im a M36 from the Netherlands and its 01:00 AM but i cant sleep anymore. im looking for a normal chat to kill time a bit until i maybe can sleep again. i am totally new with lovense, so i have no experience yet. i just recieved my first toy yesterday.
So this week i did buy a new toy. i have been looking forward to it for a long time. and im so excited that i finally have it since yesterday. Its a toy someone else can control over a distance.
So it had me wondering... off course dom/sub would be best when physically together. but when being on a distance from each, how much control would a domme want to have over her sub? And in what form? And do you make any agreements over that?
I have today finally recieved a new toy that i was looking forward to for a long time. Im really excited about it.
But while i was thinking about it a question rose up to me for the Dommes. Does the sub needs to buy his/her own toys, or do you buy as a domme the toys for your sub.
In interested in your choice and the motivation behind it.
EDIT: Do you include any other special rules? for example: The sub ALWAYS cleans the toys.
Dear reader,
first off all thank you for taking a moment of your time to read this post. I appreciate it. If you have any questions or other feedback after reading my personal story then feel free to speak it out. Also any insight or advice are very welcome.
So, my story..... I have been in a emotional unpleasant situation for a couple of years. I am the first born of my parents. My parents divorced when i was 15 years old, and i am now 36. At some point in life the connection between my mom started to fade away. I have the idea it started when she got her new husband. I have tried really hard to re-establish contact a few years ago, but my mother did not want to put any effort into it and because of that she does not seem to have any interest to keep in touch with me. So about 3 years ago, i gave up trying. It had no use to keep trying to rebuild the connection. The connection has been broken since then. With that something emotionally started to change in me. And i have now come on a point where i need to speak out and ask for insights/advice/guidance.
Let me make this clear first. i am not looking for a replacement of my mother. i know that nobody can replace her as a mother. But her being absent in my life leaves me with an emotional hole in my soul. I miss the place where i can feel that i am at home, that i am at the place where i belong and that i have someone near who can guide me or point me in the directions where i need to go. Someone who takes care of me and protects me emotionally. Someone where i can go to when i have done something bad and have to face the consequences. A person who i can just call and tell how my day was. It has so many levels and layers to it.
So i am questioning myself where i need to go to be able to handle this situation. I just dont want to feel anymore that i am suffering from this. I just want to be happy and not feel sad because of this situation. Because it often hurts.... And to take in consideration that i have become older and also have my needs.... it just makes things difficult for me.
The question for me is what do i need to do with this situation? i cant keep walking around with it. It eats me from the inside. Thats why i am asking for insights and advice. So if you have a perspective on this situation, i would be happy to listen to what you have to say. And again, thank you for taking some time to read this. I realy appreciate it, thank you.
Dear reader,
first off all thank you for taking a moment of your time to read this post. I appreciate it. If you have any questions or other feedback after reading my personal story then feel free to speak it out. Also any insight or advice are very welcome.
So, my story..... I have been in a emotional unpleasant situation for a couple of years. I am the first born of my parents. My parents divorced when i was 15 years old, and i am now 36. At some point in life the connection between my mom started to fade away. I have the idea it started when she got her new husband. I have tried really hard to re-establish contact a few years ago, but my mother did not want to put any effort into it and because of that she does not seem to have any interest to keep in touch with me. So about 3 years ago, i gave up trying. It had no use to keep trying to rebuild the connection. The connection has been broken since then. With that something emotionally started to change in me. And i have now come on a point where i need to speak out and ask for insights/advice/guidance.
Let me make this clear first. i am not looking for a replacement of my mother. i know that nobody can replace her as a mother. But her being absent in my life leaves me with an emotional hole in my soul. I miss the place where i can feel that i am at home, that i am at the place where i belong and that i have someone near who can guide me or point me in the directions where i need to go. Someone who takes care of me and protects me emotionally. Someone where i can go to when i have done something bad and have to face the consequences. A person who i can just call and tell how my day was. It has so many levels and layers to it.
So i am questioning myself where i need to go to be able to handle this situation. I just dont want to feel anymore that i am suffering from this. I just want to be happy and not feel sad because of this situation. Because it often hurts.... And to take in consideration that i have become older and also have my needs.... it just makes things difficult for me.
The question for me is what do i need to do with this situation? i cant keep walking around with it. It eats me from the inside. Thats why i am asking for insights and advice. So if you have a perspective on this situation, i would be happy to listen to what you have to say. And again, thank you for taking some time to read this. I realy appreciate it, thank you.