  The fluid I shot during this orgasm seemed much more like precum/seminal fluid than regular cum. The fluid was more opaquely clear and less milky/white than my regular cum, not as strong a cum smell and taste as my regular cum).
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Outlook: Getting kind of discouraged thinking this may just be a sensation I’m not capable of/maybe my anatomy isn’t right for it.  Part of me thinks that only guys who naturally precum a lot can experience this.  I could really use both some encouragement and advice.
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Questions: Any questions you have for me to help you offer guidance/advice.  I’m happy to answer any questions you have. I’m a total open book and just want help breaking through.  Any general advice or tips to help me break through to the super-O?  Am I on the right track?  Can someone describe P-waves to me in a clear way?  Anything I’m doing or not doing that clearly needs correction?

Hey all,

Straight guy in a long-term relationship here. My girlfriend and I have started experimenting more with prostate play and we’re trying to figure out the best toys to buy without wasting money on random toys.

So far:

• I’ve done some light prostate stuff before (fingers/smaller toys)
• Never had a full prostate orgasm
• Main goals are hands-free orgasms, stronger orgasms during sex, and something fun for us to use together

Right now I’m stuck between:
• Lovense Edge 2
• Aneros Helix Syn V

Hi, I (55) have been reading about the prostate stimulation and cumming without touching my cock. I am bi/top and never have had anal, but without any prejudice I do understand the human anatomy and the real possibility of an erotic "P Spot",, I will appreciate your recommendations of toys and how to use them.. Let me know, will like to learn from the masters....