r/r4rfrum

(Yes, I know I have a brand-new account with zero karma. You have totally every right to be cautious (although really we should all be cautious anyway, no?)

Basically, just a late 20’s cute Modox guy that just got out of a relationship that had some really good sexual moments to it, and now I’m looking to fill that void.

Specifically, looking to eat out women, something my ex said I was “excellent at eating pussy” lol (I can show you the convo screenshots lol from the day afterwards when we were talking about it)

Open to partnered woman playing with their husband’s full permission. Just please please please don’t me a guy pretending to be a woman, because that is literally the worst thing you could do lol

TR area. FF/MF/MFM/MFMF

Looking for girls, straight guys or couples. Happily married, open to most dynamics

Would love to find a female fwb for some fun girls night outs :)

Ultimate giver. Bonus points if you like sloppy head 😏

41m here good looking. Let’s make a secret that we live through

So I (Male half) have been here for a while but never posted. Also never really found what we were looking for by direct messaging so figured maybe a post would help. (Wife has no patience for reddit but is fully on the same page)

We are a chasidish regular monsey couple in our upper 20s more to the skinny side and decent looks. We have a fun and somewhat hidden naughty side to us. We are also pretty soft and classy. Not loud brash and all out there. We dont drink, smoke etc but not super frim either. Hard to explain but anyway. We are not complicated and like to have an equal give and take with the people we enjoy being friends with.

What we are looking for is a soft, sweet drama free couple in their 20s or very early thirtys that is also chasidish, NY area, (so a "potential" meetup can always be feasible) and should be to the skinny side too and good looking. We are not looking to meet up right away. More of an online relationship for a few months and then see what the chemistry is like. 2 deal breakers for us is being stingy with body pics/vids and not having telegram. Obviously all pics would be without faces to protect all identities until both feel comfortable sharing identities which is also not guaranteed to happen at all. If you dont like sharing lots of pics, thats ok but not something that we are looking for so please dont waste everyones time. If we both reach the point where we are comfortable with each other, we would love to be normal couple friends, going away for shabbos together, vacations together, eating out at night randomly together, watching movies together some bowling nights etc. And of course a bit of carefree naughtiness between us when in private settings wouldn't hurt...

As a lot of couples know womans (and mens too) mood, hormones, and appetite can fluctuate when it comes to anything being colored out of the line, and at this point we basically figured out through trial and error that the above is what we would generally be comfortable with. Of course things can change there too but this is where we are at for the last 2 years. If you know that you or your other half are still struggling to find your comfort and guilt free zone please be upfront about it so we can decide whether its worth our time pursuing it or not as we are looking for something more stable and potentially long term. Quality over quantity. Not sporadic flighty kind of communication.

We will absolutely verify that its a couple where both are on board, with a non sexual but foolproof way to prove that everyone is real before wasting time on chit chat. So please dont reach out if you are not able or interested in a verification process. Its not the exciting part of starting something new but im sure all the real couples out there understand why its necessary.

Lastly we might decide after exchanging pics that there is no physical attraction there for us and respectully end the interaction. If you think you might take that personal please do not reach out. Not everyone is made for everyone. Its not personal.

P.S. Im not so active on reddit so might be off here and there until we connect to telegram. Please dont ask me to dm and if you do decide to reach out please list your basic info right away, including age, skinny or average, area you live at, level of frum, etc. Please do not reach out if you are not a couple. It will just waste eveyones time.

Sorry to the ladies that I didn't respond to yet please bear with me my dms are flooded with all the ladies that were lurking here and decided to respond after seeing my post but I will do my best to get to each one of you as soon as I can. Thank you

So there's been a lot of discussion here lately about low effort posts and that being the cause that no ladies are responding so I decided to put a lot of effort into this post I put together some of the most effective pick up lines I've seen in this group or other groups that I hope that all the ladies here will come running after seeing this like for example are you just missing that spark in your life do you just need someone non-judgmental to connect with and share all your dark fantasies (as if you have them) let's build a slow genuine connection together but we'll leave it at that and not go any further have you always wanted to test the boundaries push the limits now your chance finally you are so voluptuous

Currently in the process of an Orthodox giyur.

I thought I’d put myself out there because making friends as an adult is hard, and getting to know people is even harder.

One thing about me is that I’m slow. Not slow to reply… I just don’t become comfortable with people overnight. I need time to get to know someone, and I tend to build connections through conversation rather than flirting. If you’re looking for someone who’s immediately outgoing, that’s probably not me.

If you’re patient, enjoy talking, and don’t mind that I take a little while to come out of my shell, feel free to send me a message.

Shavua tov.

B

Heyy, if you like these compliments, slide right into my DMs.

Lezzgoo!

Before you read another word, you may already have judged me.

That's fair.

I've judged people too.

Life has a way of teaching us that the stories we tell ourselves about others are usually simpler than the stories they carry inside.

I'm not asking you to agree with me.

I'm not asking you to approve of me.

I'm only asking that, for a little while, we leave judgment outside this conversation.

You have your reasons for being here.

I have mine.

Perhaps they're good reasons.

Perhaps they're terrible reasons.

Perhaps they're a mixture of both.

I'm not looking for someone perfect.

In fact, if you believe you've never wrestled with loneliness, contradiction, curiosity, regret, desire, faith, or questions you couldn't ask the people closest to you... then I'm probably not looking for you.

I'm looking for one honest conversation between two imperfect people.

No masks.

No performances.

No pretending to be better than we are.

If, after reading this, you think I'm not someone you wish to know, I genuinely wish you well.

But if you've ever believed that every human being is more complicated than the worst assumption made about them...

Perhaps you'll write.

Not exactly sure how to write one of these, but figured it's worth a shot.

I'm a married guy in my 30s, Chassidish, from Monsey. I'm not looking to change anyone's life or situation, and I'd hope you're not either. Just hoping to meet one married woman who's also looking for a genuine connection outside of everyday life.

I'm not looking for a revolving door of chats or a one-time thing. I'd rather find one person to build something comfortable, fun, and real with. Someone to text during the day, laugh with, go out for a quiet dinner, spend an afternoon at a spa, take a drive, or just enjoy each other's company when life gives us the chance to disappear for a bit.

I have a flexible schedule, enjoy good conversation, and try not to take life too seriously. I appreciate someone who's warm, easy to talk to, emotionally mature, and understands the importance of discretion. That's non-negotiable for me.

If you're also feeling like something's missing—not your marriage, but that excitement of having someone who gets you—I think you know what I mean.

Based in Monsey, but open to meeting anywhere in the tri-state if we connect.

If this speaks to you, I'd genuinely love to hear from you.

Will give steep discount for frum married females. I give excellent massages located in the Lakewood area. Litvish good looking.

I've been lurking on this group and others for awhile now. Most times I get scared or guilty and delete everything. Other times I connect with someone and stay for longer - we develop a relationship, a friendship, a caring bond.

It's been long enough that I know what makes me uncomfortable and what my line is. I don't have time to text all day, and I wont entertain a world where we'll leave our spouses and run off to Israel. I want the "Hey sexy, how are you" moments, the "you've got this today!," and the "Ugh I am horny, I wish you were here" moments.

I was reflecting this week a bit on how I communicate with my partner, and those above moments come up, but they're rare, and most often occur during times apart, work trips etc.

I want that spark that was there during the first few weeks or months of shidduchim - or dating, or whatever!

Those were the days!

First time posting….

I’m genuinely curious to hear from the women in this community.

If you mostly lurk instead of posting or commenting, what’s the biggest reason?
Is it too many DMs? Privacy? Bad experiences? Something else?

Are there other communities or platforms where you feel more comfortable participating?

The goal here is to better understand what would make this community more welcoming and encourage more women to participate.

Feel free to comment below. If you’d rather stay anonymous, send me a DM and I’ll repost your response in the comments without identifying you.

Hi there. Curious if there are any frum content creators. For a variety of reasons, I think that's a safer path to long term connection and fulfillment

Hey
I’m a horny 29 year frum old with a big dick, but I’m not looking to fuck around, just looking to pay someone to send me hot pics and videos of their wife’s
It would be discreet and I’m willing to do it in any kinda way you would feel comfortable sending them
Everything anonymous
You just would have to prove it’s your own pics