u/Careless_Scallion182

Hello to you, whomever you may be that is reading this now. My name is Keaton, I am a switch that leans more to the subby side. I'm looking to build a friendship with another open minded individule. I work a lot and have a very long commute to and from work, making interacting with local communities incredibly challenging.

I'm not the tallest but I at least reach 5'11ft. I have broad shoulders and glasses. I am on the heavier side but have been working on that for over a month now after some health setbacks. My eyes are green, my brows bushy but NOTHING wild like the car wash manager from breaking bad 🤣 My voice is in the middle range between deep and high, I like to sing old folksy songs but that will take time for me to be THAT comfortable. My hair is brown, and currently short with enough to comb it over to the side for more professional settings. I can grow a full, thick beard but after several months I get tired of it and shave then repeat.

I play guitar and bass guitar and am a huge music lover with some pretty niche favorite songs/artists.

For the most part I am quiet and shy but when I feel comfortable I just yap away. I want to share my interest, goals, and thoughts about the world and life. Trying to get into more reading so I can brush up on my writing due to it having become therapeutic to me. I work an office job with my own office so I am able to reply most of the day but there are gaps due to my commute being almost 2 hours to work and back from work. I don't like one worded responses but will gladly carry a conversation if I can tell the other person is genuinely interested, otherwise I start to feel as if I am overbearing.

I want to create a safe, judgement free space for us to enjoy. Your input is greatly desired as I myself am still learning. Consent is mandatory and I will never try to do/talk about anything that is uncomfortable. We all have boundries and I want to respect that and receive the same consideration for my boundries. I am open minded and willing to discuss/answer any questions you may have. If we are compatible, I would love to spend my days as a positive reinforcement for you. I do like to lovebomb but that is because I am a little bit old fashioned with romance (but plenty progressive so no worries!) You will receive good morning texts, good night texts, check-ups throughout the day including but not limited to, water consumption, timely meals if you get busy and forget, and just general well-being. Please tell me about your day!

A little personal goal for me would be to fall asleep on a call together but I completely understand that some are not into that. I know this is a major turnaway in today's dating sphere but I do play videogames because it at least allows me to have some sort of community with my friends, and it being a lot cheaper than so many other hobbies due to already having most of the stuff since I was a teenager so no big spending there. I would like to pick-up more hobbies but can get distracted and lose focus.

I am against AI use in our casual day-to-day interactions and most definately do not use it to speak for me. I am passionate about nature and wildlife being excessively hunted. I'm very anti-war but things like that will not be the focus point of our friendship as spending too much time reading the news can cause me to spiral and be a tad bit doom and gloom. I am sensory sensitive and I crave to hear your voice because it can drown out the noise around me and keep me focused.

I do not want to be explicit but I do send when I feel comfortable and it just makes my day to feel seen and desired. I am open to suggestion on what I send so do with that what you will. The focus point is to have a real friendship that could evolve to more with time. Explicit behavior is encouraged but I don't want every conversation to go that way. Just be real, be you. So that I can be me with no barriers or masks. (Ps can be bratty but that is purely just for attention and not in anyway trying to subvert your role) If you read this far, thank you, sincerely. I hope your day goes well and I hope to hear from you soon! With love, -Keaton

Hello to you, I hope your day is going well.

I am 25 and spent most of my time on the internet growing up, I am touched with the 'tism and discovered that I love doms because they are clear and precise with their words, along with some bad things that happened to me growing up.

From 17 to 25 I have spent my years primarily working with very little time to date or opportunity to even go out with anyone. It's soon to be 2 years since I broke up with my ex and I haven't been on a date since due to severe financial setbacks a year ago.

I have tried apps, approaching, and now even forums/subreddits but I cannot seem to catch a break anywhere. I have a 74 day streak on one app but I've only gotten close to a date maybe 1 time before I got ghosted.

So attracting a partner just feels completely out of touch but I have other concerns...

I'm a big guy, 5'11, broad shoulders you name it. I have a genuine sub side/sub space that can be triggered verbally and it is pure bliss for me to go dumb as they say.

I'm afraid to show that side of me to anyone because I already have insecurities on being masculine thanks to both of my parents so the fear of being mocked can be overwhelming.

From my perspective which is open for a different interpretation. This is not a bait or whistle of any kind it is just how I honestly feel about it from seeing media all over, male hatred is at an all-time high and I feel like I am perceived as one of the bad guys when all I strive for is a peaceful life.

I just want something I can feel safe with, where I can say I'd like to be the little spoon sometimes and where I can be held and just cry when something horrible happens. I have some medical issues which affects how I process emotions so I am very in touch with how I feel because of it and when I feel safe, will share those emotions and feelings.

I have my own life, simple but it's mine. I kinda just go to work and go home, 14 hours of my day are eaten up by work+commute so going places just to do things for fun can be draining. I have my hobbies with one of them being gaming which is something also hated right now but it allows me a cheap way to entertain myself just to pass the time.

I dated a sub and it really did not work out in the bedroom but I still made sure to fulfill her needs even though it was hard for me to truly find pleasure in it. I never complained but medicines I have to take also made it harder to finish and I would get severe anxiety that it was annoying her which made performance even worse. I stuck it out regardless because I wanted show love even if certain aspects of attraction were lost to me and that was an amazing learning point for me.

Now, even if I could magically score a date, I'm afraid of ending up like that again and having my needs misunderstood or not understood at all.

Is it just too late to find love online/in person anymore as a guy? Have things just gone so far that there is no repairing the dating scene? Even in public if I see 2 girls I'd like to approach, I would only talk to one or the other but not both because I don't want anyone to feel like they are just 2nd best.

It's all so confusing, it's don't approach us and that's perfectly fine, until you also find out that as a guy I'm the only one that is supposed to do the approaching.

Flirting? Nope never and I never go beyond just saying you are beautiful for fear of being accused of something. I have seen guys so absolutely VILE things in person but it ended up being okay because they were attractive? It just doesn't make sense, yes should mean yes and no should mean no, nothing inbetween.

I can only conclude that I am ugly and undesirable because I cannot seem to attract anyone.

Hello to you, whomever you may be that is reading this now. My name is Keaton, I am a switch that leans more to the subby side. I'm looking to build a friendship with another open minded individule. I work a lot and have a very long commute to and from work, making interacting with local communities incredibly challenging.

I'm not the tallest but I at least reach 5'11ft. I have broad shoulders and glasses. I am on the heavier side but have been working on that for over a month now after some health setbacks. My eyes are green, my brows bushy but NOTHING wild like the car wash manager from breaking bad 🤣 My voice is in the middle range between deep and high, I like to sing old folksy songs but that will take time for me to be THAT comfortable. My hair is brown, and currently short with enough to comb it over to the side for more professional settings. I can grow a full, thick beard but after several months I get tired of it and shave then repeat.

I play guitar and bass guitar and am a huge music lover with some pretty niche favorite songs/artists.

For the most part I am quiet and shy but when I feel comfortable I just yap away. I want to share my interest, goals, and thoughts about the world and life. Trying to get into more reading so I can brush up on my writing due to it having become therapeutic to me. I work an office job with my own office so I am able to reply most of the day but there are gaps due to my commute being almost 2 hours to work and back from work. I don't like one worded responses but will gladly carry a conversation if I can tell the other person is genuinely interested, otherwise I start to feel as if I am overbearing.

I want to create a safe, judgement free space for us to enjoy. Your input is greatly desired as I myself am still learning. Consent is mandatory and I will never try to do/talk about anything that is uncomfortable. We all have boundries and I want to respect that and receive the same consideration for my boundries. I am open minded and willing to discuss/answer any questions you may have. If we are compatible, I would love to spend my days as a positive reinforcement for you. I do like to lovebomb but that is because I am a little bit old fashioned with romance (but plenty progressive so no worries!) You will receive good morning texts, good night texts, check-ups throughout the day including but not limited to, water consumption, timely meals if you get busy and forget, and just general well-being. Please tell me about your day!

A little personal goal for me would be to fall asleep on a call together but I completely understand that some are not into that. I know this is a major turnaway in today's dating sphere but I do play videogames because it at least allows me to have some sort of community with my friends, and it being a lot cheaper than so many other hobbies due to already having most of the stuff since I was a teenager so no big spending there. I would like to pick-up more hobbies but can get distracted and lose focus.

I am against AI use in our casual day-to-day interactions and most definately do not use it to speak for me. I am passionate about nature and wildlife being excessively hunted. I'm very anti-war but things like that will not be the focus point of our friendship as spending too much time reading the news can cause me to spiral and be a tad bit doom and gloom. I am sensory sensitive and I crave to hear your voice because it can drown out the noise around me and keep me focused.

I do not want to be explicit but I do send when I feel comfortable and it just makes my day to feel seen and desired. I am open to suggestion on what I send so do with that what you will. The focus point is to have a real friendship that could evolve to more with time. Explicit behavior is encouraged but I don't want every conversation to go that way. Just be real, be you. So that I can be me with no barriers or masks. (Ps can be bratty but that is purely just for attention and not in anyway trying to subvert your role) If you read this far, thank you, sincerely. I hope your day goes well and I hope to hear from you soon! With love, -Keaton

Hello to you, whomever you may be that is reading this now. My name is Keaton, I am a switch that leans more to the subby side. I'm looking to build a friendship with another open minded individule. I work a lot and have a very long commute to and from work, making interacting with local communities incredibly challenging.

I'm not the tallest but I at least reach 5'11ft. I have broad shoulders and glasses. I am on the heavier side but have been working on that for over a month now after some health setbacks. My eyes are green, my brows bushy but NOTHING wild like the car wash manager from breaking bad 🤣 My voice is in the middle range between deep and high, I like to sing old folksy songs but that will take time for me to be THAT comfortable. My hair is brown, and currently short with enough to comb it over to the side for more professional settings. I can grow a full, thick beard but after several months I get tired of it and shave then repeat.

I play guitar and bass guitar and am a huge music lover with some pretty niche favorite songs/artists.

For the most part I am quiet and shy but when I feel comfortable I just yap away. I want to share my interest, goals, and thoughts about the world and life. Trying to get into more reading so I can brush up on my writing due to it having become therapeutic to me. I work an office job with my own office so I am able to reply most of the day but there are gaps due to my commute being almost 2 hours to work and back from work. I don't like one worded responses but will gladly carry a conversation if I can tell the other person is genuinely interested, otherwise I start to feel as if I am overbearing.

I want to create a safe, judgement free space for us to enjoy. Your input is greatly desired as I myself am still learning. Consent is mandatory and I will never try to do/talk about anything that is uncomfortable. We all have boundries and I want to respect that and receive the same consideration for my boundries. I am open minded and willing to discuss/answer any questions you may have. If we are compatible, I would love to spend my days as a positive reinforcement for you. I do like to lovebomb but that is because I am a little bit old fashioned with romance (but plenty progressive so no worries!) You will receive good morning texts, good night texts, check-ups throughout the day including but not limited to, water consumption, timely meals if you get busy and forget, and just general well-being. Please tell me about your day!

A little personal goal for me would be to fall asleep on a call together but I completely understand that some are not into that. I know this is a major turnaway in today's dating sphere but I do play videogames because it at least allows me to have some sort of community with my friends, and it being a lot cheaper than so many other hobbies due to already having most of the stuff since I was a teenager so no big spending there. I would like to pick-up more hobbies but can get distracted and lose focus.

I am against AI use in our casual day-to-day interactions and most definately do not use it to speak for me. I am passionate about nature and wildlife being excessively hunted. I'm very anti-war but things like that will not be the focus point of our friendship as spending too much time reading the news can cause me to spiral and be a tad bit doom and gloom. I am sensory sensitive and I crave to hear your voice because it can drown out the noise around me and keep me focused.

I do not want to be explicit but I do send when I feel comfortable and it just makes my day to feel seen and desired. I am open to suggestion on what I send so do with that what you will. The focus point is to have a real friendship that could evolve to more with time. Explicit behavior is encouraged but I don't want every conversation to go that way. Just be real, be you. So that I can be me with no barriers or masks. (Ps can be bratty but that is purely just for attention and not in anyway trying to subvert your role) If you read this far, thank you, sincerely. I hope your day goes well and I hope to hear from you soon! With love, -Keaton

Hello, I hope whomever may be reading this is having a good day. I'm 25M switch but I lean on the subby side. I work a lot and do not have any connections really to hit social spots. I quit drinking almost 2 years ago so that makes it even hard to go to social settings. I need a dom because I need emotional grounding, I live an quiet life but it feels so much better when I have someone to make proud. I've tried Fetlife, discords, and several dating apps but I'm not the best looking so I don't get matches. I'm strong and fight to make it through each day, but I just want a safety net, a caring dom that I can just melt at the sound of their voice..yearn in the absense of communication. I'm independent and take care of myself but my intent isn't to just dump my life problems on but to have a safe place where the mask comes off and I can just breathe in their essence. Does anyone have any direction, or advice for me?