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I’ve been thinking long and hard recently about any of my most memorable spanking I had gotten in the past few years (26F).

The one that sticks out to me the most was the time I was cornered by my partner at the time (consensual), thrown into the diaper position, and popped hard over the bottom with the wooden spoon multiple times for not doing my chores.

I believe in this case, it was specifically the dishwasher and some back talk mixed into that. 😣🫠

What about you?

I’ve been searching for instructions to discipline myself. I’ve had a hard time being lazy at home, not doing housework, and being on my phone too much. What do you think would be a fitting punishment for me? I’d love details!

Hi. I wanted to ask on which sites do free spanking videos get uploaded. It would be nice if they were newer videos. I know sites like xfantazy who get updated with videos but there u have mostly just older videos and Spankingtube but the videos there are usually for sale and because of that too short. Thank you for your answers.

When giving or receiving spankings, what are your thoughts on allowing the spankee to complain/make noises or receive each stroke in silence?

I really love to get some hits… and you call it spanks whatever, just sometimes I love that, and very hard to find boy respects your chose for saying to just stop.
When they see, you love this type of sexual matter, he quickly thought you also would like humility things, BDSM etc…
My type between kisses and teasing and also in the same time some spanking, Please I wanna know if I’m alone like that or not

Where do you look for inspiration regarding punishments, tools, positions, or other forms of discipline applied after spanking?

I used to see them in their pencil skirts, or with their glasses on their nose as they peer over at a naughty boy, and I don't feel like I see this much anymore.

Still a thing? Maybe I'm mixing in the wrong circles?

So I got a spanking last night from my girlfriend. Later in the evening I was told that I was going to be spanked again today. We are a switchy couple and I have been asking to be spanked more often. She said that I would be getting spanked everyday. I'm hoping she is going to follow through with her plan and I am excited to have the opportunity to be more submissive everyday. I want her to spank me hard. I also want to not want to be spanked. And I want her to do it anyway, and I don't want to be able to get out of it either. I'm not sure if it's going to happen every day but I hope so. And I want all of my spankings from now on to be Real.

I’m turned on by the idea of ​​domestic corporal punishment—the kind where someone gets a spanking, much like in the old days. Naturally, I’m drawn to roleplay between consenting adults where one person takes on the role of administering the punishment while the other receives it. Does anyone else feel the same way?

I am in my thirties and have a spanking kink since I can remember.

When I was younger these fantasies felt like something I wanted to have removed from myself, but as I got older and figured I could enjoy sex and relationships without it, I kind of accepted them. Like, these are my fantasies and as that they are ok.

Now today I saw an instagram post about people regretting things on their deathbed and I did think to myself, I would kind of regret not having tried spanking. I mean, since I fantasize so often and since so many years about it, would it not be kind of sad to miss out on it?

However, I am very hesitant about trying to turn these fantasies in reality. They mostly come up when I am stressed and struggle to get things done for work and they are definitely tied to feelings of shame and low self esteem. I worry that if I live it out, I give in to these negative feelings and that they take over my life, leaving me unable to function. (I did have one friend who did sex work and BDSM and it turned into a self harm via others / addiction kind of thing...)

Also, I would not want it to affect my life outside the bedroom so much. Like, I love my partner and that our relationship is so eye level and light hearted and silly. And I love being independent in my decisions.

How do you feel about these things? (How) did your life change when you started to live out your kink?

Long story but my ex gf was really into humiliation and spanking, we definitely explored that irl. She would read these taboo spanking humiliation stories online and she thought it was the hottest thing ever. She’d read them and tell me about them and fantasize about if they actually happened in real life. A lot of the stories had to do with spankings in front of family or in public, or by someone who shouldn’t be doing it and the major theme throughout all of them was humiliation mixed with spanking. Ngl I did think they were kinda hot too but she loved them. Any other woman feel the same?

I haven’t been spanked by my parents since I was around 10/11 (now 37). Interested to know if there are any adults who still live in with their parents and receive maintenance spankings etc?

Looking for a serious disciplinarian. Not sex.

On the tail (pun perhaps intended) of another thoroughly enjoyable spanking session with the Mrs yesterday (leather tawse and hand-smacking at her request, both wheelbarrow and OTK), I've been thinking about the following points as an spanking code of ethics, if you will. These apply equally to sexual, disciplinary and maintenance spankings.

1. Consent

Underpins everything, must be obtained for each session, must be freely given and can be revoked any time. This includes consent for additional rules or requirements imposed by the dom during or in connection with spankings. The CNC concept is perhaps a little problematic in this regard but needs its own overarching consent grant / boundaries / alteration / revocation process even more so.

2. Promotion of Body Positivity (Bottom Positivity? 😉)

The act of adult spanking, whether in a sexual, maintenance or disciplinary context, should promote body positivity of the spankee / sub. The spanking and any beforecare or aftercare should reinforce the spanker / Dom's fondness or appreciation of the spankee / sub's bottom, thighs and nether regions as appropriate, even if they are being formally punished for disciplinary reasons or receiving a maintenance spanking. This need not be sexual but in non-sexual cases, should demonstrate a level of respect for the spankee's private parts that contributes to the spankee's overall body image. While disciplinary and maintenance spankings should involve a level of discomfort and humiliation depending on agreement, this should be in the act of stripping (if applicable) and being spanked per se.

3. Aftercare

This can take many forms but should be offered on each occasion and in a way deeply appreciated by the spankee / sub. Moisturising, caressing, soothing positive talk or even a good hug are appropriate. Other gestures like offering the spankee their favourite food and / or drink are also good. For maintenance and disciplinary spankings, aftercare necessarily builds the spankee / sub up and offers encouragement to do better / be better next time following the pain and humiliation of a spanking. Aftercare can be as ritualised or informal as both parties agree but something should really be present following each spanking session.

I appreciate everyone has their own ideas and may well disagree or have varying opinions on the above. But food for thought I think. What do Redditors think?