u/BlackSheep_4444

I’ve had an enquiry for a booking in 2 weeks time - 4 hours, starting with drinks.

All seemed to be going well - he passed screening without any issues and generally the conversation via email has been super upbeat and friendly. 0 bad vibes.

After screening though, he asked me if he could send me extra money along with the deposit, so that I could book myself my own room, in the same hotel he’s staying - with the logic that: “it would be easier than getting you home after a few drinks.”

I gracefully and politely declined, explaining that I live not far from the hotel and that going home after the booking would be no issue on my end.

He then responded by saying that he’s happy to pay for it, and that it would make everyone’s lives easier?

Am I overthinking by feeling there is something sinister about this offering beyond just trying to make things convenient for me? Thoughts?

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Update:

I’ve politely declined a second time, following up with ‘I have people expecting me home later that night anyway.’

Waiting for the response, which I believe should be very telling.

I’ve had an enquiry for a booking in 2 weeks time - 4 hours, starting with drinks.

All seemed to be going well - he passed screening without any issues and generally the conversation via email has been super upbeat and friendly. 0 bad vibes.

After screening though, he asked me if he could send me extra money along with the deposit, so that I could book myself my own room, in the same hotel he’s staying - with the logic that: “it would be easier than getting you home after a few drinks.”

I gracefully and politely declined, explaining that I live not far from the hotel and that going home after the booking would be no issue on my end.

He then responded by saying that he’s happy to pay for it, and that it would make everyone’s lives easier?

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Am I overthinking by feeling there is something sinister about this offering beyond just trying to make things convenient for me? Thoughts?

New-ish to high end escorting (just under a year) - this is the first time I’ve had an unexpected/early period the day before a booking.

I have a very HNW first time client booking tomorrow evening for 4 hours. Really don’t want to have to cancel as he would be a dream regular client. He won’t be in my city again for at least 2-3 months annoyingly.

What’s the best approach here, should I give him a heads up and see whether he wants to go ahead? Or should I cancel and give another excuse? Is there anything I can buy / prepare to make things more comfortable if he does choose to go ahead?

(30f) I’m tired of this. Such immature, juvenile behaviour, and it’s becoming more and more frequent.

I’ll match with someone on Seeking, connect over the basics and check we’re in alignment re. expectations, move to WhatsApp or similar, talk in more detail, share more photos, send voice notes, sometimes have genuinely amazing conversations. They give praise, validation etc on how much they’re enjoying where things are going, how attractive they find me, how intrigued they are to meet.

Then reaches the point where naturally, we decide on where to meet/when etc. Sometimes an exact date is set, sometimes it’s approximate, sometimes they say they will get back to me to confirm their schedule/availability.

I feel positive, excited, hopeful - as there is quite literally NO reason to feel any other way given how positive the interaction had been.

And then I notice they’re not getting back to me like they say they would - or I check back in to confirm our date we had spoken of.

Radio silence……yet I’ll check Seeking and see they’re online and active?

What the fuck is the reason for all of this? Boredom? Short term excitement? Too many beautiful women to choose from?

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I know you might comment and say ‘don’t give too much of your time and energy from the start, just arrange a meet and greet and go from there.’ - I have also tried this, but they are just as likely to disappear no matter how much we have already spoken prior to arranging a date. Besides, I would rather give time to get to know someone slightly better before arranging an in person meet.

I know I’m not the problem - physically I’m attractive - tall, toned, long hair, etc. Kind, warm, curious and compassionate. Academically intelligent, intellectual, well educated and a good conversationalist.

So what is the fucking problem?!