Thoughts on shaft only vs ball trap
Hello everyone, I’ve recently acquired a cheap Amazon shaft only cage and you may have seen my post about glans ring sizing help. Well I finally found the right size and have been wearing the new cage for a couple days now. Something happened last night that kinda blew my mind a bit and I’m compelled to give you all my thoughts.
First some context: I’ve been married coming up on 3 years now and the wife and I got into chastity about 4.5-5 years ago. I had known about it for a number of years before I met her but never had the courage to buy one. After her and I moved in together we began discussing our sex life here and there. I opened the topic of chastity since she had no clue what it was (she’s from a very sheltered Mormon family) anyways one thing leads to another I get a cheap cage we fool around a bit, time passes chastity is here and there bla bla bla. Eventually I get a real kink3d cage and start doing more long term stuff bla bla bla she starts wearing my key around her neck the whole nine yards. We had fun with it. Even walked the Vegas strip with my key on full display between her breasts in a very low cut top which was incredibly exciting. Thought it all though I had constant struggles with all the ball trap cages I tried. Chaffing, irritation, inability to pee conveniently, etc. and the lockups started to get more distant especially with me unable to wear the cage at work because I require the ability to pee outside sometimes at work and I have never found a ball trap cage that lets me do anything but sit to pee as not to make a mess. Eventually my wife gets pregnant and the cage fades away. Fast forward to present day and my son is 1 year old and things are sorta finding a new rhythm for us again. I began to get interested in digging up the old cage again and getting back into it. However instantly I was reminded of the old hassles and pains that came with it. So with a heavy heart I resigned myself to the thought of never caging seriously again. That’s when I stumbled upon a picture of a strange looking device. It turned out to be a craverise shaft only cage. This peaked my interest and I began to research which led me to this page and all of you fine people.
Main discussion:
Ok so last night I had work my new Amazon shaft only cage all the live long day and it was now bed time. The wife had fallen asleep but I was restless and decided to hop on Reddit and do some good old fashioned gooning for a while. Well after a bit I start to get erect so I lower my underwear to kinda check things out you know for curiosity sake lol. And as I’m laying there gooning on Reddit with an erection now free from the confines of my underwear I instinctively reach down to tease myself like normal as if I didn’t have any cage on. When my hand met the covered head of my member and I didn’t feel that familiar sensation of skin on skin and the pleasures that come with that boy oh boy did I feel something new. My heart began to race as I frantically tried to pleasure myself to no avail. I couldn’t stroke, I couldn’t rub the head, I couldn’t feel anything but what in my eyes chastity is supposed to make you feel. True denial. Now I thought a ball trap cage was the way to go for this feeling but turns out for me, I didn’t know what I was missing until that moment laying in my bed unable to feel any sort of pleasurable feeling from my hand. I could move my shaft. I could touch the base but the important bits, the bits that matter… nothing. Just plastic. And this inability to do anything WHILE I WAS HARD made it wayyyy better (or worse depending on how you look at it) than any ball trap design I’ve ever had. The fact that I COULD get hard but couldn’t actually do anything about it made it all the more gloriously frustrating. And the more I lay there gooning the more my member throbbed and the more frustrated I got at not being able to chase that pleasure I was used to. Never in all my time with ball trap devices had I ever been this frustrated and happy. Eventually I was forced by this new cage to accept surrender, put my phone away, and agonizingly wait for my heart to slow and my shaft to soften before I could finally go to sleep. And in the morning? Well I was able to get right up and go stand over my toilet to release some fluids. STAND. I was able to stand! No mess! No inadvertent splashes. No pee hole being misaligned with the opening. No struggle to actually get flow because it’s a bit too tight in the small cage with some morning wood. I just… WENT! It was incredible! I took it off today to go to physical therapy as well as to clean the thing, but the fact of the matter is, I could actually easily wear this thing anywhere! I might finally have a shot at long term lockup! Real long term! I could actually get to do what my wife and I set out to do in the first place. Hand her the key and she gets to unlock me when she wants! Not because I have to work. Not because the bad ring is rubbing me raw. Not because I need to use a urinal wherever I am headed. No no no with this shaft only design she can do what we originally discussed. Only unlocking to make beautiful love to my wife. That’s a possibility now and I couldn’t be happier! I’ve ordered me a cravrise shaft only cage now (I want a HZD cage but sadly money is a bit tight right now) and I’m so excited to go to my wife and let her know what I’ve discovered. Is there a trade off? Sure in the other cages I couldn’t get hard which was nice I did enjoy that. But being able to have so much comfort and freedom plus the new frustration and denial I’m feeling from this design the trade off is absolutely worth it! Anyways I hope all of you enjoy reading my thoughts if you choose to and I hope it brings some friendly discussion in the comments. Thanks!