Being married for 20 years at the time when we opened our marriage, my wife and I truly really knew each other. We experienced life (becoming parents, owning homes, starting and selling businesses, etc.), we were real to each other. There was no unnecessary pleasantries or phoniness, as most married couples get to this point. I remember when we first met - she spoke to me with a different voice, was overly friendly/interested and couldn’t get enough of me. As expected, this flame dims over time and I don’t fault her for that.
I think one of the most unexpected turn ons for me was seeing my wife revert back to a lot of her behaviors from when we first met. Some often things I noticed were:
-The voice she would use (upbeat, smiling while speaking) she would use when I’d hear her on the phone or in the room with her new guy (I dislike the word ‘bull’).
-Once we opened our marriage, she’d never left the house without her make up and hair done (including when she’d go to the gym, where she’d typically throw her hair in a tie and wear little to no make up)
-She took baths daily and would routinely use smell like body spray and sweat perfume.
-Her clothes changed. She was always ultra-fit, but her conservative way of dressing wouldn’t allow you to believe it. Feeling desired by men half her age (she was 46 when we opened our marriage just before Covid), she began dressing with more form fitting clothes (particularly Lululemon tights and similar).
-She was always very feminine with amazing self-care, but her nails, tan and hair were always on point.
It was so rewarding to see her change her entire mindset because of the introduction of new cock into our marriage. What subtle changes did you notice in your wife that you found to be a turn on?
Recently subscribed to his site again (after a few years) and the wife and I love it (she uses a large black dildo we named “Moby” while enjoying his full scenes). It is likely the closest I’ll ever get to come seeing her with him (praying for a miracle), but this fun that we’ve been having has been phenomenal. Anyone else do something similar?
When we finally decided to open the marriage a bit, the conversation became about who does my wife of 20+ years sleep with? We looked at the people in our life as options and we both knew of a guy that was a student in her fitness classes that was smitten with her. His fantasy came to life and it turned out to be such a rewarding relationship, despite the 19 year age difference. She described it as “sleeping with an obsessed fan”, but I really attribute that first experience with him to being the catalyst for what would follow for the next half a year of fun. Having someone like that, that you can trust and she is attracted to, that has a built-up feeling of lust toward my wife certainly made things a lot easier to ease into.
When we were welcoming men into bed with her, she was certainly shocked to see how many men were so interested. This has to do with our life pre-marriage, where she only had two partners and never really did well with men. I would say she certainly blossomed after we were married (healthy living and exercise in your 40s does wonders). The fact that men 20 years younger than her were going wild for her certainly boosted her confidence and made her aware of her intoxicating sexual prowess. This was definitely one of the best benefits of the entire ride - she changed as a person.
The primary changes in my wife after we opened our marriage several years ago have all been positive.
Like any marriage of 20+ years, things became stale and somewhat complacent (the love never died, it just became “routine”).
I found us having sex 1 to 2 times per month and I recognized I wasn’t satisfying her, at least to a level I know she desired and deserved. I would also finish before she did and very rarely was able to go a second time. One day while looking at her Facebook, I saw her and a guy that she dated in high school decades ago making an inside joke that she reacted with a heart emoji. That innocuous exchange was the catalyst that turned me on and I realized I got turned on by the fact of thinking with her with others. I sought out porn of women that looked like her and found myself completely turned on at the thought of her with another cock. I slowly introduced this into our relationship.
How It All Came About:
I won’t bore you with all the details, but it was hints at any chance I had, months of urging and watching hotwife porn with her when she finally said she would try it out. Privacy was important and finding out first partner, her first new cock (her 4th ever) in over 20+ years was a mission.
Who & Why:
Mark was a mid-20s semi-pro tennis player that just graduated law school who has been coming to her yoga class for nearly 2 years. It was no secret that he had a crush on her and would often find a way to talk to her after class and even helped us paint the studio. The trust was there and long story short, he was the right choice.
The First Time:
Talk about nerves - me and her were dying! But when we all got together, things fell into place. He admitted things to her regarding how he felt and for how long he felt it that we were mind blowing. He came 3x and the first load, which was across her stomach, was one of the defining moments of our relationship (I caught it in a picture and it’s probably one of my favorites).
Next Steps:
Over the course of 5 1/2 months (Nov 2019 - Mar 2020), she was with 11 different guys, eight of which we knew from real life (three we met online). She had 1 African American gentleman and also spent the night with a few (with me there of course). The guys ranged from 26-38. I never gotten involved directly and try to always keep my distance, I was primarily focused on taking photos from across the room or trying to get in close if I really wanted to capture the essence of the beautiful sex that was happening in front of me. I literally have hundreds of photos as each experience was unique and special. We are fortunate in that we do not have any complaints about any of the experiences that we had. I have amazing experiences, stories and photos.
What Changed In Her:
Talk about a woman getting her mojo back! The way she dressed and talked became more confident. I saw the swagger return. Knowing how men so much younger desired her was such a turn on for us.
It sounds crazy to say, but it truly reinvigorated our marriage made her a lot happier. It’s been since COVID lockdowns, but the afterglow still burns bright. Just thought I’d share.
But(t) after discovering this forum, I understand a bit more. She wasn’t able to at the moment he asked for it (it was while they were 69ing), but she did do so in her sleep and he went rabid from it.
My wife had a 5.5 month run where she was with 11 men in that span. The first one we welcomed into our marital bed was a 27 year old friend from her yoga class that was smitten with her for two years (she was 46) and there was just something incredible about the way they fit together. Like two pieces of a puzzle snugly interlocking. I sit here reminiscing and reminding myself of some of the sweet memories we had in awe of how she looked with him in her (and he wasn’t the biggest she had, it just worked). Every marriage should be so lucky.
For me, it was the first person my wife was with post marriage. It was a guy that we knew for nearly 2 years from her fitness class. It was evident he had a crush on her and he was the first person I suggested when we decided to open up our marriage. I will never forget the first time they got in the 69 position and he said “I have dreamed and fantasized about this moment for two years.” Something about him saying that drove me wild, especially after the fact. She described it as having sex with a fan practically, even though no one here is famous. It was evident how much he enjoyed it, and how much it meant to me and her to share that. What trivial moment in your wife’s experiences has grabbed you?
Many of them are still friends with her and exchange pleasantries, likes and an occasional comment. It’s crazy how much has changed since just before COVID (we opened our marriage from Nov 2019 - Mar 2020) and seeing this change is remarkable. Anyone else appreciate this sort of thing?
For us, we had an extensive pre-date routine we would follow from the moment she woke up. I would ensure that she had an stress-free day where she was pampered, felt prepared, knew how much I loved her, and felt she was at her most beautiful. Especially when she first started meeting men, the nerves really overtook her so this regimen that we had mitigated those feelings and got her over the finish line every time.
The other thing I would do while they were actually having sex (other than take pictures) is make sure they had adequate drinks (on three or four occasions, I had to go grab them drinks while they were going at it (including refilling their champagne glasses while she was in the hot tub with her much younger boyfriend). There was something so hot about that to me. What would you do as a husband to help maximize pleasure?
For us, we had an extensive pre-date routine we would follow from the moment she woke up. I would ensure that she had an stress-free day where she was pampered, felt prepared, knew how much I loved her, and felt she was at her most beautiful. Especially when she first started meeting men, the nerves really overtook her so this regimen that we had mitigated those feelings and got her over the finish line every time.
The other thing I would do while they were actually having sex (other than take pictures) is make sure they had adequate drinks (on three or four occasions, I had to go grab them drinks while they were going at it (including refilling their champagne glasses while she was in the hot tub with her much younger boyfriend). There was something so hot about that to me. What would you do as a husband to help maximize pleasure?
There are the three for me (since I have a hard time following my own rules):
Seeing her sipping champagne in a hot tub with a guy 19 years younger than her before they made love all night.
The first time I saw another guy’s cum on her (and the elation had brought her and me).
The first time I saw a cock covered in both of their cum and juices slowly pull out of her pussy moments after they came together (in our marital bed).
There are the three for me (since I have a hard time following my own rules):
Seeing her sipping champagne in a hot tub with a guy 19 years younger than her before they made love all night.
The first time I saw another guy’s cum on her (and the elation had brought her and me).
The first time I saw a cock covered in both of their cum and juices slowly pull out of her pussy moments after they came together (in our marital bed).
Her best “asset” is her butt. Healthy living, Pilates and lots of yoga have this 52 year old mama of three turning all the heads of the twenty-something year olds.
As an overly sensual person, I really get off on her natural scent and to actually smell her instead of soaps or body sprays. Over the years, there were times she would really play into this, but a lot of the time she prefers to be freshly cleaned unfortunately. Curious if there’s any other like-minded folks out there?
My wife only did a few overnights, all of which I was there, but her primary anxiety was “natural body functions” needing to take place while on her date. Hell, it was a few years before I ever heard her pass wind, but her main concern was always having to use the bathroom in a small hotel room with a date.
I know it’s a crazy question, but wanted to know if anyone else can relate?
My wife’s favorite consistency date was a guy 19 years younger. He had a crush on her for nearly 2 years and once we opened the door, he maximized his opportunity (and we all benefited). Seeing him and her in a hot tub at a resort sipping champagne and just talking is one of my favorite moments in the lifestyle.
But would love to understand what couples do do you prepare for a date, if there’s anything unique or special that goes into it?
For me, they were both from the first experience…
“His cock is so hard” - my wife to me the first time he put it on her (her first new cock in two decades)
Or
“You’re the best sex I ever had” - moments after my 46 year old wife had sex with a 27 year old friend in our bed.