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My wife and I had been discussing and role playing sharing her for a while and she initially started with it to support my fantasy but had been getting more and more into it with more research and thought. We got to the point where she wanted to find a guy to float the idea by and feel out for a connection.

She had two men that she was vibing on via text that she was seeing herself fucking, including an in person date with one of the men, and an invitation to join us at our hotel room. But both situations took turns that made it apparent that either of these men were going to be viable options. Which was for the best and we moved on but now that it’s been some time, she has mentioned wanting to try again but is having doubts about getting excited for it not to happen again.

Any suggestions on navigating this together. How can I both support her concerns and her desire to try again?

Not sure what I am asking for her, if not some clarity and confirmation. My wife and I have had this fantasy for a few years to varying degrees but a few years ago after I got a vasectomy, something changed for both of us. She came off all birth control and it brought her sex drive up a notch and I developed the want of seeing her fucked without a condom.

I never thought too much about it before but now it would be a requirement for both of us. She has already told me she wants the other man to come inside her and my job would be to have the plan b pill.
We don’t want a pregnancy but I need to see her filled by another man and that new development is messing with my mind.

I think that hand jobs have gotten a bad reputation over the years as compared to other forms of sex but how do they appear in your marriage?

My wife has a way to make them an integral part of our sex life and I don’t think I could be happy without them. Where is all the HJ love?

This thought comes from the “where did you learn that” line of thinking. My wife broke out some new techniques in bed and after asking her about it I found that we are both in the same boat. We, independently one another, have been doing research around techniques, kinks, and gathering advice to continue to keep things interesting. YouTube channels, podcasts, Facebook groups, smut books etc.

How are other couples who have been together for a while doing to continue to learn about themselves and sex?

After almost 20 years together it makes me feel great that my wife and I can still have notable nights together that still can surprise us. And last night is going to be remembered for a long time.

Eating my wife’s ass is always a favorite for me and I took my wife on her, until she was ready to take a finger in her hole. Feeling her orgasm with my finger in her was notable enough for me but then she turned the tables on me. She threw me on my back and started to blow me while she teased my asshole with her fingers. She waited until she felt me tensing up to cum to slide her finger inside me to push on my prostate as i came. She couldn’t help but laugh at me as I sputtered and spasmed for one of the longest orgasms I can remember.

My wife and I have been roleplaying and fantasizing about her getting fucked for a while and I have maintained that it centers around seeing her get pleasure I can’t provide. We have a great sex life but I know that there are things she is missing out on that another man could provide. And I got a sobering reminder of that last night.

We found ourselves curled up with one another with her naked ass against my naked cock and she kept reaching back to guide me into her but it was not happening. After we were done I asked her about it and she said that she wanted me to feel how wet she was. I told her that i wasn’t big enough to make that angle work and she said “That’s one thing I can try with a bigger dick”. I loved her thinking but am still processing the realization that this is getting closer.

My wife and I had an intense session last night that was full of intimacy and deep connection. Apart from the closeness we feel post sex, it was one of the few times I have felt an overwhelming amount of pride in what I brought to the bedroom. I was able to make my wife orgasm for the first time with just my voice. The only other time I felt this way was after the first time I made her squirt.

Do others have things like this that bring out your confidence, ego, and pride after sex?

This question is driven by a joke from this weeks SNL, how often are you seeing your SO’s butthole? Are there really couples out there who can say they have never seen their spouse’s asshole?

I have seen my wife’s a 100x more than she has seen mine but it has to happen for everyone, right?

My wife and I have been discussing the dynamic for a while and she has put out a few feelers with a couple of men we knew. She did some sexting and had a date with one guy but it never progressed with either guy and we left it at that. Life moved on but we started talking about it again.

When I got home from work the other day, she had a smile on her face and told me that she did something. She showed me an introduction post with pictures that she made, identifying herself as a married woman wanting to find a man with my blessing. It’s promising to see her taking the next steps even though it may not bear fruit yet. It was a fun feeling seeing her responding to a few replies that she got while my mind starts to wander.

My wife and I have been together 18 years and overall have had a great relationship with solid sex but of course have had stretches where we don’t see eye to eye. And we have been having one of those stretches with intimacy challenges and frustrations that we both have been feeling. But we found our way through it with a rougher than usual fucking that went harder and faster than normal.

It obviously felt great to have that connection again but I don’t know if I love how it went down. It was passionate and angry, which may be unhealthly but has seemed to be effective to get us over the rut. Things were said by both of us during it, she left with some bruises, I left with some scratches, and I keep replaying the moment I was thrusting into her and saw my hand wrapped around her throat, pinning her down. It sounds bad on paper but she loved the passion and the emotional cathartics we both felt.