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Without going into too much detail, I watched my wife experience an orgasm with ZERO physical stimulation while giving me oral in a unique setting over the weekend. She also experienced several similar orgasms in different settings during the same weekend. Yesterday, when I discussed it with her and confirmed what I thought I saw, she shrugged and essentially told me that it happens often, and that it’s normal. First of all, I need to pay more attention, apparently.

Secondly, a question for the ladies: are non-stimulation orgasms a normal thing for y’all?!

I’m guessing that she MIGHT have experienced a coregasm from her tightening her abs plus the hot af situation we were in, but… y’all getting these on the reg?

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My wife took an edible before we went to bed the other night that hit harder than usual. She ate it, we started getting frisky in the spoon position, and then I realized that she was no longer moaning (I was being relatively gentle in my thrusts).

I came pretty quickly after I sped up my thrusts (she started moaning again when I shifted gears), but then I realized something: she had fallen asleep halfway through our session.

NOTE: Before anyone claims this is non-consensual, she has explicitly told me over the years that not only does she not have a problem me taking her while she’s sleeping, but it turns her on.

The next morning, I asked her and confirmed that she had indeed fallen asleep. I told her that I wasn’t aware that she did, and finished inside of her. She smiled, let out a little “Mmmmm”, and got ready for the day.

We haven’t done that in probably 20 years. What a nice resurrection of that kink!

For the past few years, my wife has slowly (but eagerly) become my free use (monogamous) submissive in the bedroom completely, and out of the bedroom mostly (we have teen children, aren’t trying to make things weird for them). Over the last few weeks, she has done a few things that have cemented our roles, such as calling me “sir” consistently instead of her normal “pet name” for me, giving me full control of her finances and schedule, and being open to a more advanced level of “risqué” during our upcoming child-free vacation in a couple of weeks (this is surprising, bc she’s been EXTREMELY nervous about our visit to a “spicy resort”).

ETA: I wont go into specifics about our sex life, but over the same timespan, we’ve similarly cemented our individual roles in that capacity as well.

As both a reward and a symbol of her submission/my ownership of her, I’ve purchased her what I call a “beginner’s belonging necklace” for our trip. The rest of the world calls it a day collar, but that title makes her uneasy, so we’ll call the rose another name. I told her about it last night; she tried to play it cool, but I could tell she got a bit excited. She has even been buying more revealing bikinis for the trip, and has hinted that she would be more than willing to go topless in the pool (she had that as a hard stop until recently). All of her submission and my free use of her has truly made our marriage magical.

And I sit here thinking to myself, “If it weren’t for the stigmas and ignorance of this lifestyle, how many marriages would this same arrangement help/save?” In a society where we have 50% divorce rates and 20-30 somethings refusing to marry bc they “haven’t discovered who [they] are yet”, I’ve found that getting married and evolving together, as opposed to trying desperately to find someone who you’re perfectly compatible with from the start, is the answer (HOLY RUNON SENTENCES, BATMAN!).

But I may be mistaken. Did you and your spouse enter the marriage already as D/s, or did the two of you eventually evolve into the roles you have? Did it help your marriage, or was it just a fun bonus?