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Fellow spankos,

Thank you to those of you who answered my survey about spanking polyamory (should really say non-monogamy). Almost 2/3 of respondents said yes, they would still (want to) play with others even though all their spanking needs were being met by a life partner.

Given that spanking is at the core of our sexuality, and (in my opinion) it is a very intimate act, why do you think it is viewed differently (in terms of relationships) from other sexual acts? It doesn’t make babies or spread disease. And it exists in non sexual ways in the wider world.
But, still, having been married to my spanko husband since graduating college, it never would have occurred to me to have anyone other than an intimate partner spank me. So, I am very curious about other points of view on this. Can you help me understand? Thank you

I'm meeting up with a partner for a punishment spanking tonight.

I started smoking again and desperately need to stop, we've agreed a thorough, proper spanking would help keep me accountable next time I think about smoking.

She's asked me to post and get ideas for how she should go about spanking me. Any input regarding duration, implements and postions would be... appreciated :(

We've agreed it's more about intensity and duration/the state of my bottom after.

Assuming you had a life partner who generally satisfied your spanking needs, would you still (want to/ seek to) play with others?

Comments welcome!

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I’m just rambling.

I’m always in this weird stage of understanding I don’t think this will happen for me.

I don’t see myself letting someone spank me that I’m not in a relationship with. But I also don’t want a relationship??? Still sad with knowing that’s not in my future but I want a freaking spanking :/ I’m tired of daydreaming and reading stories.

The realization I might not get a spanking is heavy on my mind after year lmao. And I’d like to commit to going back to school and I just think that would be great for me. 😩

Idk. I’m just trying to find a compromise:/ but the idea of casual play partners is a hell no for me. That doesn’t make me feel good. And I don’t like casual anything. So hence why I just don’t care to have a romantic relationship anymore. This mediocre stuff ppl want to give..

But how the hell am I suppose to get my spanking otherwise 😩😩🤧🤧

*update. I have been on Fetlife and every other website under the sun I’m 28. Im vain and I’d like to also be attracted to who’s spanking me because I do see it in a sexualized way.

Hi! I’m 19 F. My parents give me maintenance spankings. These are bare bottom. They have done since I was younger and still do to this day. I feel every single swat so hard. It happens every single day. What are peoples opinions on this please? If you want to find out more, please feel free to message me! Thankyou

Tomorrow I'm finally gonna be experiencing a spanking from the spankee role and honestly I'm really nervous about it. I've had plenty of experience as the spanker but I've always wanted to try and be on the receiving end, both for curiosity and possibly and actual punishment. I'm going over to their house in the morning where I was told we were going to talk about things that I want to work on and why I feel I need a spanking and then we'll go from there in terms of intensity and implements. Wish me luck my fellow spankos and hopefully I don't just become a crying mess immediately after the first smack or two lol.

P.S. Any advice on how to handle a spanking would be much appreciated and how you deal with being on the receiving end during and afterwards lol.

I'm talking with someone who is quite new to BDSM and more new to spanking, and wanted to point them to a resource or two explaining some of the key differences.

Does anyone know of something like that online?! A video, a writing... (A Google search didn't give me much of anything.)

Thanks in advance!