u/Ashbubby1

For the chastity cages which include a catheter attachment (silicon), what's the point?

Surely its not long enough to enter your bladder, so is it a sounding thing or does it have another purpose?

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(FYI I have no intention of using one because of UTI risk, just curious!)

True story: One of the most humiliating moments of my life happened last Christmas. I love humiliation but NOT around family, especially not around my partners family.

I stayed at my new partners parents for Christmas Eve. I wear diapers 24/7 due to OAB, UI, and (by choice) regression, which my partner supports, but her family don't know.

My partner got up early to make breakfast for the family, so it was just me asleep in bed on Christmas morning.

I was burst awake by her mum standing besides my bed shaking me and saying it was time for a surprise. She is quite autistic and ADHD, and lovely. I smiled and said I would be down in a few minutes but she wouldn't listen. I was wearing my pyjamas so I was comfortable. I'm a chronic yes-person, I literally can't say no to nice people.

I thought it would be a little breakfast, or maybe a cool bird/animal on the garden. Within a few steps down the hall I realised I had absolutely soaked my diaper in the night. I said I needed to go to the bathroom but she grabbed my arm harder and said "afterwards as everyone is ready". I however was not ready for what was round the corner. Her whole family were already in the living room besides piles of presents and they cheered as I was dragged in, yelling "finally"! I saw my partner mouth "sorry" from the adjoining kitchen.

I took a seat on a couch near the fire, as it was closest. I looked down and it was immensely obvious that I was wearing a full diaper, you could see the entire outline through my pyjamas. I put a present on my lap. I hoped no one was paying attention to me too much and just enjoyed the next 10 minutes with her family before I snuck away to change. We had an en-suite so I repowdered myself and changed into a clean daytime diaper. I looked down and checked the mirror, and you couldn't tell under the pyjamas unless you really looked.

When I returned one of her little cousins immediately ran up and asked me "Hey Ash, why were you wearing a baby nappy just then, because mum says only babies wear them". I was mortified and my partners autistic mum overheard (she used to be a nurse). And she said very loudly "well some grown ups have trouble wetting the bed just like you used to, and ashy is just like that!" And the little cousin then said equally loud "but why is he still wearing a nappy now then?" Pointing at me. My partner almost choked on her coffee and immediately ran in to tell both of them off. I died of embarrassment. I had no clue how to react. A dozen of her family pretending not to hear. My partner and I were then forced to explain to her whole extended family that I have OAB and incontinence. We all finished opening presents and all the adults pretended the whole thing never happened.

I thought it was all over when later that day when one of the babies needed a change, her autistic mum called across the room to the parents "can you do Ashy next!" Again met by instant yells from my partner while I just shrank in my seat and laughed nervously along with the other adults who didn't know how to react.

Her mum apologised to us that night and said she just got too excited by Christmas. For the rest of the week she would check in on me from a nurses perspective about my condition, and make sure I was OK, especially for activities such as the beach... That's a story of itself though.

Literally. I wanted to melt away. I should have just put my foot down when she dragged me out of bed rather than trying to please her, but I had no idea everyone was waiting around the corner 🫠 My partner did warn me that her mum would likely find out because she is so observant, but i didn't expect it to be this way....